As mental health carers we are often on the border line. If you are a mental health carer, you want to do what is right for whoever you care for. Sometimes Mental Health carers can find themselves being pushed out. Sometimes mental health carers are left being isolated. Sometimes mental health carers are ignored or bullied.
If you are a mental health carer, let know one continue to push you away from your role. We as mental health carers feel everyone can contribute to the road of recovery. As a mental health carer, we try hard to be there for our loved ones, we try hard to also look after our own condition.
The words of frustration
There are times when our loved ones feel frustrated about their condition and seek to blame carers for their trouble, but you see if our loved ones had that insight, then they would notice how much we try to be there for them.
As a mental health carer you may often hear these words
“You just do not care for me”
“You are on their side”
“You are the cause of all my troubles”
“Why don’t you leave me alone”
These words hurt us mental health carers when we only want to be that vital chain of support for those we care for. The problem is because it is hard to seek recognition as a mental health carer, carers can become worn down by the constant rejection that we face time and time again. No one is perfect and carers do often make mistakes, but who out their is trained to care for someone who suffers from mental health issues?
Just imagine, your own son, daughter or mother or brother and so on, suffering such difficult mental health conditions. You have tried all you can, you spoke to them, reassured them. You have also spoke to the GP, the mental health professional the occupational therapist or social worker. However sometimes things just do not go right, sometimes mental health carers have to lie awake at night wondering if they are making any difference whatsoever.
Let no one tell you that you are not important caring.
A part to play in coping or recovery
Carers are a vital part of the family, they are a vital part of the community. Carers are unpaid support that often provides care because they see the bigger picture. When I mean unpaid, I mean they care because their interest is not about the money, although some money could make carers lives a lot eaiser.
However we need to face that mental health carers are not going to get much support any time soon, so it is important to recognise the sacrifice many mental health carers make up and down the UK.
Sometimes mental health carers have to speak to a health professional or mental health professionals. Carers do this because they usually speak on their loved one’s behalf. Why would carers put themselves in this position? Well basically if the mental health patient has lost insight into their condition then it is often advisable that the health professional take s into account family members or close relative’s views.
To be honest I am talking about care plans and a good health professional or social worker will involve patients and their carers in care plans. A care plan basically means a plan of care regarding the use of mental health services for the patient. To be honest a care plan is not enough and carers should be eligable for a carers assessment.
Let no one tell you that you are NOT a carer.
You deserve to care
YOU as a mental health carer have the right for a carers assessment. If you do not get one, then you are free to complain, but watch out for peoples excuses. Do not let anyone tell you that caring is too much for you. A care plan looks at what support a mental health carer can get.
Get a care plan!! Get support for your role so you can carry out caring without too much demands.
Let no one tell you that you do not have the right to information, it after all is your right to ask, but if they do not tell you then ask the reasons why. There are reasons for confidentiality and that has to be respected at times, but confidentiality cannot ALWAYS be used to shut out carers from performing their role.
Mental health carers have to do a difficult role 24 hours a day and unlike health professionals they do not get the chance to sign off or sometimes even have a holiday or take a break. With all these problems piling up, no wonder carers should be assessed by their GP for depression as if it was not bad enough to see our loved ones suffer from day to day.
Let no one tell you that providing care does not affect carers mentally or physically.
Carers need that vital support to have a break, or be able to connect with other carers. We need to let others know that there are times when even caring is difficult. Let people know you need that support, do not suffer in silence.
If you are a carer caring for a loved one, please be aware that you are making a difference, just being there for a loved one can sometimes actually mean life of death for those suffering chronic mental health conditions.
Good luck on your caring role, good luck on your caring journey!!