Here is a new blog post from carer activist Matthew McKenzie. I write about the challenges, roles and journeys of those caring for someone. Usually the experience of caring for someone with mental health challenges or someone living with cancer.
However, I find that writing is not enough when trying to connect with others. I find poetry a great way of sharing experiences, creativity and understanding.
There can be challenges of using creativity to explain the experiences of caring. It all becomes worth while in the performance, even if things do not go as expected.
Each person finds the poem will mean something different to them. Just as no carer’s journey is the same, this can be included as to how poems can mean something different.
In order to promote the power of poetry, I have made a short video of my ideas, which you can see below.
In life, whatever we experience will eventually pass and things move so fast that we are left wondering what it was all about. If we can leave something behind, express our experiences, share our thoughts of our existance then we can for a brief moment connect with others.
Welcome back to a quick blog from Matthew McKenzie – Carer activist. What is a carer activist you may ask? Basically, I campaign to raise awareness of unpaid carers caring for someone going through long term illness. The bonus is that I have lived experience of providing unpaid care and support to someone close with mental illness.
I also provided care and support to a dear old friend who I have known for many years. He suffered from cancer in the later stages of his life and when he passed away, I was left with a gift to raise awareness from writing books.
Just last week I came across a report on how UK cancer care ‘lags behind’ other countries.
Taken from the sky news report “The latest figures for NHS England show that some 76.3% of patients urgently referred for suspected cancer in June were diagnosed or had cancer ruled out within 28 days – above the target of 75%.”
As facilitator of the London Cancer carer forum, it is depressing news to hear the UK lagging behind. While the someone living with cancer is desperate for treatment, the family or close friend are also anxiously waiting.
It is important the Department of Health and Social Care reform their 10 year plan for the NHS and be inclusive with patient and carer voices.
Going back to my books. I have just published my first book on the experience of cancer caregiving. The book focuses on the following chapters.
Chapter 1: The experience of cancer caregiving How carers may feel when they find out that someone close has been diagnosed with cancer
Chapter 2: The battle begins What is expected of the cancer caregiver
Chapter 3: Battling for you Avoiding being lost in the maze
Chapter 4: Getting involved through lived experience Inspiring cancer caregivers to get involved in shaping health services
Chapter 5: Looking back Not caring forever, so we eventually have to look back.
The book will be promoted slowly as you never know I probably will have to adapt or change a few things. You can get hold of the book on Amazon.
Welcome back to another blog post from carer activist Matthew McKenzie. I have just recently watched a news piece regarding Carers UK latest campaign. For those who do not know, Carers UK is one of the UK’s biggest national charities that focuses on support for carers.
You might have already seen a couple of blog posts about previous campaigns from Carers UK and other carer support charities. At the time of this post, there are around 5.7 million carers around the country caring for someone with long term illness.
Most people want to provide unpaid care, they want a better outcome for those with long term illness, but what people do not want is to provide unpaid care with little or non support.
Each year, support for carers has been reduced within the health and social care sector. Important decisions have to be made and in the end this lies with the new government. Still, it does not hurt to provide some guidance on what Carers UK have heard from carers.
There are 8 priorities which Carers UK want the government to be accountable for.
Reform and significantly increase Carer’s Allowance and other social security payments for carers.
Deliver an ambitious and fully funded National Carers Strategy.
Invest in breaks, respite services, and introduce new legislation so all carers have the right to regular and meaningful breaks.
Make the NHS the most carer-friendly health service in the world.
Introduce a right to paid Carer’s Leave for working carers.
Recognise caring as the 10th protected characteristic under the Equality Act 2010.
Invest in social care services so no one has to care alone, and so Local Authorities are able to meet their existing duties to unpaid carers.
Provide more support to help carers manage their health and wellbeing.
The letter was signed by 10,611 people who feel passionately about the plight of carers. A lot of promotion went into the importance of the letter, but you can also watch the report from London Live news which was reported by Sachelle Connor.
Caring can be difficult, especially if the role comes on unexpected. You have to be there for someone, find out what the symptoms are and do your best to help improve quality of life. It could happen to any of us, but the challenge is not all of us want to care and there are times when it is ok back away from the role.
What is more challenging is developing a community that cares. How can a caring community relate to someone who tries to be there for others?
We are all connected and we all have needs in a society that has become increasingly complex. We do not know what is around the corner, all we can do is try to be there for each other. As with unpaid carers, we cannot fully depend upon health and social care, there will be times when we have to be resourceful to support one another.
This is the same for communities. We cannot always depend upon others to be there when times get tough, yet we are all connected.
Civilisation, democracy, freedom and law can often be fragile and can break just like the branches of a tree. The branch can sway this way and that, but the wind of change can blow like a hurricane to cause the branch to break.
So we may find before long that we have to pick up the pieces.
The thing I am trying to get at is caring is not enough. Caring for a loved one might set an example, but unfortunately I have learnt that more examples need to be set. We need a society that cares. We need a community that values being there for others. A caring community can bring so much for inclusiveness, caring, learning from others and standing up for what is right.
We are all connected as for one day we will either care or be cared for. There is value in being there for others, no matter what uncertainty the future brings. There is value of giving just a little bit more in volunteering and sharing our common ideals. A caring society seeks out what is common for all of us, not what makes us all different. We all have the same needs, the same dreams and we all want to belong.
Caring can be difficult, it can demand sacrifices, energy and time. In the end who can say it is worth the effort? All I know is caring will benefit everyone as we are all connected.
We dont often always notice, but behind someone diagnosed with cancer is usually a close relative or friend. Often we focus on what support can be provided to the cancer patient. The person affected by this awful disease can be fighting for their very life and will need all the support they can get.
but what about the cancer caregiver?
All too often we may forget that the carer will need support for themselves as well. It might not even dawn upon cancer carers as they focus all their efforts on caring for their loved one. It might be a partner caring for their other partner, a young carer supporting their parent. Or even a parent caring for an elderly relative. The caring situations can be long, complex and emotionally trying.
The situation above and many other reasons are why we need to raise awareness for cancer caregivers. It can be so easy to be hidden as a carer and hope for the best. Just because the carer is not suffering the physical and emotional affects of cancer, does not mean they should not be given support.
With Cancer Support Macmillan being the UK’s leading charities fighting against cancer, I help raise awareness of families affected by Cancer. Cancer is not contagious, but anxiety, uncertainty and depression cancer brings will affect those close by.
Not everyone will think of themselves as a carer, they are more than happy to focus all their efforts just so their loved ones see another day. It is so important we stress to someone caring that they do have access to support and this includes their carer’s rights.
No one should have to give care if it makes their quality of life suffer. Those caring for someone might need emotional support. They might even need their caring situation assessed, especially if the carer is unable to work. Some people caring for someone with cancer might actually need time off for work to support the cancer patient. This links to carer’s rights at work.
With the London Cancer carer forum, which I run online for the last Wednesday of the month. I seek to bring cancer carers together to hear experiences and feedback. Caring for someone with cancer is not the same as caring for someone with a broken leg. Sometimes we need to be heard by those who just “Get it!”. Cancer carers will not feel judged or feel as if they let someone down. Caring for someone without being heard or being connected can lead to isolation. Carers can feel they are coping by themselves without an outlet so it is important a group can provide some peer support.
If carer isolation was not the main issue, then there is advocacy and navigating the health and social care system. Not everyone will be skilled on knowing who to ask and what to ask if their caring role changes. Advocacy and health system guidance can be useful when a carer does not know where to turn. It is important carers have a chance to be referred to local support and be assessed on challenges in their role.
Cancer is one of the most difficult and damaging illness to impact friends and families. It could happen to any of us and it is so important we get the knowledge to lessen the impact. Please check out Macmillan’s London Cancer Community Newsletter for August 2024 for more information about Matthew McKenzie’s Cancer carer group and other cancer support initiatives below.
A Caring Mind 