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Attending the West Kent Paddock Wood Carers Group

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer Activist

Recently, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at the West Kent Paddock Wood Group, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the experience, not just as a speaker, but as a mental health carer among peers who truly understand the journey.

The session took place at Unit 1 Eastlands, Maidstone Road in Paddock Wood, a welcoming and accessible venue that immediately set the tone for openness and support. From the moment I arrived, it was clear that this was a safe space. The event was hosted by Naomi Muigua who is the Social Care Involvement Officer.

The structure of the morning was thoughtfully organised, with time for introductions, discussion, and shared learning, all underpinned by respect, confidentiality, and equality among attendees .

A Community that works to understand carers

What stood out to me most was the diversity of lived experience in the room. Carers supporting loved ones with dementia, autism, and complex health needs came together, each bringing their own story, challenges, and resilience. It reinforced something I’ve long believed: carers often feel invisible in wider society, but in spaces like this, they are seen, heard, and valued.

The group is supported by organisations and professionals who are genuinely committed to reducing isolation and improving access to services. From digital inclusion to transport and community support, there’s a real effort to make sure carers are not left navigating the system alone

Sharing My Journey as a Mental Health Carer

As the invited speaker, I spoke from my own lived experience as a mental health carer. My journey began as a young carer supporting my mother, who developed schizophrenia, while also helping care for my brothers with non-verbal autism. Over the years, that experience has shaped not only my life, but my purpose.

During my talk, I shared:

  • The emotional reality of becoming a carer—often suddenly, without preparation
  • The confusion and isolation that can come with navigating mental health systems
  • The importance of recognising carers as partners in care, not just bystanders
  • The long-term impact on mental health, identity, and wellbeing

I also spoke about the concept of “lived experience”—something I feel strongly should be embedded in health and social care systems. If professionals are to truly understand and support carers, they need to hear directly from those who live it every day.

One of the key messages I left with the group was this:
Carers are the hidden link that holds everything together. Without them, the system simply could not function.

This was taken from my poem off my book.

The Conversations of the group

What made the session particularly powerful wasn’t just the presentation, it was the discussion that followed. Carers openly spoke about:

  • Not knowing where to go for help
  • The complexity of accessing services
  • Feeling that outcomes often depend on how well you can advocate
  • The emotional toll of long-term caring

These are not small issues, they are systemic challenges. But spaces like this group allow those conversations to happen honestly, and more importantly, collectively.

Why Groups Like This Matter

The West Kent Paddock Wood Group is actually a lifeline to carers as it provides:

  • A supportive peer network
  • Access to information and local services
  • A platform for carers’ voices to be heard
  • A sense of belonging that many carers lack

For anyone who is caring for a loved one, especially in mental health, I cannot stress enough how important it is to connect with others who understand. You don’t have to do this alone.

Final Thoughts

Leaving the session, I felt both humbled and encouraged. Humbled by the strength of the carers in the room, and encouraged by the existence of a group that is actively working to support them.

If you are a carer in Kent, or even just exploring what support is available, I would strongly recommend attending the West Kent Paddock Wood Group. It is a space where your voice matters, your experience is valid, and your wellbeing is recognised.

For me, it was not just an opportunity to speak, it was an opportunity to connect, learn, and continue advocating for carers everywhere.

If you want to find out more about Kent County Council support for unpaid carers, see link below.

https://www.kent.gov.uk/social-care-and-health/adult-social-care/care-and-support/caring-for-other-people/support-for-carers

Nothing About Us Without Us: A Poem on Carer Voice and Co-Production

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer

I feel Unpaid carers play a vital role in supporting loved ones experiencing mental health challenges. Much of this caring happens quietly in homes, during sleepless nights, through appointments, advocacy, and everyday acts of protection and support.

For many carers from minority communities, this experiences also includes navigating the cultural understanding, language differences, and systems that sometimes do not always recognise or reflect communities. Despite the knowledge carers hold, I feel our voices can sometimes feel overlooked in those decisions about care.

I recently wrote and recorded a short spoken word poem titled “Nothing About Us Without Us.” This poem reflects a simple and important message: carers bring lived experience that should be included in conversations about mental health services.

The poem is taken from the book I am developing called “Unpaid, Unseen and Yet Unbroken”

Carers are not just supporters in the background. Carers can carry knowledge shaped by lived reality by caring, advocating, and supporting our families through complex systems.

The poem also speaks to the importance of co-production. When carers, communities, and professionals work together, services can become more understanding and culturally responsive, and equitable.

I think this message is especially relevant to ongoing work around the Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF), which encourages meaningful involvement of people with lived experience in shaping mental health services.

The poem is a small creative contribution to that conversation. It invites us to reflect on a few simple questions:

  • Are carers from different backgrounds being listened to?
  • Are those lived experiences shaping services?
  • Are decisions being made with carers, not about them?

Listening to carers is not just a gesture of inclusion it can lead to better understanding, stronger partnerships, and better care.

If you would like to watch the poem, you can find the video here:

I hope my poem encourages reflection and conversation about how we can continue building services with communities, and not just for them.