Caring for someone diagnosed with Cancer? It can be a daunting and overwhelming experience when you suddenly fall into the role of a cancer carer. It is like nothing you could have prepared for, but when someone tells you they have been diagnosed then you are hit by a range of emotions.

You want to react out of desperation, but guilt stops you because you feel you cant compare what the cancer patient is going through. It is important you find out as much information and support as possible. Not just for the person you are caring for, but also for yourself. As mentioned before, emotions a carer can go through can be a rollarcoster ride. Its like you are in a constant state of alert for when things will improve or either ……. become worse.

If you are supporting someone with cancer. Certainly ask around for emotional support. This could be through MacMillan, through your GP or at the local carers centre. Carers should not be forgotten due to the role they play. Carers are part of the team and can make a big difference when someone is coping with Cancer.

You might also want to try find information on extra support at home, so it is important you speak to hospital services or social support. Of course these things take time and there is no magic wand to navigate a complex care system under pressure.

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With the above challenges, it helps to join a carers group, preferably a group that also has those caring for someone with cancer. This is where you can learn from others. You can feel you are connected, find coping techniques, learn about services and developing a plan for the future. Avoid coping in isolation since information can make it easier for your role.

You might also need to advocate and communicate between the patient and the health care team. It can be a tricky role since not all cancers are the same, so it helps to learn as much as you can. Never be afraid to ask important questions.

If you are in the London area, I am starting a new group aimed at cancer carers. You can find out more about the group

From my carer forum page link below and then click on the forum name,

Carer forums

In the meantime below are links that could be useful for finding support.

Brain Tumour Support – http://www.braintumoursupport.co.uk
Cancer Support UK – http://www.cancersupportuk.org
Cancer Research UK – http://www.cancerresearchuk.org
Carers Trust – http://www.carers.org/
Carers UK – http://www.carersuk.org/
Charity Choice – http://www.charitychoice.co.uk
Macmillan – http://www.macmillan.org.uk
Marie Curie – http://www.mariecurie.org.uk
NHS – http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/cancer/