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Carers Connect Southwark: Why Your Voice Matters More Than Ever

By Matthew McKenzie – A Caring Mind

If you’re an unpaid carer in Southwark, chances are you’re used to putting everyone else first. You support a loved one day in, day out, emotionally, practically, often invisibly. And too often, decisions about “support” for carers are made without carers truly being heard.

Southwark Council is developing its Unpaid Carers Strategy, and they are inviting unpaid carers to take part in upcoming focus groups to share real experiences, which are your lived reality.

As an unpaid carer myself, I know how rare and valuable this opportunity is.

Why having your say is important because

Policies and strategies shape:

  • What support is available
  • How easy (or hard) it is to access help
  • Whether carers feel recognised, supported, and understood

When carers don’t speak up, systems are built around us, not with us. When we do speak up, its a chance to make change becomes possible.

This isn’t about complaining.
It’s about being honest: what works, what doesn’t, and what would genuinely make life easier for carers in Southwark.

Your voice could help shape:

  • Better access to information and services
  • More flexible, carer-friendly support
  • A strategy that reflects the real pressures carers face

A safe, non-judgemental space

One of the most important things about these focus groups is that they are designed to be:

  • Non-judgemental
  • Inclusive
  • Open to carers with any level of responsibility

You don’t need to have all the answers.
You don’t need to be an “expert”.
You just need your experience.

Whether you care full-time, part-time, occasionally, or don’t even label yourself as a “carer” your perspective still counts.

Focus group dates and details

In-person focus groups
📅 24th February
⏰ 11am – 1pm and 2pm – 4pm
📍 Harriet Hardy Community Centre
Harriet-Hardy Building, Aylesbury Estate, Albany Road, Walworth SE5 0AH

Online focus group
📅 25th February
⏰ 7pm
💻 Virtual session via Microsoft Teams

How to get involved

You can:

Even attending one session can make a difference — not just for you, but for other carers now and in the future.

A personal note from me

As unpaid carers, we are often exhausted, overlooked, and expected to “just cope”. Opportunities like this don’t come around often.

Reflections on the West Sussex Community Brain Health & Carers Rights Day Event

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer & Carer Activist

On Thursday 20th November, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at the Memory, Wellbeing and Brain Health event hosted at Broadfield Community Centre in Crawley. Organised by Carers Support West Sussex, the event formed part of Carers Rights Day, bringing together carers, professionals, community teams, and people living with dementia for a day of learning, connection, and support.

Although I couldn’t stay for the full programme due to travelling to another Carers Rights Day engagement later that afternoon, I was grateful to take part in the early sessions and witness the energy and compassion that shaped the whole day.

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Institutional Distrust Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services

Understanding the Hidden Struggles of Ethnic Minority Carers
Caring for a loved one with mental illness can come with challenges, but for many ethnic minority carers, the journey is made more challenging by cultural stigma, language barriers, and a deep-rooted mistrust of formal health systems.

These carers often carry immense responsibility behind closed doors, with little recognition or support. Despite their dedication, many avoid reaching out to mental health services—not because they don’t care, but because past experiences have taught them to be cautious, even fearful.

What Is Institutional Distrust and Why Does It Matter?
Institutional distrust refers to the lack of confidence in systems like healthcare, social care, or government services. For ethnic minority carers, this distrust is often grounded in real experiences of discrimination, cultural insensitivity, or the fear of losing control over a loved one’s care.

When services fail to understand or respect a carer’s background, the result is silence and isolation leaving carers to cope alone, without the help they may desperately need.

A Short Video Giving Voice to Unheard Stories
To shed light on this important issue, I’ve created a short video presentation:
“Institutional Distrust: Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services”


This video draws on the voices and lived experiences of unpaid carers, especially those from ethnic minority backgrounds. It explores the emotional weight they carry, the cultural barriers they navigate, and the urgent need for services to become more inclusive, respectful, and culturally aware.

Why Sharing These Stories Matters
If we truly want to support carers from all backgrounds, we must first listen and really listen to what they’re telling us. By naming institutional distrust and understanding its roots, we can begin to rebuild trust and create spaces where carers feel safe to seek help.

Please watch and share the video, and let’s continue the conversation about what real support looks like for ethnic minority carers in mental health.

Carers Week 2025: Supporting Unpaid Mental Health Carers

Help raise awareness for unpaid mental health carers during Carers Week 2025. Learn how to support and recognize their vital, often unseen role in society. To watch the video of this blog, click the video below

Recognizing the Unseen: The Vital Role of Unpaid Carers in Mental Health

Every year, Carers Week serves as a powerful reminder of the millions of individuals who dedicate their lives to supporting loved ones with health challenges often without recognition, compensation, or adequate support.

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