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Voices & Verses PCREF Carer event

By Matthew McKenzie, Cygnet PCREF Carer Lead

On Tuesday 28th April 2026, from 2:00pm to 4:00pm, we came together at Cygnet Churchill in Lambeth for what was described as a carers poetry event, but in truth, it became something much deeper.

It became a space where carers could speak, reflect, and be heard.

I hosted the session not just as a PCREF Carer Lead, but as someone with lived experience. That shaped everything the tone, the structure, and the intention behind every part of the agenda.

I made it clear: this was a safe, inclusive, and optional space. No pressure to perform. No expectation to share. Just an invitation.

We began with a simple check-in:
“What’s one word you’re arriving with?”

Opening Readings: Creating a Shared Starting Point

I started with a couple of my own poems, drawn from my work around carers, stigma, and racial inequality in mental health.

As shown above, one piece explored the question of who is listened to and who is overlooked within systems. Another focused on stigma and shame, particularly how cultural expectations and institutional barriers can compound the experience of caring.

These weren’t just readings—they were a way of opening the room.
An invitation for others to see themselves reflected.

Featured Performer: Karen Ibrahim

We then heard from Karen Ibrahim, whose poetry captured something deeply familiar to many carers the quiet, often invisible emotional labour of caring.

Her piece reflected the silence between carer and loved one, the fear of saying the wrong thing, and the reality of sitting with someone in distress without always knowing how to help. It spoke to that fragile balance carers hold every day.

Karen also shared a series of haiku-style reflections, drawn from carer experiences—short, powerful snapshots of emotion, nature, and coping. They reminded us that even the smallest expressions can carry deep meaning.

Guided Writing Exercise #1: Bringing PCREF to Life

We then moved into the first guided writing exercise.

I paired participants and asked them to:

  • Match PCREF-related concepts (like equity, advocacy, inclusion, resilience) to their meanings
  • Use those words to create a short poem or reflection

It was about translating PCREF from policy into lived language.

The results were powerful. Carers wrote about 4 poems altogether, below were the themes, which will be included in the new PCREF poetry book I am working on.

  • Feeling unseen and unheard
  • Wanting their voice recognised
  • Breaking down barriers in care
  • Finding strength through community

One group asked:
“Is my voice not loud enough to be heard?”

I felt that line stayed with me, because it captures exactly what PCREF is trying to address.

Performer & Open Mic (Round 1)

We then moved into our first round of performances, where carers shared both prepared and newly written work.

I felt Brenda brought something unique, blending cultural storytelling and poetry rooted in Jamaican heritage. She reflected on traditional knowledge, community wisdom, and the use of language and folklore as a way of preserving identity and healing. Her use of dialect and storytelling highlighted how culture shapes how we express and understand care.

Next was Annette Davis shared a piece centred on the identity of being a carer, capturing the emotional strain, lack of recognition, and inner strength that comes with the role. Her poem questioned what it means to be labelled a “carer” while navigating burnout, resilience, and the need for self-care.

Next up was Faith Smith and Nadine sharing a powerful reflection on system inequality, exploring the daily pressures of navigating services, the lack of accessible support, and the feeling of being caught in processes that don’t always respond to real-life needs.

Each piece added another layer to the conversation, with different perspectives, but shared truths.

Break & Connection

We paused for a short break and refreshments provided by the kind and wonderful staff at cygnet, but for the poetry event the conversations didn’t stop.

Carers continued to connect. Share stories. and reflected on what they had heard.

This is something I always emphasise, community doesn’t just happen in structured sessions. It happens in those in-between moments.

Creative Exercise session #2: Exploring PCREF Language

After the break, I introduced a second exercise, which was more interactive and reflective.

Participants worked with a word-search style challenge, identifying key PCREF-related terms such as:

  • Voice
  • Inclusion
  • Equity
  • Community
  • Trust
  • Advocacy
  • Listening
  • Stereotyping

Rather than writing full poems, we focused on discussion:
Which word stands out and why?

The responses were honest and grounded:

  • “Listening builds trust.”
  • “Community is where we belong.”
  • “Inclusion is what drives change.”
  • “Stereotyping still shapes how we’re treated.”

This is where PCREF becomes real, when people recognise themselves within it.

Performer & Open Mic (Round 2)

We continued with a second round of performances.

Carers shared reflections shaped by:

  • Cultural identity
  • Personal caring journeys
  • The emotional impact of systems
  • Hope, resilience, and change

Then ended with cultural carer songs by Brenda, see the video of part of the PCREF poetry session below.

In the end PCREF is about improving outcomes for racialised communities—but it cannot succeed if it remains purely clinical.

We:

  • Translated PCREF into lived experience
  • Used creativity to engage carers meaningfully
  • Created a culturally responsive space
  • Positioned carers as equal voices not passive participants

If you are caring for someone using Cygnet services, contact Family&Friends@cygnethealth.co.uk to join our Voices & Verses poetry group

Attending the West Kent Paddock Wood Carers Group

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer Activist

Recently, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at the West Kent Paddock Wood Group, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the experience, not just as a speaker, but as a mental health carer among peers who truly understand the journey.

The session took place at Unit 1 Eastlands, Maidstone Road in Paddock Wood, a welcoming and accessible venue that immediately set the tone for openness and support. From the moment I arrived, it was clear that this was a safe space. The event was hosted by Naomi Muigua who is the Social Care Involvement Officer.

The structure of the morning was thoughtfully organised, with time for introductions, discussion, and shared learning, all underpinned by respect, confidentiality, and equality among attendees .

A Community that works to understand carers

What stood out to me most was the diversity of lived experience in the room. Carers supporting loved ones with dementia, autism, and complex health needs came together, each bringing their own story, challenges, and resilience. It reinforced something I’ve long believed: carers often feel invisible in wider society, but in spaces like this, they are seen, heard, and valued.

The group is supported by organisations and professionals who are genuinely committed to reducing isolation and improving access to services. From digital inclusion to transport and community support, there’s a real effort to make sure carers are not left navigating the system alone

Sharing My Journey as a Mental Health Carer

As the invited speaker, I spoke from my own lived experience as a mental health carer. My journey began as a young carer supporting my mother, who developed schizophrenia, while also helping care for my brothers with non-verbal autism. Over the years, that experience has shaped not only my life, but my purpose.

During my talk, I shared:

  • The emotional reality of becoming a carer—often suddenly, without preparation
  • The confusion and isolation that can come with navigating mental health systems
  • The importance of recognising carers as partners in care, not just bystanders
  • The long-term impact on mental health, identity, and wellbeing

I also spoke about the concept of “lived experience”—something I feel strongly should be embedded in health and social care systems. If professionals are to truly understand and support carers, they need to hear directly from those who live it every day.

One of the key messages I left with the group was this:
Carers are the hidden link that holds everything together. Without them, the system simply could not function.

This was taken from my poem off my book.

The Conversations of the group

What made the session particularly powerful wasn’t just the presentation, it was the discussion that followed. Carers openly spoke about:

  • Not knowing where to go for help
  • The complexity of accessing services
  • Feeling that outcomes often depend on how well you can advocate
  • The emotional toll of long-term caring

These are not small issues, they are systemic challenges. But spaces like this group allow those conversations to happen honestly, and more importantly, collectively.

Why Groups Like This Matter

The West Kent Paddock Wood Group is actually a lifeline to carers as it provides:

  • A supportive peer network
  • Access to information and local services
  • A platform for carers’ voices to be heard
  • A sense of belonging that many carers lack

For anyone who is caring for a loved one, especially in mental health, I cannot stress enough how important it is to connect with others who understand. You don’t have to do this alone.

Final Thoughts

Leaving the session, I felt both humbled and encouraged. Humbled by the strength of the carers in the room, and encouraged by the existence of a group that is actively working to support them.

If you are a carer in Kent, or even just exploring what support is available, I would strongly recommend attending the West Kent Paddock Wood Group. It is a space where your voice matters, your experience is valid, and your wellbeing is recognised.

For me, it was not just an opportunity to speak, it was an opportunity to connect, learn, and continue advocating for carers everywhere.

If you want to find out more about Kent County Council support for unpaid carers, see link below.

https://www.kent.gov.uk/social-care-and-health/adult-social-care/care-and-support/caring-for-other-people/support-for-carers

Nothing About Us Without Us: A Poem on Carer Voice and Co-Production

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer

I feel Unpaid carers play a vital role in supporting loved ones experiencing mental health challenges. Much of this caring happens quietly in homes, during sleepless nights, through appointments, advocacy, and everyday acts of protection and support.

For many carers from minority communities, this experiences also includes navigating the cultural understanding, language differences, and systems that sometimes do not always recognise or reflect communities. Despite the knowledge carers hold, I feel our voices can sometimes feel overlooked in those decisions about care.

I recently wrote and recorded a short spoken word poem titled “Nothing About Us Without Us.” This poem reflects a simple and important message: carers bring lived experience that should be included in conversations about mental health services.

The poem is taken from the book I am developing called “Unpaid, Unseen and Yet Unbroken”

Carers are not just supporters in the background. Carers can carry knowledge shaped by lived reality by caring, advocating, and supporting our families through complex systems.

The poem also speaks to the importance of co-production. When carers, communities, and professionals work together, services can become more understanding and culturally responsive, and equitable.

I think this message is especially relevant to ongoing work around the Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF), which encourages meaningful involvement of people with lived experience in shaping mental health services.

The poem is a small creative contribution to that conversation. It invites us to reflect on a few simple questions:

  • Are carers from different backgrounds being listened to?
  • Are those lived experiences shaping services?
  • Are decisions being made with carers, not about them?

Listening to carers is not just a gesture of inclusion it can lead to better understanding, stronger partnerships, and better care.

If you would like to watch the poem, you can find the video here:

I hope my poem encourages reflection and conversation about how we can continue building services with communities, and not just for them.