This week, we come together to recognise something deeply human, yet often hidden: grief and the people who carry it long after the world has moved on.
I’ve created a short video exploring the emotional reality of bereavement, with a special focus on unpaid carers. These are the people who quietly give their time, energy, and love to support someone through illness… and who are often left to grieve in silence when that journey ends.
My hope is that this helps spark conversations, reduce stigma, and remind anyone grieving that you are not alone.
If you or someone you know needs support, these organisations can help:
Let’s work together to make sure every bereaved person, especially unpaid carers so they is heard, supported, and understood. #GrowingWithGrief | #GriefSupport | #UnpaidCarers | #Wellbeing
On 4th December 2025, I had the privilege of attending the Service of Christmas Carols and Readings for Carers UK (for their 60th anniversary) at The King’s Chapel of the Savoy.
As many will know, Carers UK is a national charity that offers advice, information, and advocacy for unpaid carers, people who look after a family member or friend due to illness, disability, mental health challenges or frailty.
Their work is vital and ranges from campaigning for carers’ rights, to shaping policy, to providing emotional and practical support.
As someone who has spent years amplifying carers’ voices, and as someone who has been a carer myself, I always find moments like this grounding. They remind me that carers are so often hidden and deserve spaces of recognition, reflection, and community.
I couldnt capture the whole event, so a lot of it is from memory,
The King’s Chapel of the Savoy, with its royal heritage and intimate atmosphere, felt like the perfect place for such a service. The carved wood, the vivid ceiling, the echo of voices old and new it all contributed to an environment where carers could feel honoured rather than overlooked.
A Service That Told carer Stories
The order of service blended scripture, poetry, classic carols, and carers’ own words. Each part spoke to a different dimension of caring, love, sacrifice, resilience, loss, hope.
Here is a clear, concise list of the Carers UK Christmas Carol Service Order, based on the programme you shared.
Some of the order of Service – Carers UK Christmas Carols and Readings
Carol – Once in Royal David’s City
Welcome & The Bidding Prayer by The Revd Canon Thomas Woodhouse MA
Welcome on Behalf of Carers UK by Helen Walker, Chief Executive
Gospel According to Luke, Chapter 2, Verses 8–20 Reader: Rt Hon Sir Ed Davey MP
Reading – Gospel According to Luke, Chapter 2, Verses 1–7, Reader: The Rt Rev Rob Wickham
Reading – Extract from A Christmas Carol, Reader: Jaycee La Bouche, a carer
The Blessing by The Revd Canon Thomas Woodhouse MA
Below are some reflections on the elements that struck me the most, based on the transcript provided.
I started noting down things when hearing the classic Clement Clarke Moore poem brought a sense of nostalgia and gentleness. For many carers, Christmas isn’t always restful, it can be emotionally heavy or practically demanding. Yet this reading reminded me of the grounding power of tradition.
There was also a Carer’s Poem – “I Carried Him” (Martin Seare), which was read by Tiggy Walker. The poem captured something familiar to many carers, which is the sense of being the energy source behind someone else’s survival. The feeling of being nurse, advocate, motivator, protector, and emotional anchor, all at once.
Jaycee’s reading from A Christmas Carol brought a heartfelt authenticity to the service, grounding Dickens’ message of compassion in real lived experience. Hearing a carer deliver those words reminded me how powerfully stories of renewal that echo the emotional journeys many carers navigate every day.
We also heard an extract from A Christmas Carol, where hearing Dickens’ words about Scrooge’s transformation felt fitting. Carers often live in a world full of systems that need to “wake up” to their realities, these systems overdue for compassion and change.
There was another Carer’s Poem – “Hands That Once Held Me” (Aaliyah O’Neill), which was read by Pippa Haywood. This poem honoured the emotional labour that accompanies caring, the grief, the patience, the love that persists through fading timelines and shifting identities.
Walking around after the service, we were provided with wine and mince pies (I could only handle one glass of mine), but ate a lot of mince pies. I also noticed on a nearby table, beautifully wrapped with red ribbon, were copies of books written by individuals deeply connected to the world of caring.
Tiggy Walker’s Both Sides Now offered a tender, candid exploration of love, loss, and the emotional realities of caring, while Why I Care highlighted personal reflections on the value and challenges of supporting others by Sir Ed Davy. Seeing these books at the event felt fitting, they extended the service’s message by giving carers stories they could see themselves in, learn from, and feel strengthened by.
Carols – Collective Voice, Collective Strength
Carols like “Once in Royal David’s City,” “O Little Town of Bethlehem,” “In the Bleak Midwinter,” “O Come All Ye Faithful,” and “Hark the Herald Angels Sing” took on added meaning.
Singing these in chapel reminded me that carers often feel alone, but they are part of a much larger story. Carols have always been about shared experience, hope, and unity. That unity was felt strongly throughout the chapel.
A Blessing for Carers
Towards the end, The Revd Canon Thomas Woodhouse offered prayers acknowledging:
those who care
those who are cared for
those who grieve
those who find joy in service
those who struggle silently
What the Service Meant to Me as a Carer
I left the event feeling the followng:
Being Seen
Carers rarely hear their stories reflected back to them with such respect. This service did that.
Connected
Being surrounded by fellow carers, supporters, faith leaders, and advocates reminded me that we are not navigating these challenges alone.
Renewed
Christmas can be difficult for many carers, i am running a few carer groups to reduce isolation, but this service offered a moment to pause, reflect, and recharge spiritually and emotionally.
Motivated
Each poem and reading reinforced why I continue to campaign and raise awareness: because carers’ lives, struggles, and contributions must be brought into public consciousness.
Final Thoughts
The Carers UK Christmas Service wasn’t just a festive gathering, it was a space that lifted the voices and experiences of carers into the light.
Carers UK continues to be a champion for those who give so much of themselves. And events like this remind us that recognition, community, and hope are powerful gifts.
I left the chapel gratefull for the stories shared, for the solidarity felt, and for the reminder that carers are, and always have been, at the heart of what makes our communities truly compassionate.
BONUS : A small tour of the chapel.
History in the Woodwork: Discovering the Stories Behind the Savoy Chapel’s Symbols
One unexpected part of attending the Carers UK Christmas Service at The King’s Chapel of the Savoy was the opportunity to explore some of the chapel’s remarkable historical artefacts. As a carer and someone who works in carer advocacy, I often reflect on continuity on how the past shapes the present. Walking around the chapel, I realised the walls were not just decorative; they were storytellers.
These objects and emblems remind us that the Savoy Chapel is a living part of royal, national, and personal history. And in many ways, the quiet endurance reflected in these items echoes the resilience of carers across the country.
1. The Heraldic Plaques on the Chapel Walls
Along the wooden panelled walls were beautifully detailed heraldic plaques, each representing past members or senior figures associated with the Royal Victorian Order or individuals linked to the chapel’s long history of royal service.
The Royal Victorian Order was established in 1896 by Queen Victoria as a way of personally recognising service to the monarch. That personal element, service based on loyalty, commitment, and relationship. That i felt especially meaningful as someone attending the Carers UK event.
Each plaque typically includes:
A coat of arms, with symbols representing the individual’s heritage, achievements, or values.
A Latin motto, often referencing duty, honour, or faith.
A record of rank or title, showing how the person was tied to the Crown or Order.
Standing before these plaques, I was reminded that service, whether to the Crown or to a loved one is always part of a bigger human story.
2. The Book of Remembrance
Displayed under protective glass, the Book of Remembrance is one of the most moving artefacts in the Savoy Chapel. It is handwritten and illuminated in a traditional style, much like medieval manuscripts.
The book honours individuals connected to the chapel, recording their names, contributions, and sometimes short dedications. Every entry is crafted with care, respecting the memory of those who served their communities or the Royal Household.
3. The Stalls with Coats of Arms of Officers and Servants of the Order
In the choir stalls, more coats of arms decorate the woodwork. These represent officers, registrars, chaplains, and others who have served the Royal Victorian Order over the decades.
Each shield is different, but together they form a visual tapestry of dedication. They signal continuity across generations much like how caring roles pass through families, communities, and time.
You can almost imagine the individuals who once occupied these seats, each carrying out their duties with diligence. Their heraldry remains here as a testament to lives spent in service.
4. The Mantle and Insignia of a Knight Grand Cross of the Royal Victorian Order
One of the most striking displays was the ceremonial mantle worn by a Knight Grand Cross of the Royal Victorian Order (GCVO). The deep blue and crimson robe, gold tassels, and the star emblem reflect the highest grade of this honour.
The mantle’s presence is not merely decorative:
The GCVO is awarded personally by the monarch, not via government recommendation.
It recognises exceptional service to the Crown.
The Star, Badge, and Collar each represent centuries-old tradition.
5. The Royal Victorian Order and Medal Display
This framed display explains the different grades of the Royal Victorian Order (RVO) and shows examples of the insignia, including:
Knight/Dame Grand Cross (GCVO)
Knight/Dame Commander (KCVO/DCVO)
Commander (CVO)
Lieutenant (LVO)
Member (MVO)
Royal Victorian Medal (RVM) in Gold, Silver, and Bronze
The RVM is unique because it honours personal service by staff who support the Royal Household directly, often throughout a lifetime. The photos in the display include historical figures wearing the ribbons and badges, underscoring the order’s strong ties to loyalty and lifelong commitment.
Why These Artefacts Mattered at a Carers Event
These historical items weren’t just museum pieces; they told a story of service, loyalty, remembrance, and quiet strength. I think in that sense, they perfectly framed the Carers UK Christmas Service.
Chaired by Matthew McKenzie, Lived-Experience Carer
The latest meeting of the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum brought together unpaid minority carers, community partners and four NHS mental Trusts (Avon & Whiltshire were kind enough to be included to update) to explore progress toward the Patient & Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF), share challenges, and elevate lived-experience voices. As always, I ensured the space remained honest, fast-paced and rooted in what truly matters to ethnic minority carers: being heard, understood and included.
My latest blog for the November forum captures key highlights from each Trust, along with questions raised by attendees, reflecting the critical concerns and lived realities that continue to shape PCREF work across the country.
1. Avon & Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership Trust (AWP)
Focus: Triangle of Care, PCREF oversight, carer champion roles.
Avon & Wiltshire outlined how their PCREF programme is being driven through a clear governance structure, including a central Oversight Group and locality-based meetings. These layers ensure that learning from communities and staff filters upward and influences whole-trust priorities. Their collaboration with Nilaari (I think that is what their called), a long-standing community organisation supporting racially marginalised groups, has been key in grounding their PCREF work in authentic community voice.
A central pillar of their presentation was the strengthening of the Triangle of Care and carer-related PCREF oversight. They recognised that carer involvement cannot rely on goodwill or isolated champions; it requires structurally defined roles, written responsibilities, and consistent organisational expectations. The Trust is working on ensuring that every team and ward embeds a carer champion, whose purpose is not to “do everything for carers”, but to support cultural change within the workforce so that carers are recognised as equal partners.
They emphasised the importance of building staff capacity in cultural humility and safe conversations about race. AWP acknowledged that staff often feel unprepared to discuss ethnicity, discrimination or identity with carers. To address this, the Trust has created psychologically safe internal spaces, particularly for racially marginalised staff—to process experiences and explore how structural and interpersonal inequalities impact both staff wellbeing and patient care. This cultural environment is foundational to PCREF implementation because it shapes how confidently staff engage with diverse carers.
Key Points:
Carer champions must support, not replace, teams in working with carers.
Emphasis on psychological safety for racially marginalised staff and carers.
Encouraging honest conversations around race, trauma, and culture across staff teams.
Questions raised by attendees:
How do you embed cultural awareness within staff teams, not just for carers? – Concern that staff dynamics and cultural differences must be addressed to create consistent culturally responsive care.
How do staff and leaders hold ‘difficult conversations’ about race and safety? – Attendees wanted clarity on how psychological safety is practiced and how managers are supported.
🌟 2. Birmingham & Solihull Mental Health NHS FT
(Children & Young People’s Division – “Co-STARS” programme)
Birmingham & Solihull (CYP) presented one of the most detailed and emotionally grounded PCREF programmes, shaped heavily by lived-experience research with Black diaspora families. Their PCREF priorities, knowing our communities, transforming with communities, and delivering care that works reflect a commitment to embedding cultural responsiveness at every step. Their partnership with the University of Birmingham and Forward Thinking Birmingham has produced the Co-STARS project, a blend of lived-experience-led community work and staff training modules.
A major part of their PCREF advancement comes from working intensively with families to capture how racialised parents feel when using services. The Trust shared powerful testimonies from Black carers who described needing to “emotionally self-regulate” in meetings to avoid being labelled angry, unstable or cold. Parents also highlighted the emotional labour of protecting their children from stereotypes such as the “angry Black boy”, as well as fears of being adultified or dismissed. These insights have directly reshaped responses from clinical teams and informed the development of carers’ passports and safe spaces.
Birmingham & Solihull also emphasised building structures to ensure that their care pathways become culturally competent and adaptive. They are embedding PCREF champions across all clinical pathways, from eating disorders to psychosis and autism, ensuring diversity and inclusion principles shape every aspect of assessment, treatment and review. The Trust is also developing e-learning on culturally responsive practice, and expanding identity-specific support spaces (e.g., Black Carers Groups and new plans for Asian carers’ spaces). This multi-layered approach reflects a commitment to PCREF that is both structural and deeply relational.
Key Points:
Embedding culturally competent conversations within CYP teams.
Developing a Black Carers Group and safe spaces for racialised parent groups.
New e-learning on culturally responsive practice (from Co-STARS package).
Use of carer passports to ensure carers feel like equal partners.
Strong focus on how ethnic minority parents feel judged or misread by services (e.g., “angry Black woman,” “cold mother”) – themes drawn directly from carer focus groups.
Recognising adultification, stereotyping, and the emotional labour families perform.
Questions raised by attendees:
What about older adult Black communities? – Carers questioned how older Black adults, shaped by decades of racism, would be included in PCREF work.
Are you working with the police on cultural awareness? – Concerns around disproportionate use of Section 136 and stereotypes (e.g., assuming someone is “aggressive” because they speak loudly or gesture).
How will parent–carer voices shape service pathways and outcomes across all diagnoses (e.g., autism, psychosis)?
3. Sussex Partnership NHS Foundation Trust
Sussex Partnership presented PCREF as a three-pillared programme: data, co-production & engagement, and workforce development. Their first priority is improving ethnicity and protected characteristics data, which they acknowledged has historically been inconsistent. Sussex is launching a behavioural-change campaign that involves interviewing service users from minority backgrounds about why they may decline to share ethnicity, alongside staff interviews to understand documentation issues. Their goal is a transparent baseline from which meaningful PCREF action can be driven.
The Trust also described significant investment in a new data infrastructure via Power BI dashboards. These tools will pull together real-time information on areas such as restraint, Section 132 rights, and involuntary detention by ethnicity. The Trust stressed that PCREF cannot function without high-quality data because inequalities must be clearly visible and accessible to teams at every level—from ward managers to executive boards. Their future ambition is to enable quicker identification of disparities and faster interventions that prevent harm.
Sussex’s strongest focus was on building genuine co-production through their Expert Delivery Group (EDG). Unlike past approaches where community partners were only consulted, the EDG is designed as a collaborative decision-making space. Sussex acknowledged up front that phase 1 of PCREF planning did not fully embody equal partnership, and committed to ensuring that phase 2 will be co-produced from the ground up. The EDG will define what co-production means, co-design PCREF implementation plans, and shape updates that reflect community priorities, trust recovery, and anti-racist aspirations.
Key Points:
A behavioural-change campaign to improve ethnicity data recording (currently 65% compliance).
Development of Power BI dashboards for rapid inequality analysis.
Defining anti-racist and cultural competency skills for staff, tied to new EDI training.
Creation of the Expert Delivery Group (EDG) as a collaborative community–trust space.
Questions raised by attendees:
Is this “real” co-production or consultation? – Attendees challenged Sussex on whether the initial plan was created with the community or presented to them.
How will service users and carers hold equal power within co-production?
How will your anti-racism ambitions be demonstrated externally to communities? – Attendees expressed concerns that staff training alone does not reassure communities.
How will carers’ needs be embedded in PCREF (Triangle of Care)?
🌟 4. Kent & Medway Mental Health NHS Trust
Presenter:Kamellia (with contribution from Harriet – Lived Experience)
Kent & Medway showcased a comprehensive and governance-driven PCREF structure supported by their Equity for All Assurance Group. The Trust has embedded health inequalities into its broader strategy and is working to ensure that PCREF, protected characteristics data and health equity are woven into everyday practice. With the Trust’s newly updated name and identity, PCREF sits at the centre of a renewed commitment to equitable access, outcomes and patient experience across Kent and Medway.
Their PCREF progress includes delivering cultural competence training to 259 senior leaders, a significant investment in shifting leadership behaviour and expectations. They have also identified major data disparities in areas such as complaints, where ethnicity recording is only around 30%. To address this, they are rolling out the About Me form across their clinical system (Rio), which streamlines demographic and protected characteristics documentation for both carers and patients. This step is being supported by staff training designed to build confidence in discussing sensitive identity-related topics.
Kent & Medway also highlighted the expansion of their new Involvement & Engagement Team, which links directly with communities across East, West and North Kent. They are testing a Health Inequalities Toolkit, improving carer experience data collection, and creating new Family, Friends & Carers forms that capture protected characteristics, communication needs, and whether a carers pack was offered. The Trust’s approach is detailed, structural and long-term, aiming to embed PCREF as part of “business as usual” rather than a separate initiative.
Key Points:
259 senior leaders trained in cultural competence.
New About Me demographic/protected characteristics form launching trust-wide.
Major data gaps identified (e.g., only 30% ethnicity data for complaints).
New Involvement & Engagement Team connecting with community groups.
Testing the Health Inequalities Toolkit .
New Family, Friends & Carers Information Form including carer-pack tracking.
Questions raised by attendees:
Do you provide information in languages other than English? – Carers stressed that if translations don’t exist, PCREF is inaccessible from the start.
How will carers be supported to attend meetings given their unpredictable caring responsibilities?
How will you gather demographic data for carers when many do not have Rio records?
How will minority groups be reached in areas where the Trust’s population is overwhelmingly White British?
5. Carer Support Organisation (Kent & Medway Carers Support)
Presenter:Donna Green (involve Kent)
Key Points:
They run trust-wide carer experience groups and targeted workshops.
Emphasised difficulty for carers to attend meetings due to constant demands.
Highlighted the need for multiple approaches, including creative well-being sessions.
Closing Reflections from the Forum
I wrapped up the session acknowledging:
The strong desire across Trusts to improve PCREF delivery.
The pressure to progress quickly without losing sight of lived experience leadership.
The need to bring CQC into future meetings for transparency around expectations.
The importance of ethnic minority carers having a forum that values honesty over polished presentations.
Final Thoughts
This month’s forum demonstrated that while progress continues nationally, there remain shared challenges across NHS Mental HealthTrusts:
Recording ethnicity and protected characteristics meaningfully
Embedding anti-racism beyond training modules
Meeting the needs of Black, Asian and other racialised carers
Co-production that is real, not rhetorical
Involving carers whose time and emotional capacity are already stretched
Ensuring safety, trust and humanity in every interaction.
Above all, the session showed that ethnic minority carers are not passive observers they’re leading, questioning, shaping and insisting on accountability at every step.
Chaired by: Matthew McKenzie – Lived Experience Carer
Welcome to the November 2025 update of the Hosptial Carer discharge group. The Hospital Carer Discharge Group is a collaborative network chaired by lived-experience carer Matthew McKenzie, bringing together unpaid carers, carer-centre teams, hospital staff and local authority representatives to improve how carers are identified, supported and involved throughout a patient’s hospital journey.
The group provides a space to share updates from hospitals and carers’ organisations, highlight challenges in discharge processes, strengthen links between community and acute services, and promote consistent carer-focused practices such as using the Carers Hospital Discharge Toolkit, developing standard operating procedures, and raising staff awareness.
The November meeting focused updates from the South East London Carer Standard Operating Procedure pilot, improving carer identification, strengthening links between community and hospital services, and practical challenges in engaging hospital teams.
For those who don’t know, In the context of the Hospital Carer Discharge an SOP is a step-by-step, structured process that hospital staff follow to ensure unpaid carers are identified, informed, supported and included consistently during a patient’s hospital stay and discharge.
It usually outlines:
How to record, communicate and follow up on carer involvement
Who is responsible at each stage (nurses, discharge teams, carer services)
What actions must be taken (e.g., asking about caring roles, sharing information, making referrals)
When these actions should happen (admission, treatment phase, discharge planning)
Who Attended
The session was well attended by a mix of carers, hospital representatives, and carer-centre staff, including:
Carer representatives
Matthew McKenzie – Chair; lived experience mental health carer; Carers UK, Carers Trust & NHS England Citizens Advisory Group volunteer.
Various peer supporters, carers involved in local networks and PPGs.
Carer support organisations
Carers Hub Lambeth
Tower Hamlets Carer Centre
Wandsworth Carer Centre
North Central London Carers Support Project
Apologies
Sutton Carers Centre
Richmond Carers Centre
Greenwich Carers Centre
Harrow Carers Centre
Bromley Well
IMAGO – Lewisham carers Centre
Bexley Carers Support
Involve Kent
Hospitals & NHS staff
Queen Elizabeth Hospital (Lewisham & Greenwich NHS Trust)
Public Service Consultants (PSC)
Bromley, Lambeth, Lewisham, Greenwich council leads (mentioned in discussion)
St George’s Hospital (GESH) – references to staff
Meeting Overview
The growing importance of carer involvement in hospitals, especially with mental health pressures and changes to the Mental Health Act.
The group’s purpose: sharing updates, strengthening links between carers and hospitals, and improving the implementation of the Carers Hospital Discharge Toolkit.
Key Presentation – Update on the South East London Carer SOP Pilot
Speaker:Public Service Consultants (PSC)
The major portion of the meeting focused on the pilot testing of a new 11-step Standard Operating Procedure for identifying and supporting unpaid carers across hospitals in South East London.
🔹 Hospitals involved in the SOP pilot
King’s College Hospital – Acute Medicine ward
University Hospital Lewisham – Hawthorne (older patients) and Alder (specialty medicine) wards
Princess Royal University Hospital (Bromley) – Frailty Unit via Transfer of Care Hub
🔹 Key outcomes
King’s College Hospital saw the strongest progress.
Nurses proactively engaged unpaid carers.
All leaflets and materials were distributed within weeks.
Carer details (with consent) were passed to Lambeth Carers Hub.
Nursing staff requested feedback loops to see the impact of referrals.
Lewisham Hospital
Progress slower initially; improved after site visits.
Ward managers highly supportive and embedding SOP practices.
Lewisham Council exploring funding for an in-hospital carers support team.
Princess Royal (Bromley)
SOP and leaflets now shared with the frailty unit.
Council to continue taking work forward.
🔹 Overall reflections
Hospitals still experience heavy winter pressures and staff capacity issues.
Engagement differs widely between NHS trusts.
Many ward teams had never seen the London Carers Toolkit, indicating a need for simplification.
Councils intend to continue cross-borough meetings after PSC’s involvement ends.
Issues & Discussion Points
1. Gaps in consistency across hospital sites
Queen Elizabeth Hospital (QEH) had not been part of the pilot, they have requested to be included
Staff expressed interest in adopting SOP materials and joining future rollout.
2. Carer diversity and training needs
Caroline highlighted the need for:
Training reflecting different care needs: LD, dementia, mental health, elderly carers.
Cultural diversity considerations in how carers interact with hospital teams.
Better alignment with Lewisham & Greenwich’s Compassion in Care programme.
3. Current SOP scope limitations
SOP starts at the ward stage, but carers need involvement pre-admission and post-discharge.
Best practice from NICE and the national toolkit emphasises whole-journey support.
4. Hospital culture & resistance
Carer-centre staff described feeling:
Like a “hindrance” in MDT or discharge meetings
Sometimes unwelcome or blocked from engaging on wards
Fighting clinical priorities vs. carer rights
Still needing major awareness-raising to reduce resistance
A carer noted power imbalances and the risk that carers are seen as “barriers to discharge” rather than essential partners.
Updates from Carer Centres & Hospital Teams
Carers Hub Lambeth
Significant increase in referrals, especially from King’s.
Engagement seems weaker at Guy’s & St Thomas’, it looks to be still pushing for a stronger carers strategy there, but hopeful the strategy should pick up.
Working with ward rounds and direct conversations with carers.
North Central London Carers Project
Working across 8 hospital sites, possilbly
Royal Free Hospital
Barnet Hospital
North Middlesex Hospital
Chase Farm Hospital
The Whittington Hospital
University College Hospital
St Pancras Rehabilitation (Camden and West London)
Community Central London Trust
North London Foundation Trust (Mental Health)
Updates include:
A hospital “menu” to track progress across the toolkit (training, comms, discharge planning).
Embedding carers into induction programmes.
Co-authoring discharge documentation at St Pancras Rehab Centre with dedicated “carer sections”.
Upcoming use of Cerner electronic records system to automatically flag carers.
Tower Hamlets Carer Centre
Carer representative based at Royal London Hospital (east London)
Challenges include:
Slow referrals & reliance on staff awareness
Some carers only identified at crisis stage
Need to expand the carers passport across Royal London
Hackney pilot ends in March concerns about future funding
Wandsworth Carer Centre / St George’s
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Developing carer awareness training with Patient Experience Team
Growth in referrals after training sessions, though staff forget over time
Plan to expand ward coverage
As chair I shared St George’s new Carers Charter as a tool for accountability
Carer-Led Developments in Primary Care
A group of Lewisham unpaid carers has begun major work with GP practices, including:
Creating a PCN-wide carers information pack
Ensuring carer champions in GP surgeries
Working with pharmacies to distribute information
Improving identification on GP systems
Exploring alignment with Lewisham’s new Carers Action Plan
Plans for the Future
More invitations to NHS carer strategy leads
Sharing SOP materials with non-pilot hospitals where possible.
Matthew to link contacts across councils and hospitals for ongoing monitoring, being the following boroughs e.g.
Lewisham
Assistant Director – Adult Mental Health & Wellbeing
Joint Commissioner – Adult Mental Health & Wellbeing
Greenwich
Strategic Commissioning Lead
Commissioning Lead for Carers
Bromley
Assistant Director – Commissioning
Commissioning Officer
Bexley
Service Manager – Adult Social Care
Lambeth
Integrated Commissioning Manager – Adults and Health
Southwark
Strategic Programmes Manager
Commissioning Manager
Medium-term aims
Push for in-hospital carer support teams in Lewisham & Greenwich.
Expand training and embed carers into staff induction.
Improve pre-admission and discharge-planning pathways on carer identification and involvement for familes and carers.
Stronger collaboration between LD nurses, dementia teams, and carers services.
Longer-term aspirations
Greater consistency across trusts
Unified carers strategy within each hospital
A system where carers are routinely recognised, supported, and involved in decisions
Closing Remarks
As cchair I closed the meeting by thanking attendees and acknowledging the collective effort to improve carers’ experiences across London hospitals. I reaffirmed the importance of:
Making carers visible
Ensuring rights are upheld
Strengthening trust–carer relationships
Carrying learning into the new year
The next meeting will be scheduled in January, with hopes of smoother cross-hospital collaboration in 2024.
On a brisk November afternoon, unpaid mental health carers across Greenwich gathered once again, not just to share experiences, but to seek answers, influence services, and strengthen community. Facilitated by long-time carer advocate Matthew McKenzie, the forum brought together carers, relatives, professionals, and two guest speakers from Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust.
As I explained when opening the meeting, the purpose of the forum is twofold connection and influence:
November’s session featured two speakers:
✅ Speaker 1 — Lorraine Regan
Director for Community Mental Health, Learning Disabilities & Autism, Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust
✅ Speaker 2 — Janice Williamson
Carer Involvement Lead, Oxleas NHS Foundation Trust
Both provided insight into service pressures, carer involvement, policy development, training, assessments, and support improvements happening across the trust.
Speaker Introduction — Lorraine Regan
Lorraine opened by introducing her background and role:
By Matthew McKenzie, Co-Facilitator – SW London Carers Forum
About the South West London Carers Group
The South West London Carers Group brings together unpaid mental health carers from across the boroughs of Sutton, Merton, Wandsworth, Richmond and Kingston, to share experiences, gain peer support, and stay informed about local health and social care developments.
The group provides a safe and welcoming space where carers can discuss the challenges of supporting loved ones particularly those with long-term conditions or mental health needs while also learning from guest speakers, professionals, and each other. Co-facilitated by myself, the forum plays an important role in making carers’ voices heard and strengthening connections between carers and local NHS, mental health, and community services.
Our November South West London Carers Group meeting brought one of the most informative sessions we’ve had all year. We were joined by Dalvinder, the Patient Experience Lead for NHS 111, who provided a thorough and eye-opening look at how the 111 urgent care service really works, what carers can expect, and how the system is evolving.
Dal’s role involves reviewing patient feedback, monitoring the quality of calls, and ensuring that the service remains compassionate, safe, and responsive. He also regularly meets with community groups, like ours to raise awareness of what 111 can offer.
24/7 Telephone Assessments
Dal opened by reminding us that NHS 111 operates 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and never closes. The telephone assessment is often the first point of contact, and callers speak to a trained health advisor who uses the NHS Pathways system to ask structured questions. This ensures the call handler can rule out serious issues and direct the caller to the right service quickly. Dal emphasised that while questions can feel detailed or repetitive, each answer opens or closes clinical “pathways,” helping the system determine the safest next step.
GP Home Visiting (Evenings, Overnights, Weekends)
One of the biggest surprises for many carers was learning that NHS 111 has a GP home visiting service, specifically for times when GP surgeries are closed weekday evenings, overnight, weekends, and bank holidays. This service is intended for people who cannot safely travel, including those with mobility issues, caring responsibilities, or urgent health needs that don’t require hospital care. If a home visit is determined to be appropriate, a GP working for 111 can visit in a dedicated GP car and may provide medication on the spot or issue prescriptions if needed.
Primary Care Clinics (PCCs) – Same-Day Appointments via 111
Dal also explained the role of Primary Care Clinics (PCCs) located across South West London. These clinics operate outside normal GP hours and can see patients the same day—but crucially, access is by 111 referral only. If 111 decides that someone needs to see a GP face-to-face and can travel, they may be booked into a PCC appointment. Carers learned that you cannot walk into these clinics directly; 111 must assess the situation and confirm the appointment. This helps manage demand and ensures that appointments go to those who need them most urgently.
The Expanding Role of Pharmacies and “Pharmacy First”
Another major theme was the evolving role of pharmacies in urgent care. Dal explained that pharmacists are highly trained professionals—more trained than many realise—and 111 can now direct callers to pharmacists for assessments, repeat prescriptions, and urgent medication needs. The Pharmacy First scheme allows some pharmacies to provide consultations and treatment in private rooms for a range of minor illnesses. 111 can also arrange emergency prescription access if someone runs out of routine medication while travelling, provided the medication is part of their regular treatment.
Arranging Call-Backs From Your Own GP
In certain situations, NHS 111 can request that your own GP practice contacts you, especially for non-face-to-face issues such as renewal of regular medication, questions about paperwork, or administrative needs. While GP appointment slots reserved for 111 are limited and fill quickly, the service can still send urgent notifications to GP surgeries when clinically necessary. Dal encouraged carers to mention when the need is time-sensitive so the system can prioritise appropriately.
Mental Health Support via 111 Option 2
One of the most important updates for mental health carers was the introduction of 111 Option 2, currently being trialled across London. When callers choose this option, the call is diverted away from standard 111 and straight to local specialist mental health teams, who can assess issues such as relapse, agitation, distress, changes in behaviour, or crises at home. Dal emphasised that while 111 is not a specialist mental health service, Option 2 ensures that people with mental health needs receive expert support. Data from the pilot is expected next year, and Dal offered to return to share the outcomes.
What We Learned About NHS 111
Many carers know the NHS 111 number exists, but few realise the range of services behind it. Dal explained that 111 is a free, 24/7 service (including weekends and holidays) designed for urgent health concerns that are not life-threatening.
Many carers commented that they had no idea 111 provided such a broad range of services.
Questions From Carers
Carers asked many thoughtful and practical questions during the session, including:
1. Mental Health Crises
A carer asked how 111 responds to mental health emergencies, particularly when someone becomes distressed, unwell, or difficult to support at home.
Dal explained that 111 itself is a generic urgent care service, but Option 2 sends callers straight to trained mental health professionals, who can triage cases such as relapse, agitation, or risk concerns in a more specialist way.
2. Access to Medical Records
A question was raised about whether 111’s clinicians can view a patient’s medical history.
Dal clarified that clinicians have access to the Summary Care Record, containing essential medical information, medications, conditions, and recent interactions—if the caller gives consent.
3. Home Visiting Times and Coverage
Carers asked about response times and geographical limits.
Dal explained that SW London is fully covered, though travel times vary depending on the area and how busy the service is. Home visiting is evenings, nights, and weekends only.
4. Staffing Levels and Training
One question focused on whether call handlers are medically trained.
Dal shared that 111 employs 180 health advisors in SW London—non-clinical staff who have completed an intensive six-week training program. They follow the NHS Pathways system and are supported by clinical advisors (GPs, nurses, paramedics) who can join or take over calls when needed.
5. Using 111 When Travelling
A carer asked about getting medication while away from home.
Dal explained that 111 can arrange for prescription collections at pharmacies in another part of England, which has helped many travellers who forget medication.
6. Hearing Impairment and Accessibility
There was interest in support for people who cannot make phone calls.
Dal confirmed services such as text relay, online 111, and the NHS App, all of which improve accessibility for carers and patients with additional needs.
Carer Reflections and Experiences
Several carers shared personal experiences both positive and challenging. One described how 111 triage was vital when they urgently needed treatment for a severe infection, while another discussed difficulties when GP surgeries didn’t always respond quickly to reports sent by 111. These real stories helped emphasise how important it is for carers to know when and how to use the service, and how essential accurate information is during triage.
Key Tips Dal Shared for Carers
Give as much information as possible, including social factors such as caring responsibilities, mobility challenges, or inability to travel.
Stay with the person you’re calling about, as the call handler will ask you to check symptoms in real time.
Tell 111 if symptoms change—this can alter the urgency and outcome.
Always keep your phone nearby when waiting for a callback; 111 will try only three times.
Don’t hesitate to call again if you’re unsure or worried.
Closing Thoughts
The session was incredibly well-received. Many carers said they learned things they never knew, even though they had used 111 before. Dal’s openness and honesty—both about what the service can do and what its limitations are—made his presentation especially valuable.
As co-facilitator, I (Matthew McKenzie) will continue to share information like this to help carers navigate local health services more confidently. We hope to invite Dal back once the evaluation of 111 Option 2 (mental health) is published, we also have a keen interest on what the ICB is doing especially regarding carer involvement.
On Thursday 20th November, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at the Memory, Wellbeing and Brain Health event hosted at Broadfield Community Centre in Crawley. Organised by Carers Support West Sussex, the event formed part of Carers Rights Day, bringing together carers, professionals, community teams, and people living with dementia for a day of learning, connection, and support.
Although I couldn’t stay for the full programme due to travelling to another Carers Rights Day engagement later that afternoon, I was grateful to take part in the early sessions and witness the energy and compassion that shaped the whole day.
Welcome to the latest edition of my unpaid carer newsletter for November This month’s release is full of insights, stories and resources to support carers across the UK.
On this year’s Carers Rights Day 2025 (Thursday 20 November), the theme is “Know your rights, use your rights.”
If you care for someone, whether it’s a partner, parent, child or friend; you may be missing out on vital support simply because you didn’t realise you have rights as a carer.
In my new video I walk you through what those rights actually are, and how you can use them in practice.
In this video you’ll discover:
Why recognising yourself as a carer matters
Key rights every carer should know (from assessments to flexible working)
How to make use of those rights in your daily life
Where to go for help, guidance and support
Click the link, take two minutes, and empower yourself today.
For Unpaid carers those who support loved ones living with long-term physical or mental health conditions, they face a unique set of challenges. The role is often demanding, emotionally taxing, and can feel isolating. Yet, in recent years, the rapid advancement of digital tools, apps, and online platforms has begun to transform the landscape of unpaid care, offering new avenues for support, organization, and connection.
My blog is a short transcript of my longer video below
Drawing from the lived experience as a passionate advocate for unpaid carers and an IT professional, my article and video explores how digitization, artificial intelligence, and mobile technology are reshaping the way informal carers manage their responsibilities. We’ll delve into the practical benefits, the most useful apps, and the limitations of technology in the caring role, providing a comprehensive guide for carers seeking to harness digital tools for their own well-being and the well-being of those they support.
Understanding the Role of Technology in Unpaid Care
The Growing Demands on Carers
Unpaid carers often juggle multiple responsibilities: managing medication schedules, tracking symptoms, coordinating appointments, and advocating for their loved ones with health professionals. The emotional and cognitive load can be overwhelming, especially when combined with work, family, and personal commitments.
As I points out, “As humans, we can only remember things so often. So, especially when we’re getting older or if we are under a lot of stress trying to juggle our caring role and busy lives, it does help to have apps that can schedule these things.”
The Promise of Digitization
Digitization offers carers a “second brain”, a way to offload tasks, reminders, and information, reducing stress and mental clutter. Mobile phones, now more powerful than ever, serve as hubs for health management, communication, and emotional support. But while technology can be transformative, it’s not without its challenges, including digital literacy, access, and the irreplaceable of value of human connection.
The Future of Care: Technology as an Empowering Force
The digital revolution is reshaping unpaid care, offering carers new ways to manage responsibilities, connect with others, and support their own well-being. While technology is not a replacement, it can be a powerful ally, reducing stress, improving organization, and fostering community.
As my experience shows, embracing digital tools can transform the caring journey. By leveraging apps for health management, communication, and emotional support, carers can reclaim control, reduce isolation, and find new sources of strength.
Ultimately, the goal is not to replace human kindness or connection, but to empower carers with the tools they need to thrive. With thoughtful adoption and ongoing support, technology can help unpaid carers navigate the challenges of their role and build a brighter, more connected future.
Resources and Recommendations my video covers
Essential Apps for Carers
Pill Reminder: Medication management and alerts
Medsafe: Medication tracking and scheduling
NHS App: Health records, care plans, and feedback (UK)
Google Calendar / Microsoft Outlook: Appointment and routine management
To-Do List / Trello: Task organization
Zoom / Microsoft Teams / Google Chat: Virtual support groups and communication
Siri / Google Assistant: Voice commands and reminders
AI Journals / Well-being Apps: Emotional support and mindfulness
Tips for Safe and Effective Use
Choose reputable apps with strong privacy policies
Keep software updated to ensure security
Seek training or support if you’re new to digital tools
Balance online and offline support for holistic well-being
Conclusion
Unpaid carers are the unsung heroes of our communities, providing vital support to those living with long-term ill health. The rise of digital tools and technology offers new hope, making the caring role more manageable, less isolating, and more connected.
By embracing digitization, carers can streamline their responsibilities, access emotional support, and build resilient communities. While challenges remain, the future of care is bright, powered by technology and the enduring spirit of human kindness.
A Caring Mind 