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Hospital Carer Discharge Meeting – March Update 2026

By Matthew McKenzie (Chair)

I chaired our March hospital discharge network meeting with a real sense of momentum building across the system. What continues to strike me is the mix of voices in the room, commissioners, carers centres, hospital representatives, and grassroots advocates all trying to tackle the same persistent issue: how we properly involve and support unpaid carers during and after hospital discharge.

As someone with lived experience, particularly in mental health and complex care, I always come back to one key question:
Are carers being treated as partners, or are they still being treated as visitors?

This meeting gave us a very honest answer progress is happening, but there is still a long way to go.


Key Presentation: Derbyshire HConnect Project

Emma’s presentation was, for me, an important part of the meeting not because it introduced something completely new, but because it clearly articulated what many carers have been saying for years, and then actually did something about it.

What stood out immediately was that this wasn’t a project designed in isolation. It was built directly from carer voice and lived experience. The starting point wasn’t “how do we improve discharge?” it was “what are carers actually experiencing right now?”

And what carers described was difficult to hear, but not surprising.

Carers spoke about not being recognised at all. Some said no one had even asked if they were a carer. Others described situations where their knowledge of the person they care for was ignored, even when it was critical. One example that stayed with me was a carer describing their loved one being discharged in the middle of winter, late at night, without proper clothing or preparation.

There was a consistent feeling that once someone enters hospital, the carer’s role is almost paused or worse, dismissed entirely.

What the HConnect project does differently is acknowledge that this isn’t just a communication issue it’s a system and culture issue.

Instead of relying on one intervention, the model works across multiple layers of the hospital system. It introduces dedicated hospital liaison workers who build relationships with wards, while also ensuring carers themselves are visible and supported directly on-site. At the same time, it invests in staff through training, guidance, and practical tools so that engaging carers becomes part of everyday practice rather than an optional extra.

What I found particularly important is that the project doesn’t assume staff are unwilling—it recognises that many staff simply lack the confidence, knowledge, or structure to engage carers properly. In fact, the findings showed that many hospital teams had never received any formal carer awareness training and were often unaware that carers even have a legal right to be involved in discharge planning.

The research element of the project adds another layer of depth. Through interviews with carers, several consistent themes emerged.

Carers described feeling invisible—treated as visitors rather than partners in care. They talked about their expertise being dismissed, even when they knew the patient best. Communication was often unclear or inconsistent, and discharge frequently felt rushed, with little notice or preparation. In many cases, carers ended up acting as the safety net catching mistakes, coordinating care, and managing complex needs on their own once the person returned home.

What struck me most is that these issues aren’t just isolated incidents they are patterns.

But importantly, the presentation didn’t just focus on what’s going wrong. It also highlighted what good looks like. In situations where carers were listened to, involved early, and treated as equal partners, the entire experience changed for both the carer and the patient. The challenge now is making that level of practice consistent, not exceptional.

The project is already showing tangible impact. There has been a noticeable increase in carers being identified within hospital settings, more referrals coming directly from health professionals, and hundreds of carers receiving support through the programme.

For me, the biggest takeaway from this presentation is this:

This isn’t about adding more services it’s about changing behaviour across the system.

The HConnect model recognises that for carers to be properly involved, three things need to be in place: staff need the capability to identify carers, the opportunity within the system to engage them, and the motivation to see this as a core part of care. Without all three, change simply won’t stick.

And that’s why this work matters. Because until carers are consistently seen, heard, and included, we will continue to see the same issues repeating no matter how many initiatives we introduce.


Lewisham Commissioner Update

From Lewisham’s commissioning side, there were some strong practical developments.

A key initiative is the rollout of a carer welcome pack, designed to be:

  • Clearly visible in hospital settings
  • Easily accessible to carers at the point of need

This is being strengthened through:

  • Increased collaboration with hospital staff
  • Plans to expand distribution across wards

From Lewisham, we also received a really significant update around system-level change, particularly the development of a Standard Operating Procedure (SOP) for engaging unpaid carers in hospital settings.

This work has been led across South East London ICB, with an external partner supporting the design. The aim of the SOP is to provide:

  • Clear guidance to hospital wards
  • Practical prompts and questions for staff
  • A consistent approach to identifying and engaging carers during hospital stays

What stood out to me is that this isn’t just a document, it’s designed to change behaviour on the ground. It focuses on something simple but powerful:
how staff start conversations with carers and recognise the people already supporting patients.

In Lewisham, University Hospital Lewisham was selected as one of the pilot sites, with two wards testing the approach. The next stage is particularly important:

  • The SOP is being embedded into Trust templates
  • It is due to be presented to the Trust board for formal approval
  • There are plans to roll this out across Lewisham and Greenwich NHS Trust, including Queen Elizabeth Hospital (Woolwich)

What I found especially encouraging is that carers have been involved throughout:

  • Input gathered through workshops
  • Further feedback taken to the Lewisham Council’s Open Carers Forum
  • Ongoing opportunity for boroughs to adapt the SOP to local needs

Alongside this, Lewisham is continuing practical work on the ground:

  • Strengthening links between commissioned carers services and hospital staff
  • Expanding visibility through carer welcome packs and information points within the hospital

For me, this is one of the most important developments discussed in the meeting. If implemented properly, a shared SOP like this has the potential to:

  • Reduce inconsistency across wards
  • Embed carer identification into everyday practice
  • Move us closer to a system where carers are routinely recognised—not accidentally discovered

Hospital Update: Lewisham & Greenwich NHS Trust

A really important contribution came from the patient experience perspective at Lewisham and Greenwich NHS Trust, which covers University Hospital Lewisham and Queen Elizabeth Hospital (Woolwich).

From the Trust side, there was clear recognition that:

  • The work carers are doing is valuable and essential to patient outcomes
  • There is a need to improve physical visibility of carer support within hospital settings
  • Space and infrastructure need to better support engagement (for example, identifying a permanent location for carer engagement and resources)

There was also a willingness to:

  • Explore how carer-led engagement (including my own involvement) can be better embedded within the hospital environment
  • Strengthen links between patient experience teams and carers organisations

From my perspective, this was a positive and practical discussion. Too often we talk about engagement in theory—but here we were talking about where the table actually goes on the ward, and that level of detail matters.

Because if carers can’t see you, they can’t access you.


Greenwich (Commissioning & Mental Health)

Greenwich colleagues spoke about their broader system approach, particularly within mental health.

Their focus includes:

  • Identifying gaps in carer support across services
  • Embedding carers within commissioning priorities
  • Understanding what carers themselves want from local systems

They also posed an important question to the group:
What should local authorities prioritise for carers?

My answer was straightforward:
We need clear leadership and accountability, a named person or role responsible for carers across the system.

Without that, good work risks becoming fragmented.


Lambeth Carers Hub (King’s College Hospital & St Thomas’ Hospital)

Lambeth shared a detailed and honest update regarding their work across King’s College Hospital and Guys and St Thomas Hospital

Key points included:

  • Their hospital discharge project is continuing, but with reduced capacity due to funding constraints
  • They have secured a short-term extension, allowing work to continue until September
  • A major focus is now embedding carer awareness training into staff induction processes

Importantly, they raised a systemic issue:

  • The need to hold commissioned care agencies accountable, particularly when carers report poor-quality care after discharge

This is critical. Discharge doesn’t end at the hospital door—if the care package fails, the whole system fails.


Southwark Council Update

From Southwark, we heard about work being done at a system level, particularly linked to:

  • Development of discharge information resources across South East London
  • Collaboration across boroughs and NHS partners

The intention is for these resources to be:

  • Widely accessible and adaptable
  • Used across multiple organisations, rather than siloed locally

Given the proximity to major hospitals like King’s College Hospital and GSTT hosptal, this kind of coordinated approach is essential.


City & Hackney Carers Centre (Homerton Hospital)

A more concerning update came from City & Hackney, particularly regarding work linked to Homerton Hospital.

They reported:

  • The loss of a hospital discharge worker role
  • A significant drop in referrals to the carers centre as a result
  • Reduced presence within the hospital environment

This clearly demonstrates something we often say but don’t always quantify:

When you remove dedicated roles, you remove outcomes.

The worker’s presence had been directly contributing to engagement and referrals. Without that, carers are once again at risk of being missed.


Richmond Carers Centre (Kingston Hospital)

Updates from Richmond Carers Centre highlighted both strong engagement and opportunities to build further.

Positives:

  • Strong referral pathways coming through from Kingston Hospital, particularly linked to discharge activity
  • Ongoing professional awareness work, helping improve understanding of carers across services

There is a clear foundation here, with established relationships already supporting carers into services. The opportunity now is to build on that by increasing visibility and strengthening in-hospital engagement further.


Richmond Borough Mind (Springfield Hospital – SWLSTG)

From Richmond Borough Mind, the focus was more specifically on their work within South West London and St George’s Mental Health Trust (SWLSTG), particularly at Springfield Hospital.

Key challenges highlighted:

  • Difficulty accessing wards within Springfield Hospital, limiting direct engagement with carers
  • Limited contact with carers when based in general hospital areas rather than embedded on wards
  • Ongoing challenge in identifying where carers are most visible and reachable within mental health settings

What came through strongly is that, despite proactive efforts such as setting up stands and being present on-site, footfall from carers remains low unless services are embedded directly into ward environments.

This reinforces a key point for me:

In mental health settings especially, access is everything—if you’re not where carers are, you simply won’t reach them.


Bexley Carers (Post-Discharge & Reablement Focus)

Bexley brought an important perspective that often gets overlooked what happens after discharge.

Their work is focusing on:

  • Supporting carers once reablement packages end
  • Recognising that carers often deprioritise themselves during discharge, only to struggle later
  • Increasing concern around safeguarding and mental health, particularly in dementia care

This is where we need to shift thinking:
Discharge is not the endpoint—it’s the start of a new phase of care.


Cross-Cutting Reflections

Across all updates, several consistent themes emerged:

  • Inconsistent carer identification across wards and trusts
  • Funding fragility, with projects often short-term
  • Need for embedded training, not optional sessions
  • Importance of visibility within hospital environments
  • Gaps in post-discharge support, especially after reablement

My Closing Thoughts

Chairing this meeting, I was struck by both the progress and the gaps.

There is innovation happening in Derbyshire, in Lambeth, in Lewisham, across South East London. But it’s uneven. And carers feel that inconsistency every day.

For me, the priority remains clear:

  • Identify carers early
  • Involve them properly
  • Support them beyond discharge

Because when we get that right, everything else improves—outcomes, safety, and experience.

And until we get that right consistently, we still have work to do.

What the new London Assembly carers report really means for unpaid carers

This week as of this blog post, the London Assembly published a major new report on unpaid carers: “London’s unpaid carers: Caring for the carers.”

I had the opportunity to contribute to this work as a carer and advocate, alongside others who shared their lived experience. Seeing those voices reflected in the final report is both encouraging and a reminder of how much still needs to change for unpaid carers in London.

👉 Read the full report:
https://www.london.gov.uk/who-we-are/what-london-assembly-does/london-assembly-work/london-assembly-publications/economy-culture-and-skills-report-londons-unpaid-carers

👉 Carers UK press release:
https://www.carersuk.org/news-and-campaigns/press-releases/new-report-from-the-london-assembly-economy-culture-and-skills-committee-calls-for-more-financial-support-for-londons-unpaid-carers/


The reality: carers are still “hidden”

One of the strongest messages in the report is that many unpaid carers are still not identified.

Too often, people caring for a partner, parent, or child don’t even realise they are classed as a “carer” which means they miss out on financial support, services, and basic recognition.

From my own experience, and what was shared at the Assembly, this is especially true for:

  • Mental health carers
  • Carers from ethnic minority backgrounds
  • Indentification of unpaid carers

If you’re not identified, I feel you don’t exist in the system.


Financial pressure is a major issue

The report possibly confirms what many carers already know:

  • Nearly 1 in 3 carers in London are living in poverty
  • Carer’s Allowance is not enough to live on
  • Many carers have to reduce work or leave employment entirely

There are positive recommendations here like reviewing Carer’s Allowance and reducing travel costs, but these need to turn into real change, not just policy discussions.


Support isn’t working as it should

Another issue raised in the report and something I spoke about is that support often feels like a “tick-box exercise”.

Carers go through assessments, but:

  • Support is limited
  • Funding is inconsistent
  • Real help (like respite care) is hard to access, especially for mental health carers, I mean what does respite actually mean for mental health unpaid carers?

Identification alone isn’t enough. I think It has to lead to meaningful, practical support.


So what needs to happen next?

The report makes some important recommendations:

  • Better identification of carers across London
  • More funding for local carer services
  • Changes to Carer’s Allowance
  • Improved workplace support
  • and a lot more, but you would have to go through the report.

But the key question now is: will this actually be implemented?

Carers don’t need more recognition alone we need action.


Final thoughts

Unpaid carers are holding up the health and social care system every single day.

This report is a very important step forward. But it should be the beginning of change not the end of the conversation.

If you are a carer, or know someone who is, I’d encourage you to read the report and share your experiences. The more visible carers are, the harder it is for the system to ignore us.

Involve Kent Carers’ Forum – 25th February 2026

By Matthew McKenzie

On 25th February 2026, I had the privilege of speaking at the Carers’ Forum hosted by Involve Kent.

Involve is a voluntary sector infrastructure organisation in Kent that supports unpaid carers by providing information, advice and practical help to make caring more manageable.

They organise regular carers’ forums and events where carers can meet each other, access specialist support services, hear from guest speakers on issues like benefits, legal rights and wellbeing, and contribute their lived experience to local planning and decision-making. Involve also connects carers with tailored resources, signposts to relevant services across health, social care and community sectors, and advocates for carers’ voices to be heard by policymakers and service providers

The forum ran from 10:30am to 1:30pm and brought together unpaid carers from across Kent to connect, learn and have their voices heard.

It was my second time speaking at this forum, and once again I was struck by something powerful: the room was full. That might sound simple, but in the world of unpaid caring which can often feel isolating and invisible a full room means solidarity. It means people are choosing, despite exhaustion and competing demands, to show up for themselves and each other.


Arriving and the atmosphere

From the moment I walked in, there was a real sense of warmth. Information stands lined the hall Involve, Citizens Advice, mental health services, energy advice, leisure services and more. Tables were covered in leaflets, conversations were already flowing, and carers were reconnecting with familiar faces.

The purpose of the forum was clear:

To enable those caring unpaid for an adult family member, partner or friend to meet, gain information about services in their community and have their voices heard .

That last part to have their voices heard is what resonated most with me.

It was also good to see Carer leads from Cygnet Maidstone engaging with carers in the community of Kent.


My talk: Caring for someone with a mental health diagnosis

I spoke about caring for someone with a mental health diagnosis and the Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework .

As many know, I cared for my mother who lived with schizophrenia, and I now support a close friend who lives with personality disorder and addiction challenges. I don’t speak as a clinician. I spoke as someone who has sat in GP waiting rooms, on inpatient wards, in crisis meetings, and at home during those “screaming silences” that carers know too well.

I shared:

  • The confusion I felt when I didn’t even realise I was a “carer”
  • The frustration of confidentiality barriers
  • The loneliness of not being listened to
  • The emotional exhaustion that comes from constantly firefighting crises

I then shared a poem to promote carers rights

But I also shared something equally important: growth, advocacy and solidarity.

I encouraged carers to:

  • Educate themselves about the condition they are supporting
  • Learn the difference between symptoms and personality
  • Understand triggers
  • Forgive themselves for mistakes
  • And most importantly, look after their own wellbeing

One message I always return to was – You cannot pour from an empty cup.

I also spoke about The Patient Carer Race Equality Framework

It exists because there is clear evidence of:

  • Disproportionate detentions under the Mental Health Act
  • Poorer outcomes for Black and minority ethnic patients
  • Higher levels of distrust between communities and services
  • Carers feeling unheard or excluded

I spoke about how minority carers can face:

  • Cultural misunderstandings
  • Language barriers
  • Stigma around mental health within communities
  • Fear of services due to past discrimination
  • A lack of culturally appropriate support

Discussion tables: Carers influencing change

After my talk, Clara from Involve led discussions feeding into Kent’s Health Needs Assessment for carers. Carers were asked:

  • How do you recognise when it’s time to ask for help?
  • What causes burnout?
  • What would a carer-friendly community look like?

These wete not token questions. Staff took notes (without identifying details) so carers’ lived experiences could directly inform local planning .

I moved around the room speaking with carers. Some were open and vocal. Others were quieter, but their listening was just as powerful. Not everyone wants to speak publicly and that’s okay. Being present is also participation too.


Power of Attorney – protecting your voice

Later in the morning, Glen Miles spoke about the Mental Capacity Act and Lasting Power of Attorney .

As carers, we often assume we will automatically be consulted in crises. The reality is different. Without legal authority, our ability to advocate can be limited.

One key takeaway:

  • Don’t delay in arranging Lasting Powers of Attorney.
  • If you want your voice – or your loved one’s voice – to be heard, formalise it.

For carers who have experienced being excluded from decisions, this was a particularly important session.


Citizens Advice & practical support

Ian from Citizens Advice spoke before lunch about benefits, debt, housing and confidential support .

With the cost of living crisis, carers are under immense financial pressure. Many reduce employment hours or leave work entirely. The session was a reminder that:

  • Advice is free
  • It is confidential
  • You can attend anonymously
  • You are not judged

Lunch followed – catered by Fusion – and honestly, some of the most meaningful conversations happen over sandwiches. Carers swapping stories. Sharing phone numbers. Recommending services. That peer-to-peer support is priceless.


What stayed with me

What stayed with me most wasn’t just the agenda or the presentations.

It was:

  • The older carer quietly nodding as I spoke about emotional exhaustion.
  • The new carer asking, “Is it normal to feel this angry sometimes?”
  • The male carers who stayed behind to speak to me privately.
  • The carers from minority backgrounds who spoke about cultural barriers and stigma.

These forums matter because carers matter.

Unpaid carers save the system billions. But beyond economics, we hold families together. We absorb crises. We advocate in rooms where we’re not always welcomed.

Involve Kent (Carers’ Support – West Kent)

Address:
30 Turkey Court, Turkey Mill, Ashford Road, Maidstone, Kent, ME14 5PP

Telephone: 03000 810 005
General email: hello@involvekent.org.uk
Carers support contact: communitynavigation@involvekent.org.uk
Website: http://www.involvekent.org.uk

Triangle of Care Community Meeting: December 2025 update

By Matthew McKenzie – TOC Community Chair

Our final Triangle of Care (ToC) Community Group meeting of the year brought together carers, professionals, and ToC members from across the UK to share updates, raise concerns, and discuss priorities for 2026 and beyond. Although Microsoft Teams provided some surprises, we made it work, thanks to teamwork and patience. The conversation was rich, heartfelt, and often very moving.

1. Opening & Agenda

As chair of the meeting, I acknowledged technical teething problems as the group used Teams for the first time in this format. Mary (ToC Programme Lead) welcomed attendees and explained the privacy-driven decision to hide email addresses, which also unfortunately hid attendees’ names. A fix will be implemented before the January meeting.

The agenda included:

  • Triangle of Care national updates (Mary)
  • Carer co-production and lived experience input (Matthew)
  • Surrey & Borders’ co-production example (postponed)
  • Research priority-setting presentation (Richard, University of Manchester)
  • Carer questions and discussion

2. Triangle of Care National Update (Mary)

Mary provided a comprehensive end-of-year update structured around ToC’s three priority areas for 2024–25.


2.1 Embedding the Relaunched Triangle of Care Framework

Growth & progress

  • 16 new members have joined the scheme since April, bringing ToC membership to over 80.
  • The first Welsh hospital achieved a ToC Star Award, prompting the creation of a new Welsh-language logo and Welsh materials.
  • A social care pilot is underway with Livewell South West, with West Hertfordshire Teaching Hospital reviewing ToC criteria for an acute setting.
  • Nine Star Awards have been achieved this year, with a further 12 annual reviews approved. Many more annual reports are pending review before year-end.

Standardising data
Mary emphasised the push for consistent reporting across Trusts, including:

  • numbers of carers identified
  • uptake of carer awareness training
  • numbers of carer champions

This will help build a national picture of impact.

Webinars
ToC’s Lunch & Learn series continues, with the recent Carers Rights Day webinar (in partnership with University of Bristol) focusing on the Nearest Relative role under the Mental Health Act (MHA). Resources are available via Carers Trust’s YouTube channel.


2.2 Young Carers: Identification & Support

A major update was the successful national policy win relating to young carers and the Mental Health Act.

Mental Health Act Reform – Safety Net for Young Carers

Following campaigning by Carers Trust, the Young Carers Alliance, and ToC members who wrote to MPs:

  • Government has agreed to update the MHA Code of Practice to require:
    • identification of children when an adult is detained
    • sharing of information about available support
    • referrals for young carer needs assessments
  • Updates to advance choice documents will require practitioners to ask about dependent children.
  • Expected implementation: Summer 2026.

This win was warmly welcomed by the group.


2.3 Racially Minoritised Carers & PCREF

Mary updated members on ToC’s work to ensure carers are fully represented in the Patient & Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF).

Key updates

  • A national Task & Finish Group has now completed its review of the first four ToC standards; the final standard is underway.
  • Piloting of new culturally sensitive criteria is planned with 10 NHS Trusts beginning April 2026.
  • Example of early good practice: Livewell South West is implementing a new “essential data template” that includes carers, enabling services to better identify and support racially minoritised carers.
  • Carers Trust is calling for a statutory duty for NHS mental health providers to implement PCREF in full, including community governance.

2.4 Changing the Narrative on Care – New Research

Mary introduced new research (supported by the Health Foundation and Oxfam GB) titled Changing the Narrative on Care, highlighting:

  • Although 80% of the public value unpaid care, this does not translate into policy action or investment.
  • Three recommended reframes:
    1. Care is a universal experience, not a niche issue.
    2. No care without support, make support visible and tangible.
    3. Care is a partnership between families, communities and systems—not something families must do alone.

The full report is available on Carers Trust’s website.


3. Carer Involvement, Co-Production & Lived Experience (Matthew McKenzie)

I then presented an in-depth reflection on the value of authentic carer involvement, drawing on his lived experience and his role working with multiple NHS organisations.

Key points included:

  • Carers are not passive observers, they hold critical lived knowledge that improves services.
  • Real co-production goes beyond consultation; carers must be equal partners in shaping policy, documentation, training, and strategic decisions.
  • Examples Matthew gave from his own involvement:
    • redesigning welcome packs and leaflets
    • addressing confidentiality misapplication
    • involvement in recruitment panels
    • delivering training to staff at induction
    • reviewing complaints and compliments themes
    • advising on discharge processes and family-inclusive safety protocols
    • participating in research steering groups
  • Carers’ insight is especially essential in safeguarding, quality boards, and identifying service gaps often invisible to professionals.

4. Surrey & Borders Co-Production Example

A planned presentation from Surrey & Borders was postponed, as the relevant colleague could not attend with materials. They hope to present at a future meeting.


5. Research Priority Setting in Secure & Forensic Mental Health (Richard Kears)

Richard introduced a national project with the James Lind Alliance (JLA) aiming to identify the top 10 research priorities for secure and forensic mental health services across England, Scotland and Wales.

Who is the survey for?

  • Carers
  • People with lived experience of secure/forensic services
  • Staff working in these services
  • Anyone indirectly connected (victims, families)

Purpose

To ensure future mental health research is led by the real concerns of those most affected, not only by academics or pharmaceutical interests.

Process

  1. National survey gathering research questions.
  2. Analysis to identify common themes.
  3. Second, more focused survey to refine priorities.
  4. National workshops with carers, staff and people with lived experience to finalise the top 10.

A QR code and flyer were shared for distribution. The group expressed strong support.


6. Attendee Discussion & Questions

This was the richest section of the meeting, with many heartfelt contributions. The themes below reflect the key concerns raised.

6.1 Scotland & UK-wide ToC Alignment

A carer asked why Scotland’s ToC framework is separate and not integrated into the UK ToC accreditation model.
Mary explained:

  • Scotland currently uses ToC only as a free policy framework.
  • Implementing the accreditation model in Scotland would require groundwork to assess willingness and ability of providers to fund membership.
  • Integration is being discussed but is not imminent.

6.2 Clarity on Co-Production

Several carers voiced concerns that:

  • “Co-production” is often used as a buzzword.
  • Some NHS Trusts label work as co-produced after completing it.
  • Carers need clarity on what ToC means when using the term.

Mary responded that ToC uses a ladder of engagement, distinguishing:

  • carer engagement
  • carer involvement
  • full co-production

Carers Trust is developing a formal principles-based statement on involvement for future meetings.


6.3 Older Carers: Visibility, Support & Inequalities

The majority of carer questions focused on the unmet needs of older adult carers, many of whom are supporting people with severe mental illness—not dementia—and often have been caring 20–40 years.

Attendees reported:

  • Feeling “invisible” within both policy and services.
  • Being incorrectly grouped under “older carers = dementia”.
  • Their own poor health affecting their caring ability.
  • Increasing struggle to get responses from professionals.
  • Serious concerns about who will care for their loved ones when they die.
  • Feeling less heard as they age, compared with younger carers or newer voices.

One carer (age 78) shared:

“I can’t retire from caring. Benefits stop at 65, but the caring doesn’t.”

Another said:

“We have to shout louder as older women to be heard—and still we aren’t.”

Mary acknowledged the seriousness of these issues and committed to:

  • bringing older carers’ concerns into ongoing ToC work
  • exploring dedicated guidance and better mainstreaming within the ToC standards
  • sharing good practice on carer contingency planning in upcoming meetings

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I also reiterated the group’s role in surfacing policy gaps and influencing future national lobbying.


6.4 Carer Registration & Meeting Access

Several carers raised issues with:

  • The length of the ToC sign-up form
  • Not receiving meeting links despite signing up
  • Verification barriers when joining Teams

Mary agreed to:

  • review and shorten the form
  • clarify which fields are optional
  • address email deliverability issues
  • adjust MS Teams settings to reduce joining friction while maintaining security

6.5 Concerns About Confidentiality Misuse

One carer reported that in a CQC meeting at an NHS Trust, raising questions about communication was dismissed as “confidentiality”, preventing meaningful dialogue.
I then encouraged carers to bring such examples into:

  • ToC Star peer reviews
  • Carer involvement forums
  • Local advocacy routes

He noted that misuse of confidentiality is a common and unacceptable barrier and must be challenged.


6.6 Petition on Antipsychotic Medication Research

Carers highlighted concerns about:

  • long-term prescribing of antipsychotics
  • lack of regular medication review
  • inadequate research into long-term effects

A carer shared a petition calling for investigation of psychiatric medications. Richard noted that he had signed and shared it previously.


7. Closing Remarks

Matthew thanked all attendees for their honesty, passion and persistence:

“Carers’ voices shape policies and improve care. That is exactly what this group is here to do.”

Mary acknowledged:

  • the importance of every concern raised
  • the need to better support older carers
  • improvements to ToC communications and meeting accessibility
  • that the next meeting will be in January (provisionally 19th)

The meeting closed with gratitude from carers who said they felt heard, supported, and connected.


November 2025 Carers News — New Release from A Caring Mind

Welcome to the latest edition of my unpaid carer newsletter for November
This month’s release is full of insights, stories and resources to support carers across the UK.

Read the full newsletter here:
🔗 November Edition of A Caring Mind News


🔥 5 Hot News Stories & Must-Reads in This Issue

1. Carers Rights Day 2025 — What You Need to Know

A clear rundown of carers’ legal rights, financial support, and where to get free advice this year.

Carers Rights Day 2025 – “Know Your Rights, Use Your Rights!” – Carers Trust

It’s Time to Talk Differently about Unpaid Care – Carers Trust

The cost of caring – the impact of caring across carers’ lives

University contributes to national initiative supporting young adult carers

2. New Research on the Mental Health of Unpaid Carers

A powerful new study highlights the emotional and physical toll of long-term caring, plus steps carers can take to protect their wellbeing.

Carers and empowerment in the UK: a critical reflection

Judgements about carer assessments for carers of people with dementia: case vignette study 

3. Tech Support for Carers: Free Tools You Can Use

This month we feature free digital tools and apps that help with scheduling, wellbeing tracking, and managing complex care tasks.

Using TEC to support unpaid or informal carers webinar – Derbyshire Carers

How Technology Helps Carers in 2025 – Apps, AI & Smart Tools Explained

4. The focus on Patient Carer Race Equality Framework

Ethnic and minority carer information and updates

Race equity in mental health: the systemic, legislative change we need

Hampshire & Isle of Wight Healthcare – “NHS Trust launches bold Anti-Racist Action Plan to tackle inequality and discrimination”

Hope, progress, and accountability: Tackling racial inequalities in mental health together – NHS England

An Afternoon with PCREF – Event

Making Time for Black Mental Health: A Black Male Carer’s Reflection

5. Inspirational Reads: Books & Resources That Lift the Spirit

From lived-experience stories to practical guides, we spotlight the best reads for empowering carers during the winter months.


Also in This Issue

  • My brand-new audiobook, The Poetry Book of Mental Health Caring, featuring poems written by unpaid carers across the UK
  • Upcoming events, workshops and support groups
  • Community stories and reflections

Read the full November edition here:
🔗 https://mailchi.mp/f8473b2dac00/carer-news-from-a-caring-mind-12848380


Carers Rights Day 2025 – “Know Your Rights, Use Your Rights”

By Matthew McKenzie – Volunteer of Carers UK

On this year’s Carers Rights Day 2025 (Thursday 20 November), the theme is “Know your rights, use your rights.”

If you care for someone, whether it’s a partner, parent, child or friend; you may be missing out on vital support simply because you didn’t realise you have rights as a carer.

In my new video I walk you through what those rights actually are, and how you can use them in practice.

In this video you’ll discover:

  • Why recognising yourself as a carer matters
  • Key rights every carer should know (from assessments to flexible working)
  • How to make use of those rights in your daily life
  • Where to go for help, guidance and support

Click the link, take two minutes, and empower yourself today.

The Digital Revolution in Unpaid Care: Empowering Carers Through Technology

From Matthew McKenzie carer activist

For Unpaid carers those who support loved ones living with long-term physical or mental health conditions, they face a unique set of challenges. The role is often demanding, emotionally taxing, and can feel isolating. Yet, in recent years, the rapid advancement of digital tools, apps, and online platforms has begun to transform the landscape of unpaid care, offering new avenues for support, organization, and connection.

My blog is a short transcript of my longer video below

Drawing from the lived experience as a passionate advocate for unpaid carers and an IT professional, my article and video explores how digitization, artificial intelligence, and mobile technology are reshaping the way informal carers manage their responsibilities. We’ll delve into the practical benefits, the most useful apps, and the limitations of technology in the caring role, providing a comprehensive guide for carers seeking to harness digital tools for their own well-being and the well-being of those they support.


Understanding the Role of Technology in Unpaid Care

The Growing Demands on Carers

Unpaid carers often juggle multiple responsibilities: managing medication schedules, tracking symptoms, coordinating appointments, and advocating for their loved ones with health professionals. The emotional and cognitive load can be overwhelming, especially when combined with work, family, and personal commitments.

As I points out, “As humans, we can only remember things so often. So, especially when we’re getting older or if we are under a lot of stress trying to juggle our caring role and busy lives, it does help to have apps that can schedule these things.”

The Promise of Digitization

Digitization offers carers a “second brain”, a way to offload tasks, reminders, and information, reducing stress and mental clutter. Mobile phones, now more powerful than ever, serve as hubs for health management, communication, and emotional support. But while technology can be transformative, it’s not without its challenges, including digital literacy, access, and the irreplaceable of value of human connection.

The Future of Care: Technology as an Empowering Force

The digital revolution is reshaping unpaid care, offering carers new ways to manage responsibilities, connect with others, and support their own well-being. While technology is not a replacement, it can be a powerful ally, reducing stress, improving organization, and fostering community.

As my experience shows, embracing digital tools can transform the caring journey. By leveraging apps for health management, communication, and emotional support, carers can reclaim control, reduce isolation, and find new sources of strength.

Ultimately, the goal is not to replace human kindness or connection, but to empower carers with the tools they need to thrive. With thoughtful adoption and ongoing support, technology can help unpaid carers navigate the challenges of their role and build a brighter, more connected future.

Resources and Recommendations my video covers

Essential Apps for Carers

  • Pill Reminder: Medication management and alerts
  • Medsafe: Medication tracking and scheduling
  • NHS App: Health records, care plans, and feedback (UK)
  • Google Calendar / Microsoft Outlook: Appointment and routine management
  • To-Do List / Trello: Task organization
  • Zoom / Microsoft Teams / Google Chat: Virtual support groups and communication
  • Siri / Google Assistant: Voice commands and reminders
  • AI Journals / Well-being Apps: Emotional support and mindfulness

Tips for Safe and Effective Use

  • Choose reputable apps with strong privacy policies
  • Keep software updated to ensure security
  • Seek training or support if you’re new to digital tools
  • Balance online and offline support for holistic well-being

Conclusion

Unpaid carers are the unsung heroes of our communities, providing vital support to those living with long-term ill health. The rise of digital tools and technology offers new hope, making the caring role more manageable, less isolating, and more connected.

By embracing digitization, carers can streamline their responsibilities, access emotional support, and build resilient communities. While challenges remain, the future of care is bright, powered by technology and the enduring spirit of human kindness.

Lewisham, Southwark & Lambeth carer forum update September 2025

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer activist and facilitator of the group

The group is a community of carers in Lambeth, Southwark and Lewisham that exists to provide support, advocacy, and connection for people looking after loved ones living with mental illness. It brings together unpaid carers of all ages and backgrounds to share experiences, learn from one another, and build confidence in dealing with health and social care professionals. A core part of its mission is reducing isolation by creating a safe space where carers can speak openly, develop skills, and access practical resources like advocacy services.

The meeting began with introductions and updates from various participants, including myselff where I discussed work with London Hospitals and the NHS app, while other carers introduced themselves to the group. In attendance was Tama from PohWer presented information about carer complaints and support services across different regions, including discussions about the potential impact of Healthwatch’s dissolution on patient and carer support services.

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Filming My Story as a Carer with Specsavers Carers Hub

Today I had the opportunity to be interviewed for the Specsavers Carers Hub, a platform that shares real stories, advice, and support for those who dedicate their lives to caring. It was a chance to reflect not only on my role as a carer but also on the deeper themes of healing, connection, and creativity that shape my journey.

Telling My Story

As someone with lived experience of caring for my mother and brothers, I know first-hand how demanding and emotional the role of an unpaid carer can be. I shared their story through my words and memories.

Speaking on camera about my caring role reminded me why visibility matters. Carers often go unseen, yet carer voices hold the power to inspire change, raise awareness, and remind others that they are not alone.

The Importance of Self-Healing

One of the most important parts of my journey has been recognising the need for self-care and self-healing. Carers often put the needs of others before their own, but to continue supporting loved ones, we must nurture our own wellbeing. Whether through reflection, community, or creative outlets, finding ways to heal is not selfish.

Connecting with Carers

During the interview, I spoke about the importance of connection. Meeting other carers, whether through groups, campaigns from Carers UK, or online spaces, brings a sense of solidarity. I wont say much about the interview, you will need to watch the video when it is released.

The Power of Poetry and Words

For me, poetry has always been a form of healing. Writing and performing allows me to give shape to emotions that are often hard to express. In the beginning of my caring journey, words were painful, but after a while words can be medicine they can validate, soothe, and inspire both writer and listener.

A Special Thanks to Specsavers

I couldn’t end without mentioning the role my Specsavers glasses played in my journey. Whether it’s writing late into the night, reading the works that inspire me, or standing up to perform poetry, my glasses have been an essential tool.

To check out previous carer stories, please viset the Specsavers Carers Hub below.

https://www.youtube.com/@SpecsaversCarersHub

Keep an eye out for the latest set of videos from Specsavers Carers hub

Interview with Elsie

Caring for a loved one is a role that often goes unseen and undervalued. In this interview, Matthew McKenzie speaks with Elsie, a 73-year-old carer and activist, about her journey as an unpaid carer, the challenges she’s faced, and her mission to support others walking the same path.

Standing Strong for Carers’ Rights

Elsie refuses to be silenced. Though at times labeled as a “persistent, unreasonable complainer,” she sees her persistence as a duty to her loved ones and to other carers. For her, raising concerns is about advocating for better care and systemic improvements.

Her advice to carers is simple but powerful:

  • Trust your instincts.
  • Don’t give up until your loved one gets the right care.
  • Learn about carers’ rights and stay engaged in decisions.

Finding Strength in Words

In a deeply moving moment, Elsie shared a poem she had written for the Book of Remembrance at Honor Oak Crematorium, in memory of her son. Her words reflect not only grief but also strength, love, and the motivation to keep advocating for change.

You’ll always be our hero.
Although you’re gone, we’re not apart.
Our love for you keeps going,
It stays deep within our hearts.

Football, food and fishing
Were what it was all about.
Blue is the color,
Come on, you lions, to shout.