On a brisk November afternoon, unpaid mental health carers across Greenwich gathered once again, not just to share experiences, but to seek answers, influence services, and strengthen community. Facilitated by long-time carer advocate Matthew McKenzie, the forum brought together carers, relatives, professionals, and two guest speakers from Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust.
As I explained when opening the meeting, the purpose of the forum is twofold connection and influence:
November’s session featured two speakers:
✅ Speaker 1 — Lorraine Regan
Director for Community Mental Health, Learning Disabilities & Autism, Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust
✅ Speaker 2 — Janice Williamson
Carer Involvement Lead, Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust
Both provided insight into service pressures, carer involvement, policy development, training, assessments, and support improvements happening across the trust.
Speaker Introduction — Lorraine Regan
Lorraine opened by introducing her background and role:
Welcome back to another Carer Champion interview. Carers play an essential role in our society, often operating behind the scenes and without pay. In this interview, we meet Maz, a volunteer with Carers UK, who sheds light on the nature of unpaid care work, the challenges carers face, and the significant support networks available for them. Let’s dive into her invaluable insights.
To watch the video, please click play on the video below.
The Hidden Army of Carers
Maz describes unpaid carers as a “hidden army” that tirelessly provides care for loved ones, often without much recognition or support. Unlike professional care workers who are trained and compensated for their services, unpaid carers usually step into the role out of necessity and affection for those they care for. Maz herself is an example of a “sandwich carer,” a term used for someone who cares for both their elderly parents and their adult children.
Welcome to another carer educational and carer awareness blog post from carer activist matthew mckenzie. This time I present about the top tips for using carer centers as an unpaid carer.
This time we shall explore the comprehensive support provided by care centers for unpaid carers, from access to information to emotional support and practical advice. Learn how these centers help in navigating the healthcare system, offer specialized services, and promote carer well-being.
Remember, you can watch my video presentation which has a lot more detailed information (51 minutes) of educational resources aimed at unpaid carers.
Introduction
Caring for someone with long-term ill health or specific needs due to conditions like autism can be a demanding and often isolating role. As a care activist, I aim to illuminate the invaluable resources available to unpaid carers through Carer Centers across the UK. This guide delves into the myriad support services, emotional and peer networks, skill development programs, and practical advice that Carer Centers offer. Whether you are new to the caregiving journey or have been providing care for years, this information can empower you to navigate this challenging yet fulfilling role.
Access to Information and Resources
The Role of Carer Centers
Carer Centers are pivotal in providing unpaid carers with vital information and resources. They furnish up-to-date leaflets, guides, and access to workshops that cover various topics, including benefits, entitlements, healthcare options, and legal rights. This information empowers carers to make informed decisions about their caregiving responsibilities and the needs of those they care for.
Importance of Updated Information
Having current and relevant information is crucial for carers. Whether it’s about the latest benefits or new health services available, staying informed helps carers to plan effectively and manage their responsibilities better. Carer Centers strive to provide this information comprehensively and accessibly.
Emotional and Peer Support Networks
Managing Isolation and Emotional Strain
Caregiving often brings emotional strain and isolation. Carer Centers offer counseling services, although availability can vary due to funding constraints. Where accessible, one-on-one emotional support services help carers manage the emotional ups and downs of their role.
Peer Support Groups
Peer support groups are a cornerstone of emotional support. These groups allow carers to connect with others in similar situations, share experiences, and gain practical advice. Whether in-person or online, these sessions foster a sense of community and collective understanding.
Skills Training and Advocacy
Essential Skills Development
Carer Centers provide essential training workshops. These can include medication management, stress handling techniques, and specialized skills such as dementia care or effective communication with individuals with mental health conditions. These workshops equip carers with the tools they need to provide effective care.
Advocacy Services
Advocacy is a crucial, though sometimes scarce, service provided by Carer Centers. Advocates assist carers in representing their needs with local authorities and healthcare providers. This support can be invaluable when navigating the complex healthcare and social care systems.
Respite Care and Financial Support
Importance of Respite Care
Respite care services, though increasingly rare, are essential for preventing carer burnout. Carer Centers help arrange respite care, ensuring that carers can take essential breaks while their loved ones receive quality care.
Financial Guidance
Carer Centers offer advice on financial support, such as applying for carer’s allowance and accessing local grants. This financial assistance helps alleviate some of the financial strain that comes with caregiving responsibilities.
Legal Rights and Practical Care Advice
Access to Legal Rights
Understanding legal rights is fundamental for carers. Carer Centers provide information on powerful attorney, guardianship, and other legal aspects related to caregiving. These rights ensure that carers can make informed decisions and manage their caregiving responsibilities more effectively.
Practical Advice
Carer Centers also offer practical advice on aspects of caregiving, including personal care techniques and communication strategies. This advice helps carers improve their caregiving skills and better address the challenges they face.
Breaks and Activities, One-to-One Support
Organizing Social Activities
Organizing social activities, such as art workshops or short trips, allows carers to relax and socialize. These activities are crucial for maintaining a sense of normalcy and social engagement, which helps prevent isolation.
One-to-One Support
One-to-one support services, where available, provide personalized guidance tailored to the individual needs of carers. This personalized attention can make a significant difference in managing the unique challenges of each caregiving situation.
Specialized Support Groups
Support for Young Carers
Young carers face unique challenges, balancing caregiving with education and personal growth. Specialized support groups provide young carers with the resources and community they need to navigate these challenges successfully.
Support for Minority Groups
Carer Centers also offer specialized services for minority groups and those who are unwell themselves but have caregiving responsibilities. These services ensure that all carers, regardless of their specific circumstances, receive the support they need.
Stress Management and Health Resources
Stress Management Workshops
Carer Centers frequently offer workshops on stress management, mindfulness, and relaxation techniques. These resources are invaluable for helping carers cope with the emotional and physical stress of caregiving.
Promoting Physical Health
In addition to emotional support, Carer Centers promote physical health through exercise classes, health check-ups, and nutrition advice. These programs ensure that carers take care of their own health, which is often neglected due to caregiving demands.
Navigating the Healthcare System
Understanding Care Plans
Navigating the healthcare system can be daunting. Carer Centers assist carers in understanding care plans, medications, and treatments for their loved ones. This support helps carers make informed decisions and advocate effectively for their loved ones.
Accessing Specific Services
Carer Centers help carers access specific health services, navigate legal and healthcare bureaucracy, and advocate for their needs. This assistance can be particularly valuable when dealing with complex healthcare systems.
Housing and Home Adaptations
Physical Modifications
Carer Centers provide advice on adapting homes to make caregiving easier. This might include physical modifications like installing fall alarms or home adaptations to improve mobility and safety.
Technological Aids
Technological aids, such as monitoring systems, can significantly enhance caregiving. Carer Centers advise on and sometimes provide these technologies, helping carers maintain a safe and efficient caregiving environment.
Carer Assessments and Wellbeing Services
Accessing Formal Assessments
Carer assessments are vital for identifying the support and financial aid that carers may be entitled to. These assessments help in planning caregiving roles and addressing the specific challenges that carers face.
Wellbeing Services
Wellbeing services include exercise classes, nutrition advice, and support groups. These services are designed to improve the physical and mental health of carers, providing a supportive environment for sharing experiences and managing stress.
Conclusion
In conclusion, Carer Centers offer a wealth of support and information for unpaid carers. These services range from practical advice and skills training to emotional support and advocacy. While resources vary, the dedication of Carer Center staff and the availability of diverse programs make a significant difference in the lives of carers. If you are a carer, registering at your local Carer Center can provide essential support and enhance your caregiving role, helping you navigate this challenging journey with confidence and resilience.
Welcome back to another blog post from carer activist Matthew McKenzie. I am involved in quite a few things to raise awareness of unpaid mental health carers. One of them is Carers Trusts Triangle of Care Framework.
Triangle of Care is a framework developed to improve collaboration between mental health services, service users (patients), and carers. It was created by the Carers Trust in the UK, focusing on involving carers (family members or friends who support individuals with mental health issues) in care and treatment decisions, while ensuring they receive the support and recognition they need.
We have many mental health trusts who are members of the Triangle of Care. One of them is Avon and Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership NHS Trust or AWP for short.
Avon and Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership NHS Trust (AWP) is the lead provider of healthcare for people with serious mental illness, learning disabilities and autism across Bath and North East Somerset (BaNES), Swindon and Wiltshire, and Bristol, North Somerset and South Gloucestershire.
With support from Laura Sheridan who leads on carers at Cygnet. We both attended and supported the event at the mental health partnership trust. I took the time to explore the wonderful area of Bristol. Everyone I met was welcoming and friendly.
AWP have taken up the challenge to implement the Triangle of care and listen to carers. One of the best ways to listen to carers is through engagement and celebration events.
So on Thursday 3rd of October Avon and Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership NHS Trust (AWP) ran their #LetsHearCarers event. The event was held over at Somerdale Pavilion, Keynsham.
The day started off with a welcome from Sarah Jones, Director of Nursing and Quality at AWP.
We then got to hear from Ayesha Ahmed-Mendoza on the Black2Nature campaign to enable minorty ethnic children to have better access to nature camps. Next I was impressed with the presentation from Elaine Bennett regarding experiences of deaf carers.
Then we had the panel of carers giving their experiences of involvement at the NHS trust. I personally feel involvement of carers shaping services is a powerful way of allowing carers to have their say.
After the break, we got to hear from Debbie Hustings who is the new Triangle of Care lead for Carers Trust. Debbie used to be the former NHS England carers lead for London and has a wealth of experience when it comes to unpaid carers. Debbie presented on carers rights as she presented with her carers hat on. Next there was a comedy session from Angie Betcher who is a comedian at Bristol university, she is also skilled as a poet as well as a comedy performer.
Next was Lunch and workshops to cater for the wellbeing of carers who attended.
Have lunch I was up to read out 2 poems. One of the poems you can see from Avon and Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership NHS Trust’s video of the carer event below.
After more performances and networking with carers, I headed home. I would like to thank Avon and Whiltshire for the excellent event they put on for the community. Everything was planned brilliantly and I did not hear any grumbling from carers. I look forward to more events in future.
Welcome to another deep dive into the pressing issues faced by unpaid carers, brought to you by Matthew McKenzie, a dedicated carer activist. In today’s discussion, we confront the grim reality of how poverty exacerbates the struggles of unpaid carers.
If you want to see the short video version of this blog post, watch below
These unsung heroes often sacrifice their personal well-being to look after loved ones. However, when poverty is added to the equation, the challenges they face multiply exponentially. Throughout this article, we will explore various dimensions of the caregiving crisis, touching upon financial hardships, mental and physical health issues, social isolation, generational poverty, and more. The goal is to raise awareness and advocate for targeted support systems that can alleviate these burdens.
Financial Hardships
Income Reduction
Many unpaid carers find themselves in a predicament where they have to reduce their working hours or quit their jobs altogether to provide adequate care for their loved ones. This significant drop in income makes it difficult to meet everyday expenses, let alone the additional costs that caregiving entails, such as medical supplies and transportation.
Lack of Awareness About Financial Aid
It is troubling to note that many carers are unaware they might qualify for financial aid or benefits. This lack of awareness leaves them in a precarious financial situation, struggling to make ends meet.
Mental and Physical Health Challenges
Mental Toll
Balancing caregiving responsibilities with financial insecurity takes a severe toll on mental health. Chronic stress, anxiety, and depression become constant companions for many unpaid carers. This emotional strain can lead to a devastating cycle of mental health issues that are hard to break.
Physical Health Deterioration
Due to their all-consuming caregiving duties, many carers neglect their own physical health. They often face barriers to accessing healthcare, making it nearly impossible to afford basic medical services. This neglect further compounds their stress levels and deteriorates their overall well-being.
Lack of Respite Care
Imagine being on duty 24/7 with no opportunity for a break. The inability to afford respite care leads to inevitable burnout. This constant state of exhaustion further compromises the carer’s ability to provide quality care.
Social Isolation
Limited Social Interactions
Poverty significantly limits social interactions for carers. The costs associated with transportation and social activities create barriers that are hard to overcome. Consequently, many carers find themselves socially isolated, worsening their emotional well-being.
Stigma and Shame
The social isolation is often compounded by feelings of shame and stigma related to their financial situation. These feelings make it even harder for carers to seek help, exacerbating their sense of loneliness.
Quality of Care
Limited Resources
When resources are limited, carers struggle to provide the best possible care for their loved ones. This situation often leads to feelings of guilt and distress, knowing they cannot do more. The quality of care inevitably suffers, affecting both the carer and the care recipient.
Emotional Availability
Stress and burnout diminish the emotional availability needed for providing quality care. When carers are overwhelmed, they cannot offer the emotional support that is crucial for the well-being of their loved ones.
Generational Poverty
The Cycle of Financial Hardship
Generational poverty is another facet of this issue. Many carers look after older family members who have also faced financial hardships, creating a cycle of poverty. This intergenerational strain further depletes already limited resources, especially in households where young carers are involved.
Barriers to Education and Employment
Financial constraints and time demands make it incredibly challenging for carers to pursue education or training. Job flexibility is rarely an option, making it difficult for carers to find or keep employment. These barriers hinder their ability to break free from the cycle of poverty.
Emotional Burden
Guilt and Stress
Emotionally, carers often carry a heavy burden of guilt and stress. Feeling inadequate or ashamed of their financial situation adds to a sense of hopelessness. The constant worry about bills, care, and personal needs can lead to overwhelming exhaustion.
Navigating Complex Systems
Navigating the complex systems for financial aid and support is another layer of stress. The time and energy required to deal with bureaucratic hurdles can be overwhelming, adding yet another burden to the already strained carers.
Long-Term Consequences
Poverty in Old Age
Many carers face the grim prospect of poverty in their old age, having sacrificed their careers and savings to provide care. Chronic stress and poor health further reduce their life expectancy and quality of life.
Key Takeaways
Poverty significantly amplifies the struggles of unpaid carers. To improve their well-being, there is a pressing need for:
Targeted Support: Comprehensive support systems that address the unique challenges faced by unpaid carers.
Financial Assistance: Adequate financial aid to help carers manage their expenses.
Accessible Healthcare: Affordable healthcare services to ensure carers can maintain their physical and mental health.
Respite Care: Opportunities for respite care to prevent burnout and ensure carers have the necessary breaks.
By shedding light on these critical issues, we can advocate for changes that will make a tangible difference in the lives of unpaid carers. Let’s work together to ensure that these unsung heroes get the support they desperately need.
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Welcome to another blog post off my carer and mental health website.
Caring for a loved one is a profoundly rewarding experience, but it can also be an incredibly challenging journey. The role often comes with feelings of isolation and overwhelming responsibility.
Fortunately, networking with fellow caregivers can make a significant difference in the lives of unpaid carers. Connectivity fosters emotional support, practical advice, resource sharing, community building, resilience, and even advocacy. In this article, we’ll explore the importance of networking for unpaid carers and how it can enrich their caregiving journey.
Video Version
To watch a brief video of the blog please view the video below
Emotional Support: You Are Not Alone
One of the most significant benefits of networking is emotional support. Caring for a loved one can often feel isolating, and the weight of responsibilities can be heavy. Connecting with other caregivers who truly understand your experiences can lighten this emotional load. Sharing your stories, challenges, and triumphs with those who “get it” provides comfort and a sense of belonging. Knowing you are not alone in this journey can significantly improve mental health and resilience.
Access to Practical Advice
Networking allows carers to exchange invaluable tips and strategies. Each caregiving situation is unique, but many challenges are universal. Experienced carers can offer practical advice on managing specific conditions, navigating healthcare systems, or handling day-to-day tasks. This shared knowledge acts as a collective wisdom pool, making the caregiving process more manageable for everyone involved.
Resource Sharing
In addition to practical advice, networking facilitates the sharing of resources. Information about local services, support groups, and community resources can be invaluable. Imagine having a treasure map that leads you to various forms of support tailored for carers—this is what resource sharing can achieve. These exchanges can lead to discovering programs, grants, respite care options, and other services that ease the caregiving burden.
Community Building
Establishing connections with other caregivers fosters a sense of community and belonging. In many ways, caregiving can be a lonely journey, but community building changes this narrative. Community groups provide a space where carers can interact and engage in meaningful conversations. For example, caregiver groups run locally can offer a support system where members can share experiences, support each other, and even socialize. Such communities act as pillars of strength for carers, reinforcing that they are part of a larger, caring network.
Enhancing Resilience Through Shared Strategies
Resilience is a necessary trait for carers. The demands of caregiving require constant adaptation and emotional strength. By networking, carers can learn effective coping strategies from one another. These shared strategies can empower carers, building their resilience and enhancing their ability to provide care. Learning from others’ experiences offers new insights and techniques, reinforcing the carer’s own skills and capacities.
Boosting Advocacy and Awareness
When caregivers come together, their collective voice becomes stronger. Networking can boost advocacy and awareness of the issues that matter most to carers. Advocacy can lead to policy changes, more resources, and greater recognition of the challenges faced by carers. Whether it’s campaigning for more support services or raising awareness about the realities of caregiving, a united front can make a substantial impact.
Amplifying Voices
Together, caregivers can amplify their voices to influence change. Advocacy efforts become more effective when carers unite. These collective efforts can bring about policy changes, increased funding for caregiving resources, and greater public awareness of the importance of supporting unpaid carers. By networking and working together, carers can drive systemic changes that benefit the entire caregiving community.
Tips for Building a Caregiving Network
Join or Form Caregiver Support Groups
Consider joining or forming caregiver support groups in your local community or online. These groups create a space for regular interactions, exchanges of advice, and mutual support. You might want to check out the carer forums I run off my website.
Attend Workshops and Conferences
Workshops, seminars, and conferences are excellent opportunities to meet other carers and professionals in the field. These events often provide both educational content and networking opportunities.
Utilize Social Media
Social media platforms can also serve as networking tools. Joining caregiver groups on platforms like Facebook or participating in Twitter chats can connect you with a broad community of caregivers worldwide.
Engage with Local Nonprofits and Organizations
Local nonprofits and organizations often have resources and networks specifically designed for carers. Engage with these entities to tap into their resources and support networks.
Leverage Online Forums
Online forums and communities, such as Reddit or specialized caregiving forums, allow for the exchange of advice, experiences, and support. These platforms can be especially beneficial for those who may not have access to local groups. I even utilise Whatsapp to provide a network for carers to connect.
Reach Out to Healthcare Providers
Healthcare providers often have connections to support groups and resources for carers. Don’t hesitate to ask your loved one’s doctor or nurse for referrals to local or online caregiver networks.
Create Personal Connection Lists
Keep a list of contacts that you can reach out to for different types of support. This can include other carers, healthcare professionals, and service providers. A well-maintained list can be a quick reference for resources and advice when needed.
Conclusion
Networking for unpaid carers is more than just a beneficial activity—it’s a necessary lifeline. Emotional support, practical advice, resource sharing, community building, resilience, and advocacy are some of the many advantages that come from connecting with fellow carers. By fostering these connections, carers can significantly enrich their caregiving experience and improve their well-being and the quality of care they provide. Remember, you are not alone in this journey. Reach out, connect, and together, we can create a supportive and empowered caregiving community. Take care!
Welcome to another one of my blog posts, on this particular post I want to talk about carers. Those who have regularly visited my blog might have some idea what a carer already is, but for those who are new to my blog may wonder “what actually is a carer?” What defines a carer and why do people, families and communities sometimes feel compelled to care?
What is a carer
Someone who looks after another persons needs
Lets say you have known someone most of your life or perhaps someone in your family who has fallen ill. That person tries to do their chores and live their life without much help or support, but after a while it will be noticed by most people that they are struggling.
This is when a person decides to take on some of the responsibilities of that person that has become ill, although the carer’s main focus is to provide help, some security and care for that person.
Not all carers are the same and some have demanding caring duties, while others care on and off for a short time, but no matter what the tasks, they are all carers.
They are mostly not professional carers
When I talk about carers, I am not talking carers who train up on a course and look for people to care for. I am talking about those who find out that care is directed at them due to a family member falling ill, or a neighbour or a friend in desperate caring need. I am talking about parents looking after their children who have sustained serious injuries, disabilities or impairment. I am talking about young carers who are not only trying to understand their place in the world, but also trying to understand why their parents are in need of assistance.
Its not that carers can’t walk away from the care they give, some carers have to make that decision on what they should sacrifice. Carers may have to give up work, education, time and commitments to provide care.
Carers are known as carers because they ARE standing by their loved one. If someone moves on they can still provide some care, but it might not be as demanding as those who are currently providing long term or full time care.
Carers have to juggle many things as if their own life is slightly put on hold while they seek to understand the illness that is affecting who they care for. This is more difficult if the illness happens to be a mental illness or perhaps a devastating physical problem.
Some carers might not have a clue on what they may face and will have to look for answers or support, but we ll get on to that later.
Types of carers
I am not going to make a long list, but I will want to try define at least some of the types of carers. There are always a long list of carers you can search for on the internet, but since all carers are not the same, it makes sense to point out different types of carers.
Carers for elderly
Here we have those who will end up looking after their parents, most do this because they are concerned or worried that their loved ones will end up in a home too far away from them. Quite a lot of older people prefer to stay at home for their own independence, while others fear abuse and neglect.
Some people may wish for their parents to move on, but carers may prefer old aged parents to stay at home. You can also have older aged carers who care for their partners who are ageing. Other older aged carers also may care even for younger people.
Below is a list of symptoms carers may have to care for when looking after older aged loved ones.
List of symptoms these types of carers provide care for
Heart conditions
Dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease
Depression
Incontinence
Arthritis
Osteoporosis
Diabetes
Breathing problems
Frequent falls, which can lead to fractures
Parkinson’s disease
Cancer
Carers for the disabled
These type of carers can be of any age, but this time care can be demanding depending on the disability the caree has, when I mean caree, I am talking about the person receiving the care.
Types of disabilities a carer will have to care for.
This is not a full list, but shows what carers may need to tackle in order to provide care. I have two brothers who have Autism and providing care and safety as well as treating them with dignity can be a juggling act, but be aware Autism is a range or spectrum of disabilities.
There are also different ranges of paralysis putting strain on carers wanting to care for those who lack the function to care for themselves.
Carers for mentally ill
Another type of carer who often can be hit pretty hard because they can lack the knowledge of how to deal with mental illness that has struck their loved one. How can you care for someone who may not wish to receive care and yet is recognised by the mental health system as user of the services. What happens if the caree does not wish to engage with services? Where does this leave the carer, what rights do they have?
Some disorders can vary in the type of care needed, while other disorders are devastating and require support not only for the patient or person with lived experience, but also for the carer who can at times be overwhelmed in providing care.
Youngs Carers
One of the most difficult experiences for a carer is that of a young carer. Young carers can lack decisions on if to provide care or how to cope. Young carers face carer stigma and bullying from other young people who may find it funny that the person is caring for someone with disabilities or other illnesses.
The strain on young carers can be so difficult that often family relationships break down, although relationship breakdown is a common theme among many other types of carers.
Young carers especially need help in supporting their relatives and usually this can depend on how good social services are. One strain could be that pressure is put on the caree to have their child put in some form of care, but this can cause added strain to the child who now lacks family support, but could have freedom to enjoy their childhood. The balance of growing up as a young carer is a very fine line.
What MAKES a person a carer
You do not want to see your loved one hurt physically, emotional
A carer is not a sudden role, usually a carer is formed as a slow process. Since I have been a carer for most of my life, I have come to the conclusion that being a carer is something you become and the role will change.
As a carer you do not wish anyone else to take over your role due to fear that role will not be carried out, but this does depend on the type of care needed. I am now going into controversial mode. In the UK some of the health systems have failed loved ones, the systems designed to protect communities, families and those who fall ill have ended up as part of the problem due to power culture and lack of information share.
The elderly, frail, sick or mentally ill have been put at risk time and time again due to lack of resources, lack of finances, mistrust and neglect and lack of…..care.
I am not going out on a limb to blame the NHS as a whole. Since in the UK this is one of the biggest and best placed institutions, which Britain has to be proud for, we have skilled health professionals working overtime to provide care in difficult circumstances and even then we have carers who fail their loved one due to abuse and also neglect.
However we are always asked this question, the question asked of a carer is who do you trust?
The NHS or care system in any country has to be responsible somewhere, too many stories of failure to provide care and families and communities will mistrust the health system, they will then provide their own care. The primary role of a carer is to not see any more harm come to those that they love.
Carers share time and energy in their role to care
Although carers are put under pressure, but carers noticed that they can share their time to provide some care otherwise a carer would more likely step back and walk away.
There is a threshold where a carer will decide to stop if their caring duties become too much, but carers can see time and energy placed in their role. The resources of time, care and energy must be planned in order to stop a carer from being over burdened, this is not an easy thing to get right and it depends again on what the caree is suffering from as present.
Caring sometimes can be overwhelming, which is why carers need support themselves
No one is a born carer and carers often worry about their own health, be it physical or mental support. Carers who care do not get paid unless its a form of benefit, however caring is almost like a job to most carers, but carers aren’t bankers or engineers, they do not serve the public in that way.
Carers try to keep their families together, families try to keep community together, without the community then what do we have left? That is a frightening thought.
Carers have to emotionally second guess what their loved ones needs are, carers may also have to advocate on behalf of their loved one, sometimes the law may try to support carers, but at the same time block carers access to information (for a good reason), but this can cause conflict in the caring role.
Carers have to do physical chores, shopping, cooking, hygiene care, financial support and keeping the family together as well as sacrifice their own future.
The problem is caring is not something that can be physically traded, care is provided behind doors, caring is just something that is not often seen, so perhaps society does not value carers as they value material things. Maybe this is a human condition, but this human condition has a flaw, because not all in society will be carers, but one day we will all need care ourselves. Think about that for a second.
Carers can be trapped by outside forces who may not recognise them
Carers can be easily trapped, as I have mentioned before no one is forced to care, since caring can be a decision process. Some people can walk away from care, while for other carers the role has become too much and rightly so.
Maybe carers just feel they are not getting that support, but each day a carer will question themselves on how much resources do they have left?
Carer Stigma
Some people do not wish to be labelled as carers because they feel they are caring out the role as if they are a family member or doing this out of honour for the community. Others prefer that they are labelled supporter or helper, but no matter what they are called, they are providing care and assistance. Some carers are fortunate to have bigger families who can help take turns in the role, while other carers are litarily a one man army digging deep in vast energy resources.
Society is only as strong as the people who live within it and test it. Society is just not the be all and end all, society is changing all the time. The problem is society also must remain a state where community wishes to live within it. We all wish for society to be civil, but the problem is so many things are tied to economics and that includes the health system. Its a numbers game, less resources here and someone has to pay the price and the cost is painful.
Society has rules and unfortunately rules can trap carers. Carers can end up paying the price where they are only trying to help their family or the community.
Carers need to speak up, but not all can speak
Carers need to speak up, if carers wish to be valued for what they do, they need to let others know what battle they face almost every day. Some carers cannot easily do this, while others face the stigma of caring.
I have come across some people who feel carers are just lazy people who should get a real job, and some do have a point, there are other carers who abuse their position, but for most of the time a lot of carers are under huge amounts of pressure. Throughout my caring role I have encountered many organisations in the UK speaking up for carers that being CarersUK or Carers Trust and many more.
We also have engagement and participation groups and healthwatch springs to mind, because they play a greater role on access to quality health care.
Some support
If you are a carer yourself or know someone who is starting out as a carer, you are not alone, there is some help to support you on your journey
Going on line to find resources
Its a tough one, but I have always found going online to look for examples of providing good care. Some will say the internet has too much nonsense to make any good idea of what care should be, but use your judgement, compare different sources. Get numbers and ring around, join forums. CarersUK has a forum which offers support, advice and experience.
As for other countries, there usually is some form of carers forums online. If you do not have access to the internet, usually a library or a carers center has some online facilities for carers to use. Use these facilities to also plan your future, since it is important to work on your skillset, since you might not be a carer forever.
Visiting carer centers
You can always physically get support and that is by booking some time at a carers center. I use carers Lewisham myself and sometimes I pop over to other boroughs in London. At carers center you can get emotional support as counselling, financial advice, advocacy and meet other carers. The rule is do not try to cope by yourself.
Speaking to other carers
As I have mentioned before, speaking to other carers is vital. I can say safely say I have written this blog in one sitting, but I have only 10% of knowledge of what is required of carers. Speaking to other carers has several benefits but the biggest is to show that you are not the only one out there, you are not on your own. Carers can also offer advice on starting out on care, they can also offer some emotional support and advocate if need be. The other side of the coin is you can offer advice to carers who are at their wits end.
Information is your currency to your caring role
People often value currency as in money, carers lack financial capital, but money cannot buy love or care. So the thing is what can buy good love or care?
The answer is Information.
Carers should look online, speak to others and do not be afraid to ask. Get information and turn it into knowledge, then apply the knowledge. We are not perfect and the human condition is frail as is also society is not perfect and can also be put under pressure.
As a carer you will make mistakes, you will judge and be judged. You will get angry, you will be pushed aside and lied to and be undervalued, but deep down you can look yourself in the mirror. Money comes and goes, but memories of those who care will last generations to come.
A Caring Mind 