Recently, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at the West Kent Paddock Wood Group, and I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the experience, not just as a speaker, but as a mental health carer among peers who truly understand the journey.
The session took place at Unit 1 Eastlands, Maidstone Road in Paddock Wood, a welcoming and accessible venue that immediately set the tone for openness and support. From the moment I arrived, it was clear that this was a safe space. The event was hosted by Naomi Muigua who is the Social Care Involvement Officer.
The structure of the morning was thoughtfully organised, with time for introductions, discussion, and shared learning, all underpinned by respect, confidentiality, and equality among attendees .
A Community that works to understand carers
What stood out to me most was the diversity of lived experience in the room. Carers supporting loved ones with dementia, autism, and complex health needs came together, each bringing their own story, challenges, and resilience. It reinforced something I’ve long believed: carers often feel invisible in wider society, but in spaces like this, they are seen, heard, and valued.
The group is supported by organisations and professionals who are genuinely committed to reducing isolation and improving access to services. From digital inclusion to transport and community support, there’s a real effort to make sure carers are not left navigating the system alone
Sharing My Journey as a Mental Health Carer
As the invited speaker, I spoke from my own lived experience as a mental health carer. My journey began as a young carer supporting my mother, who developed schizophrenia, while also helping care for my brothers with non-verbal autism. Over the years, that experience has shaped not only my life, but my purpose.
During my talk, I shared:
The emotional reality of becoming a carer—often suddenly, without preparation
The confusion and isolation that can come with navigating mental health systems
The importance of recognising carers as partners in care, not just bystanders
The long-term impact on mental health, identity, and wellbeing
I also spoke about the concept of “lived experience”—something I feel strongly should be embedded in health and social care systems. If professionals are to truly understand and support carers, they need to hear directly from those who live it every day.
One of the key messages I left with the group was this: Carers are the hidden link that holds everything together. Without them, the system simply could not function.
This was taken from my poem off my book.
The Conversations of the group
What made the session particularly powerful wasn’t just the presentation, it was the discussion that followed. Carers openly spoke about:
Not knowing where to go for help
The complexity of accessing services
Feeling that outcomes often depend on how well you can advocate
The emotional toll of long-term caring
These are not small issues, they are systemic challenges. But spaces like this group allow those conversations to happen honestly, and more importantly, collectively.
Why Groups Like This Matter
The West Kent Paddock Wood Group is actually a lifeline to carers as it provides:
A supportive peer network
Access to information and local services
A platform for carers’ voices to be heard
A sense of belonging that many carers lack
For anyone who is caring for a loved one, especially in mental health, I cannot stress enough how important it is to connect with others who understand. You don’t have to do this alone.
Final Thoughts
Leaving the session, I felt both humbled and encouraged. Humbled by the strength of the carers in the room, and encouraged by the existence of a group that is actively working to support them.
If you are a carer in Kent, or even just exploring what support is available, I would strongly recommend attending the West Kent Paddock Wood Group. It is a space where your voice matters, your experience is valid, and your wellbeing is recognised.
For me, it was not just an opportunity to speak, it was an opportunity to connect, learn, and continue advocating for carers everywhere.
If you want to find out more about Kent County Council support for unpaid carers, see link below.
To mark World Bipolar Day 2026, I’ve created a short video highlighting the reality of living with bipolar and the vital role of unpaid carers, friends, and family. Awareness is important, but understanding and everyday support matter just as much.
In this video, I share reflections as a mental health carer and activist, focusing on the human side of bipolar and the people who often support quietly in the background. 👉 Watch the video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gnn0tfLs2z8
World Bipolar Day is supported globally by organisations including:
In the UK, Bipolar UK (https://www.bipolaruk.org) provides vital peer support for people affected by bipolar, including carers. Carer organisations also play a crucial role in supporting unpaid carers:
The poem is a spoken word piece from my upcoming poetry collection Unpaid, Unseen and Yet Unbroken (launching 2026).
This poem centres the lived experiences of ethnic and minority mental health carers, where they continue to show up, often without recognition, navigating systems that can feel complex and unresponsive.
The poem focuses on the quiet strength, shared knowledge, and collective care that exist within our communities.
In the spirit of PCREF, this work highlights the importance of listening to lived experience, valuing cultural understanding, and recognising community as a source of resilience and healing
On 25th February 2026, I had the privilege of speaking at the Carers’ Forum hosted by Involve Kent.
Involve is a voluntary sector infrastructure organisation in Kent that supports unpaid carers by providing information, advice and practical help to make caring more manageable.
They organise regular carers’ forums and events where carers can meet each other, access specialist support services, hear from guest speakers on issues like benefits, legal rights and wellbeing, and contribute their lived experience to local planning and decision-making. Involve also connects carers with tailored resources, signposts to relevant services across health, social care and community sectors, and advocates for carers’ voices to be heard by policymakers and service providers
The forum ran from 10:30am to 1:30pm and brought together unpaid carers from across Kent to connect, learn and have their voices heard.
It was my second time speaking at this forum, and once again I was struck by something powerful: the room was full. That might sound simple, but in the world of unpaid caring which can often feel isolating and invisible a full room means solidarity. It means people are choosing, despite exhaustion and competing demands, to show up for themselves and each other.
Arriving and the atmosphere
From the moment I walked in, there was a real sense of warmth. Information stands lined the hall Involve, Citizens Advice, mental health services, energy advice, leisure services and more. Tables were covered in leaflets, conversations were already flowing, and carers were reconnecting with familiar faces.
The purpose of the forum was clear:
To enable those caring unpaid for an adult family member, partner or friend to meet, gain information about services in their community and have their voices heard .
That last part to have their voices heard is what resonated most with me.
It was also good to see Carer leads from Cygnet Maidstone engaging with carers in the community of Kent.
My talk: Caring for someone with a mental health diagnosis
I spoke about caring for someone with a mental health diagnosis and the Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework .
As many know, I cared for my mother who lived with schizophrenia, and I now support a close friend who lives with personality disorder and addiction challenges. I don’t speak as a clinician. I spoke as someone who has sat in GP waiting rooms, on inpatient wards, in crisis meetings, and at home during those “screaming silences” that carers know too well.
I shared:
The confusion I felt when I didn’t even realise I was a “carer”
The frustration of confidentiality barriers
The loneliness of not being listened to
The emotional exhaustion that comes from constantly firefighting crises
I then shared a poem to promote carers rights
But I also shared something equally important: growth, advocacy and solidarity.
I encouraged carers to:
Educate themselves about the condition they are supporting
Learn the difference between symptoms and personality
Understand triggers
Forgive themselves for mistakes
And most importantly, look after their own wellbeing
One message I always return to was – You cannot pour from an empty cup.
I also spoke about The Patient Carer Race Equality Framework
It exists because there is clear evidence of:
Disproportionate detentions under the Mental Health Act
Poorer outcomes for Black and minority ethnic patients
Higher levels of distrust between communities and services
Carers feeling unheard or excluded
I spoke about how minority carers can face:
Cultural misunderstandings
Language barriers
Stigma around mental health within communities
Fear of services due to past discrimination
A lack of culturally appropriate support
Discussion tables: Carers influencing change
After my talk, Clara from Involve led discussions feeding into Kent’s Health Needs Assessment for carers. Carers were asked:
How do you recognise when it’s time to ask for help?
What causes burnout?
What would a carer-friendly community look like?
These wete not token questions. Staff took notes (without identifying details) so carers’ lived experiences could directly inform local planning .
I moved around the room speaking with carers. Some were open and vocal. Others were quieter, but their listening was just as powerful. Not everyone wants to speak publicly and that’s okay. Being present is also participation too.
Power of Attorney – protecting your voice
Later in the morning, Glen Miles spoke about the Mental Capacity Act and Lasting Power of Attorney .
As carers, we often assume we will automatically be consulted in crises. The reality is different. Without legal authority, our ability to advocate can be limited.
One key takeaway:
Don’t delay in arranging Lasting Powers of Attorney.
If you want your voice – or your loved one’s voice – to be heard, formalise it.
For carers who have experienced being excluded from decisions, this was a particularly important session.
Citizens Advice & practical support
Ian from Citizens Advice spoke before lunch about benefits, debt, housing and confidential support .
With the cost of living crisis, carers are under immense financial pressure. Many reduce employment hours or leave work entirely. The session was a reminder that:
Advice is free
It is confidential
You can attend anonymously
You are not judged
Lunch followed – catered by Fusion – and honestly, some of the most meaningful conversations happen over sandwiches. Carers swapping stories. Sharing phone numbers. Recommending services. That peer-to-peer support is priceless.
What stayed with me
What stayed with me most wasn’t just the agenda or the presentations.
It was:
The older carer quietly nodding as I spoke about emotional exhaustion.
The new carer asking, “Is it normal to feel this angry sometimes?”
The male carers who stayed behind to speak to me privately.
The carers from minority backgrounds who spoke about cultural barriers and stigma.
These forums matter because carers matter.
Unpaid carers save the system billions. But beyond economics, we hold families together. We absorb crises. We advocate in rooms where we’re not always welcomed.
By Matthew Mckenzie – facilitator of national ethnic mental health carers forum
I’m pleased to share “Unpaid, Unseen and Yet Unbroken”, a spoken word poetry video that marks the first poem released from my forthcoming poetry collection of the same name.
This first poem speaks from within the lived reality of unpaid mental health carers, particularly those from ethnic and marginalised communities whose labour is often overlooked, misunderstood, or taken for granted. It reflects moments many carers will recognise: waiting rooms, misrecognition, quiet endurance, and the strength it takes to keep showing up without acknowledgement.
🎥 Watch the spoken word video here:
The wider collection I am currently working on brings together poems shaped by care, fatigue, love, resilience, and survival. It is a body of work rooted in lived experience and community voices, offering poetry not only as expression, but as witness and affirmation.
This first poem sets the tone for what is to come, promoting honest, reflective, and unapologetic in its call for carers to be seen, heard, and respected.
This work is part of my ongoing commitment through my A Caring Mind youtube channel to use creativity as a way to challenge stigma, amplify unheard voices, and centre care as a vital social contribution.
More poems from this collection will be shared in the coming months.
Walking into the RCN PSI Alumni Conference at Cowdray Hall on that crisp November morning, I felt a mix of pride, gratitude, and curiosity. It’s been many years since I first began speaking at RCN events like this, yet every time feels new because each gathering brings together nurses, carers, service users, and leaders who continue to shape the future of mental health care.
Before I continue to describe the event, let me sum up the Royal College of Nursing PSI programme. Basically the Psychosocial Interventions (PSI) programme is a nationally recognised training initiative designed to strengthen therapeutic skills of mental health professionals and embed recovery-focused, relationship-based care across services.
The PSI program is rooted in the principles of collaboration, reflection, co-production and empowerment, PSI equips practitioners with practical tools to support individuals experiencing mental distress, while also valuing the insight of carers and families.
I think what makes PSI stand out is its emphasis on seeing people beyond their diagnosis and fostering empathy, curiosity, and shared understanding between nurses, service users, and carers.
At the start of the conference and during it, I spoke to a few nurses over coffee, each reflecting on how PSI had shaped their practice one mental health nurse told me it had helped her “find her voice again.” For me, as a carer with lived experience, it was great to witness this sense of renewal. It reminded me why collaboration between professionals and lived experience communities is so essential.
Around 10 a.m., Catherine Gamble formally opened the event, setting a tone of gratitude and shared learning. Her introduction reminded us how much the alumni network had grown and how lived experience was now firmly part of the PSI culture.
As someone with lived experience of caring for my mum, who lived with schizophrenia, I approached the events not just as an observer but as someone deeply invested in the stories and struggles that bring us together as a triangle.
When I was invited to open the event and share my reflections as a carer, I knew I wanted to do more than talk about carers, I wanted to speak for them, and with them.
My Opening Talk – “The Nurses Who Walk With Us”
Standing at the podium, looking out at rows of passionate mental health nurses and lived experience, I began with gratitude. My words were simple but heartfelt:
“This is really about the nurses who walk with us, the ones who move beyond the labels, beyond the charts, and see the person, not the problem.”
I read a poem I had written to honour the compassion and resilience of those in the room a piece I called The Nurses Who Walk With Us.
The poem spoke about presence, about listening, and about the small acts of care that ripple into great change.
After my talk, I was moved by the warmth of the response. Many came up to share how my words mirrored their experiences or reminded them of why they came into nursing. That moment of connection that shared understanding set the tone for the day.
The Locksmiths Animation and Alumni Showcase
Following our opening session, Ellie Gordon and Stephen Jones launched the new animation “We Are the Locksmiths.” The film poetically portrayed mental health nurses as key-cutters shaping, adapting, and helping people find the right fit for recovery.
Watching it, I was struck by how accurately it captured the emotional labour of care, the balancing of vulnerability, patience, and professionalism
Next we had the Mentimeter session that morning, which was led by Professor Sally Hardy. She guided participants through reflective wellbeing questions using the interactive Mentimeter tool, encouraging everyone to think about how to sustain personal and professional wellbeing in mental health practice. Sally’s session wasn’t just about gathering feedback
Afterwards, the Alumni and Facilitators’ “Show and Tell Time” began. Groups from Sheffield NHS Trust, Sussex Mental Health Partnership, Lancashire Mental Health NHS trust, and Hereford NHS Trust sharing creative projects and reflections from their PSI practice. There were posters, poems, and community initiatives that had grown directly from the training. I wandered around the tables, speaking with participants who described how PSI had changed their teams. I think One mental health nurse told me, “We stopped seeing interventions as techniques and started seeing them as relationships.” It was inspiring
Workshop One – Working Together in Risk and Safety
After refreshments, we broke into workshops. I joined Workshop One: Lived Experience and Co-Production – Utilising Our Expertise, led by Hannah Cadogan and colleagues. It was energising to see lived experienced and mental health nurses working side by side.
I spoke about what co-production really means from a carer’s point of view. I shared my journey as someone who has cared for a family member living with schizophrenia and another with autism, and how those experiences taught me the importance of being included as an equal partner in care.
I explained that carers often hold a deep understanding of the person they support insights that can make a real difference if professionals take the time to listen and involve us from the start, not as an afterthought. Drawing on my work with Carers UK, the Carers Trust, and the Triangle of Care as many nurses from the mental health trusts were members of triangle of care programme., I spoke about how true co-production is built on trust, openness, and shared learning.
We discussed barriers time, fear, power differences but also solutions, like embedding co-production in supervision and reflective practice.
In this session, the discussion turned to how we can meaningfully involve carers and service users in planning safety not as tick-box exercises, but as genuine collaborations. I found myself reflecting on my own experiences of sitting in meetings where decisions were made about my mum rather than with us.
Hearing the nurses speak so openly about their challenges about time pressures, fear of getting it wrong, and the emotional toll of risk reminded me that we’re all human in this process. True co-production means sharing not only responsibility but also vulnerability.
One participant spoke about the importance of patience: “We’re not here to fix; we’re here to find a way in.” That line stayed with me. It echoed my own philosophy that care starts with listening, not solving.
By the end of the workshop, we agreed that co-produced safety isn’t about removing risk; it’s about building trust so we can face risk together.
Workshop Two – Co-Production and Carer Involvement
Lunch provided another opportunity for networking. The Mental Health Forum stand and MHP stall displayed resources on psychosocial practice.
I met others who had recently completed the course.
Conversations were open, curious, and full of mutual respect the kind of professional empathy that sustains hope in challenging work.
After lunch we heard from Professor Nicola Ranger, RCN General Secretary, who welcomed everyone back, commending the alumni for sustaining PSI’s legacy. Her words “you are the custodians of compassion” perfectly captured the spirit of the day.
The evaluation session of the RCN PSI Alumni Conference was presented in partnership with London South Bank University (LSBU), who have been key academic collaborators in examining the outcomes and long-term impact of the Psychosocial Interventions (PSI) programme. This section was introduced by Stephen Jones, and Professor Chris Flood, a leading figure in mental health nursing and research at LSBU.
Together, they outlined how LSBU’s evaluation seeks to capture not just the quantitative outcomes of PSI such as improved confidence and competence among practitioners but also the qualitative stories of change, growth, and compassion that the alumni community embodies.
There will be several teams at LSBU, but I was impressed on the make up of the Advisory and Supervisory Team provides academic oversight and strategic direction.
Professor Patrick Callaghan, Professor of Mental Health Science at LSBU, offers extensive expertise in psychosocial interventions and nursing research leadership.
Professor Chris Flood, a leading mental health and adult nurse researcher, specialises in health economics, survey design, and qualitative inquiry.
Professor Neil Brimblecombe, Professor of Mental Health and Learning Disability, contributes his expertise in workforce development, nurse prescribing, and policy analysis linking the PSI evaluation to broader NHS workforce strategies.
Professor Eddie Chaplin, an expert in intellectual disabilities and psychosocial interventions, supports the development of inclusive frameworks for peer support, guided self-help, and service co-production.
Afternoon workshop
In the afternoon, I attended Workshop Three: Working Together in Risk – Co-Production, Suicide and Personalised Safety. It was deeply emotional. We discussed how carers can be crucial in early warning and safety planning, but only if professionals create safe spaces for them to speak. The workshop was presented by Berkshire Healthcare NHS Foundation Trus
During the workshop, we took part in reflective exercises that encouraged us to consider what “shared safety” truly means. We were asked to think of times when communication broke down between families, patients and professionals, and how different outcomes might have been possible if trust and collaboration had been stronger.
Celebrating Archievements
Those who finished the RCN PSI programm were presented with a RCN PSI alumni badge, which i felt was a small but powerful symbol of commitment, compassion, and continued learning. For many, receiving that badge wasn’t just about completing a programme; it represented belonging to a network that values empathy, partnership, and the courage to keep improving mental health care together.
Reflections and Looking Ahead
As the day drew to a close, we took a quiet moment to reflect. Conferences like this are not just about learning they are about belonging. They remind me that, while the caring role can often feel isolating, there is a wider network of understanding and solidarity.
I missed out a lot more that took place at the alumni event, but watch out for more exciting news from the RCN in future.
To find out more about the RCN PSI Progamme, click link below.
By Matthew McKenzie facilitator of National ethnic carer forum and Chair of Triangle of Care Community Group
Racism is not a distant or abstract concept it is a lived reality for many individuals and families, particularly those from Black, Asian, and other minority ethnic backgrounds. Its effects are pervasive, touching every aspect of life, from education and employment to housing, healthcare, and policing.
This article is a transcript of the video below.
In the UK and beyond, the consequences of racism are especially pronounced in the realm of mental health, where both direct and indirect forms of discrimination create barriers to wellbeing and access to care.
By Matthew McKenzie – Carer activist with Think Tenacity Academy CIC at Nando’s High Street Kensington (Event held during Black History Month 2025)
A Warm Welcome and a Powerful Beginning
On Tuesday 28 October 2025 at Nando’s, 229 Kensington High Street.
As soon as I entered, the scent of grilled peri-peri wings mixed with the buzz of conversation. The event Making Time for Black Mental Health was hosted by Think Tenacity Academy CIC, led by founder Bella Rareworld.
By Matthew McKenzie – Founder of A Caring Mind, unpaid carer, and advocate for ethnic minority carers
This October 2025, I had the privilege of joining Carers Support West Sussex to speak during their Black History Month celebrations under the theme “Standing Firm in Power and Pride.”
Carers Support West Sussex provides advice, emotional support, and practical help to unpaid carers across the county of West Sussex, ensuring they are recognised, valued, and empowered in their caring roles. Their work helps thousands of carers connect with the right information, resources, and community networks when it matters most.
As a Black, unpaid carer of lived experience, I spoke about Race, Inequality, and Carer Voices exploring how racism and structural inequality continue to shape the experiences of carers from ethnic minority backgrounds.
By Matthew McKenzie – Mental Health Carer Activist
As a carer and mental health advocate, I often see how culture, identity, and lived experience shape the stories we tell and the way we support one another. Recently, I attended a remarkable Black History Month event hosted by Certitude, although I could not stay long, I left feeling inspired, proud, and deeply reflective about the intersections between culture, community, and care.
The Black History Month event was held at Bruce Kenrick House on the 16th of October 2025
About Certitude
Certitude is one of London’s leading social care providers, supporting people with learning disabilities, autism, and mental health needs to live fulfilled and independent lives. What makes Certitude special is its person-centred approach celebrating individuality, empowering self-expression, and ensuring that everyone, regardless of background, has the opportunity to thrive.
A Caring Mind 