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Triangle of Care Community Meeting: December 2025 update

By Matthew McKenzie – TOC Community Chair

Our final Triangle of Care (ToC) Community Group meeting of the year brought together carers, professionals, and ToC members from across the UK to share updates, raise concerns, and discuss priorities for 2026 and beyond. Although Microsoft Teams provided some surprises, we made it work, thanks to teamwork and patience. The conversation was rich, heartfelt, and often very moving.

1. Opening & Agenda

As chair of the meeting, I acknowledged technical teething problems as the group used Teams for the first time in this format. Mary (ToC Programme Lead) welcomed attendees and explained the privacy-driven decision to hide email addresses, which also unfortunately hid attendees’ names. A fix will be implemented before the January meeting.

The agenda included:

  • Triangle of Care national updates (Mary)
  • Carer co-production and lived experience input (Matthew)
  • Surrey & Borders’ co-production example (postponed)
  • Research priority-setting presentation (Richard, University of Manchester)
  • Carer questions and discussion

2. Triangle of Care National Update (Mary)

Mary provided a comprehensive end-of-year update structured around ToC’s three priority areas for 2024–25.


2.1 Embedding the Relaunched Triangle of Care Framework

Growth & progress

  • 16 new members have joined the scheme since April, bringing ToC membership to over 80.
  • The first Welsh hospital achieved a ToC Star Award, prompting the creation of a new Welsh-language logo and Welsh materials.
  • A social care pilot is underway with Livewell South West, with West Hertfordshire Teaching Hospital reviewing ToC criteria for an acute setting.
  • Nine Star Awards have been achieved this year, with a further 12 annual reviews approved. Many more annual reports are pending review before year-end.

Standardising data
Mary emphasised the push for consistent reporting across Trusts, including:

  • numbers of carers identified
  • uptake of carer awareness training
  • numbers of carer champions

This will help build a national picture of impact.

Webinars
ToC’s Lunch & Learn series continues, with the recent Carers Rights Day webinar (in partnership with University of Bristol) focusing on the Nearest Relative role under the Mental Health Act (MHA). Resources are available via Carers Trust’s YouTube channel.


2.2 Young Carers: Identification & Support

A major update was the successful national policy win relating to young carers and the Mental Health Act.

Mental Health Act Reform – Safety Net for Young Carers

Following campaigning by Carers Trust, the Young Carers Alliance, and ToC members who wrote to MPs:

  • Government has agreed to update the MHA Code of Practice to require:
    • identification of children when an adult is detained
    • sharing of information about available support
    • referrals for young carer needs assessments
  • Updates to advance choice documents will require practitioners to ask about dependent children.
  • Expected implementation: Summer 2026.

This win was warmly welcomed by the group.


2.3 Racially Minoritised Carers & PCREF

Mary updated members on ToC’s work to ensure carers are fully represented in the Patient & Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF).

Key updates

  • A national Task & Finish Group has now completed its review of the first four ToC standards; the final standard is underway.
  • Piloting of new culturally sensitive criteria is planned with 10 NHS Trusts beginning April 2026.
  • Example of early good practice: Livewell South West is implementing a new “essential data template” that includes carers, enabling services to better identify and support racially minoritised carers.
  • Carers Trust is calling for a statutory duty for NHS mental health providers to implement PCREF in full, including community governance.

2.4 Changing the Narrative on Care – New Research

Mary introduced new research (supported by the Health Foundation and Oxfam GB) titled Changing the Narrative on Care, highlighting:

  • Although 80% of the public value unpaid care, this does not translate into policy action or investment.
  • Three recommended reframes:
    1. Care is a universal experience, not a niche issue.
    2. No care without support, make support visible and tangible.
    3. Care is a partnership between families, communities and systems—not something families must do alone.

The full report is available on Carers Trust’s website.


3. Carer Involvement, Co-Production & Lived Experience (Matthew McKenzie)

I then presented an in-depth reflection on the value of authentic carer involvement, drawing on his lived experience and his role working with multiple NHS organisations.

Key points included:

  • Carers are not passive observers, they hold critical lived knowledge that improves services.
  • Real co-production goes beyond consultation; carers must be equal partners in shaping policy, documentation, training, and strategic decisions.
  • Examples Matthew gave from his own involvement:
    • redesigning welcome packs and leaflets
    • addressing confidentiality misapplication
    • involvement in recruitment panels
    • delivering training to staff at induction
    • reviewing complaints and compliments themes
    • advising on discharge processes and family-inclusive safety protocols
    • participating in research steering groups
  • Carers’ insight is especially essential in safeguarding, quality boards, and identifying service gaps often invisible to professionals.

4. Surrey & Borders Co-Production Example

A planned presentation from Surrey & Borders was postponed, as the relevant colleague could not attend with materials. They hope to present at a future meeting.


5. Research Priority Setting in Secure & Forensic Mental Health (Richard Kears)

Richard introduced a national project with the James Lind Alliance (JLA) aiming to identify the top 10 research priorities for secure and forensic mental health services across England, Scotland and Wales.

Who is the survey for?

  • Carers
  • People with lived experience of secure/forensic services
  • Staff working in these services
  • Anyone indirectly connected (victims, families)

Purpose

To ensure future mental health research is led by the real concerns of those most affected, not only by academics or pharmaceutical interests.

Process

  1. National survey gathering research questions.
  2. Analysis to identify common themes.
  3. Second, more focused survey to refine priorities.
  4. National workshops with carers, staff and people with lived experience to finalise the top 10.

A QR code and flyer were shared for distribution. The group expressed strong support.


6. Attendee Discussion & Questions

This was the richest section of the meeting, with many heartfelt contributions. The themes below reflect the key concerns raised.

6.1 Scotland & UK-wide ToC Alignment

A carer asked why Scotland’s ToC framework is separate and not integrated into the UK ToC accreditation model.
Mary explained:

  • Scotland currently uses ToC only as a free policy framework.
  • Implementing the accreditation model in Scotland would require groundwork to assess willingness and ability of providers to fund membership.
  • Integration is being discussed but is not imminent.

6.2 Clarity on Co-Production

Several carers voiced concerns that:

  • “Co-production” is often used as a buzzword.
  • Some NHS Trusts label work as co-produced after completing it.
  • Carers need clarity on what ToC means when using the term.

Mary responded that ToC uses a ladder of engagement, distinguishing:

  • carer engagement
  • carer involvement
  • full co-production

Carers Trust is developing a formal principles-based statement on involvement for future meetings.


6.3 Older Carers: Visibility, Support & Inequalities

The majority of carer questions focused on the unmet needs of older adult carers, many of whom are supporting people with severe mental illness—not dementia—and often have been caring 20–40 years.

Attendees reported:

  • Feeling “invisible” within both policy and services.
  • Being incorrectly grouped under “older carers = dementia”.
  • Their own poor health affecting their caring ability.
  • Increasing struggle to get responses from professionals.
  • Serious concerns about who will care for their loved ones when they die.
  • Feeling less heard as they age, compared with younger carers or newer voices.

One carer (age 78) shared:

“I can’t retire from caring. Benefits stop at 65, but the caring doesn’t.”

Another said:

“We have to shout louder as older women to be heard—and still we aren’t.”

Mary acknowledged the seriousness of these issues and committed to:

  • bringing older carers’ concerns into ongoing ToC work
  • exploring dedicated guidance and better mainstreaming within the ToC standards
  • sharing good practice on carer contingency planning in upcoming meetings

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I also reiterated the group’s role in surfacing policy gaps and influencing future national lobbying.


6.4 Carer Registration & Meeting Access

Several carers raised issues with:

  • The length of the ToC sign-up form
  • Not receiving meeting links despite signing up
  • Verification barriers when joining Teams

Mary agreed to:

  • review and shorten the form
  • clarify which fields are optional
  • address email deliverability issues
  • adjust MS Teams settings to reduce joining friction while maintaining security

6.5 Concerns About Confidentiality Misuse

One carer reported that in a CQC meeting at an NHS Trust, raising questions about communication was dismissed as “confidentiality”, preventing meaningful dialogue.
I then encouraged carers to bring such examples into:

  • ToC Star peer reviews
  • Carer involvement forums
  • Local advocacy routes

He noted that misuse of confidentiality is a common and unacceptable barrier and must be challenged.


6.6 Petition on Antipsychotic Medication Research

Carers highlighted concerns about:

  • long-term prescribing of antipsychotics
  • lack of regular medication review
  • inadequate research into long-term effects

A carer shared a petition calling for investigation of psychiatric medications. Richard noted that he had signed and shared it previously.


7. Closing Remarks

Matthew thanked all attendees for their honesty, passion and persistence:

“Carers’ voices shape policies and improve care. That is exactly what this group is here to do.”

Mary acknowledged:

  • the importance of every concern raised
  • the need to better support older carers
  • improvements to ToC communications and meeting accessibility
  • that the next meeting will be in January (provisionally 19th)

The meeting closed with gratitude from carers who said they felt heard, supported, and connected.


National Ethnic mental health Carer Forum : November Update 2025

Chaired by Matthew McKenzie, Lived-Experience Carer

The latest meeting of the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum brought together unpaid minority carers, community partners and four NHS mental Trusts (Avon & Whiltshire were kind enough to be included to update) to explore progress toward the Patient & Carer Race Equality Framework (PCREF), share challenges, and elevate lived-experience voices. As always, I ensured the space remained honest, fast-paced and rooted in what truly matters to ethnic minority carers: being heard, understood and included.

My latest blog for the November forum captures key highlights from each Trust, along with questions raised by attendees, reflecting the critical concerns and lived realities that continue to shape PCREF work across the country.


1. Avon & Wiltshire Mental Health Partnership Trust (AWP)

Focus: Triangle of Care, PCREF oversight, carer champion roles.

Avon & Wiltshire outlined how their PCREF programme is being driven through a clear governance structure, including a central Oversight Group and locality-based meetings. These layers ensure that learning from communities and staff filters upward and influences whole-trust priorities. Their collaboration with Nilaari (I think that is what their called), a long-standing community organisation supporting racially marginalised groups, has been key in grounding their PCREF work in authentic community voice.

A central pillar of their presentation was the strengthening of the Triangle of Care and carer-related PCREF oversight. They recognised that carer involvement cannot rely on goodwill or isolated champions; it requires structurally defined roles, written responsibilities, and consistent organisational expectations. The Trust is working on ensuring that every team and ward embeds a carer champion, whose purpose is not to “do everything for carers”, but to support cultural change within the workforce so that carers are recognised as equal partners.

They emphasised the importance of building staff capacity in cultural humility and safe conversations about race. AWP acknowledged that staff often feel unprepared to discuss ethnicity, discrimination or identity with carers. To address this, the Trust has created psychologically safe internal spaces, particularly for racially marginalised staff—to process experiences and explore how structural and interpersonal inequalities impact both staff wellbeing and patient care. This cultural environment is foundational to PCREF implementation because it shapes how confidently staff engage with diverse carers.

Key Points:

  • Carer champions must support, not replace, teams in working with carers.
  • Emphasis on psychological safety for racially marginalised staff and carers.
  • Encouraging honest conversations around race, trauma, and culture across staff teams.

Questions raised by attendees:

  1. How do you embed cultural awareness within staff teams, not just for carers?
    – Concern that staff dynamics and cultural differences must be addressed to create consistent culturally responsive care.
  2. How do staff and leaders hold ‘difficult conversations’ about race and safety?
    – Attendees wanted clarity on how psychological safety is practiced and how managers are supported.

🌟 2. Birmingham & Solihull Mental Health NHS FT

(Children & Young People’s Division – “Co-STARS” programme)

Birmingham & Solihull (CYP) presented one of the most detailed and emotionally grounded PCREF programmes, shaped heavily by lived-experience research with Black diaspora families. Their PCREF priorities, knowing our communities, transforming with communities, and delivering care that works reflect a commitment to embedding cultural responsiveness at every step. Their partnership with the University of Birmingham and Forward Thinking Birmingham has produced the Co-STARS project, a blend of lived-experience-led community work and staff training modules.

A major part of their PCREF advancement comes from working intensively with families to capture how racialised parents feel when using services. The Trust shared powerful testimonies from Black carers who described needing to “emotionally self-regulate” in meetings to avoid being labelled angry, unstable or cold. Parents also highlighted the emotional labour of protecting their children from stereotypes such as the “angry Black boy”, as well as fears of being adultified or dismissed. These insights have directly reshaped responses from clinical teams and informed the development of carers’ passports and safe spaces.

Birmingham & Solihull also emphasised building structures to ensure that their care pathways become culturally competent and adaptive. They are embedding PCREF champions across all clinical pathways, from eating disorders to psychosis and autism, ensuring diversity and inclusion principles shape every aspect of assessment, treatment and review. The Trust is also developing e-learning on culturally responsive practice, and expanding identity-specific support spaces (e.g., Black Carers Groups and new plans for Asian carers’ spaces). This multi-layered approach reflects a commitment to PCREF that is both structural and deeply relational.

Key Points:

  • Embedding culturally competent conversations within CYP teams.
  • Developing a Black Carers Group and safe spaces for racialised parent groups.
  • New e-learning on culturally responsive practice (from Co-STARS package).
  • Use of carer passports to ensure carers feel like equal partners.
  • Strong focus on how ethnic minority parents feel judged or misread by services (e.g., “angry Black woman,” “cold mother”) – themes drawn directly from carer focus groups.
  • Recognising adultification, stereotyping, and the emotional labour families perform.

Questions raised by attendees:

  1. What about older adult Black communities?
    – Carers questioned how older Black adults, shaped by decades of racism, would be included in PCREF work.
  2. Are you working with the police on cultural awareness?
    – Concerns around disproportionate use of Section 136 and stereotypes (e.g., assuming someone is “aggressive” because they speak loudly or gesture).
  3. How will parent–carer voices shape service pathways and outcomes across all diagnoses (e.g., autism, psychosis)?

3. Sussex Partnership NHS Foundation Trust

Sussex Partnership presented PCREF as a three-pillared programme: data, co-production & engagement, and workforce development. Their first priority is improving ethnicity and protected characteristics data, which they acknowledged has historically been inconsistent. Sussex is launching a behavioural-change campaign that involves interviewing service users from minority backgrounds about why they may decline to share ethnicity, alongside staff interviews to understand documentation issues. Their goal is a transparent baseline from which meaningful PCREF action can be driven.

The Trust also described significant investment in a new data infrastructure via Power BI dashboards. These tools will pull together real-time information on areas such as restraint, Section 132 rights, and involuntary detention by ethnicity. The Trust stressed that PCREF cannot function without high-quality data because inequalities must be clearly visible and accessible to teams at every level—from ward managers to executive boards. Their future ambition is to enable quicker identification of disparities and faster interventions that prevent harm.

Sussex’s strongest focus was on building genuine co-production through their Expert Delivery Group (EDG). Unlike past approaches where community partners were only consulted, the EDG is designed as a collaborative decision-making space. Sussex acknowledged up front that phase 1 of PCREF planning did not fully embody equal partnership, and committed to ensuring that phase 2 will be co-produced from the ground up. The EDG will define what co-production means, co-design PCREF implementation plans, and shape updates that reflect community priorities, trust recovery, and anti-racist aspirations.

Key Points:

  • A behavioural-change campaign to improve ethnicity data recording (currently 65% compliance).
  • Development of Power BI dashboards for rapid inequality analysis.
  • Defining anti-racist and cultural competency skills for staff, tied to new EDI training.
  • Creation of the Expert Delivery Group (EDG) as a collaborative community–trust space.

Questions raised by attendees:

  1. Is this “real” co-production or consultation?
    – Attendees challenged Sussex on whether the initial plan was created with the community or presented to them.
  2. How will service users and carers hold equal power within co-production?
  3. How will your anti-racism ambitions be demonstrated externally to communities?
    – Attendees expressed concerns that staff training alone does not reassure communities.
  4. How will carers’ needs be embedded in PCREF (Triangle of Care)?

🌟 4. Kent & Medway Mental Health NHS Trust

Presenter: Kamellia (with contribution from Harriet – Lived Experience)

Kent & Medway showcased a comprehensive and governance-driven PCREF structure supported by their Equity for All Assurance Group. The Trust has embedded health inequalities into its broader strategy and is working to ensure that PCREF, protected characteristics data and health equity are woven into everyday practice. With the Trust’s newly updated name and identity, PCREF sits at the centre of a renewed commitment to equitable access, outcomes and patient experience across Kent and Medway.

Their PCREF progress includes delivering cultural competence training to 259 senior leaders, a significant investment in shifting leadership behaviour and expectations. They have also identified major data disparities in areas such as complaints, where ethnicity recording is only around 30%. To address this, they are rolling out the About Me form across their clinical system (Rio), which streamlines demographic and protected characteristics documentation for both carers and patients. This step is being supported by staff training designed to build confidence in discussing sensitive identity-related topics.

Kent & Medway also highlighted the expansion of their new Involvement & Engagement Team, which links directly with communities across East, West and North Kent. They are testing a Health Inequalities Toolkit, improving carer experience data collection, and creating new Family, Friends & Carers forms that capture protected characteristics, communication needs, and whether a carers pack was offered. The Trust’s approach is detailed, structural and long-term, aiming to embed PCREF as part of “business as usual” rather than a separate initiative.

Key Points:

  • 259 senior leaders trained in cultural competence.
  • New About Me demographic/protected characteristics form launching trust-wide.
  • Major data gaps identified (e.g., only 30% ethnicity data for complaints).
  • New Involvement & Engagement Team connecting with community groups.
  • Testing the Health Inequalities Toolkit .
  • New Family, Friends & Carers Information Form including carer-pack tracking.

Questions raised by attendees:

  1. Do you provide information in languages other than English?
    – Carers stressed that if translations don’t exist, PCREF is inaccessible from the start.
  2. How will carers be supported to attend meetings given their unpredictable caring responsibilities?
  3. How will you gather demographic data for carers when many do not have Rio records?
  4. How will minority groups be reached in areas where the Trust’s population is overwhelmingly White British?

5. Carer Support Organisation (Kent & Medway Carers Support)

Presenter: Donna Green (involve Kent)

Key Points:

  • They run trust-wide carer experience groups and targeted workshops.
  • Emphasised difficulty for carers to attend meetings due to constant demands.
  • Highlighted the need for multiple approaches, including creative well-being sessions.

Closing Reflections from the Forum

I wrapped up the session acknowledging:

  • The strong desire across Trusts to improve PCREF delivery.
  • The pressure to progress quickly without losing sight of lived experience leadership.
  • The need to bring CQC into future meetings for transparency around expectations.
  • The importance of ethnic minority carers having a forum that values honesty over polished presentations.

Final Thoughts

This month’s forum demonstrated that while progress continues nationally, there remain shared challenges across NHS Mental HealthTrusts:

  • Recording ethnicity and protected characteristics meaningfully
  • Embedding anti-racism beyond training modules
  • Meeting the needs of Black, Asian and other racialised carers
  • Co-production that is real, not rhetorical
  • Involving carers whose time and emotional capacity are already stretched
  • Ensuring safety, trust and humanity in every interaction.

Above all, the session showed that ethnic minority carers are not passive observers they’re leading, questioning, shaping and insisting on accountability at every step.


Interview with Elsie

Caring for a loved one is a role that often goes unseen and undervalued. In this interview, Matthew McKenzie speaks with Elsie, a 73-year-old carer and activist, about her journey as an unpaid carer, the challenges she’s faced, and her mission to support others walking the same path.

Standing Strong for Carers’ Rights

Elsie refuses to be silenced. Though at times labeled as a “persistent, unreasonable complainer,” she sees her persistence as a duty to her loved ones and to other carers. For her, raising concerns is about advocating for better care and systemic improvements.

Her advice to carers is simple but powerful:

  • Trust your instincts.
  • Don’t give up until your loved one gets the right care.
  • Learn about carers’ rights and stay engaged in decisions.

Finding Strength in Words

In a deeply moving moment, Elsie shared a poem she had written for the Book of Remembrance at Honor Oak Crematorium, in memory of her son. Her words reflect not only grief but also strength, love, and the motivation to keep advocating for change.

You’ll always be our hero.
Although you’re gone, we’re not apart.
Our love for you keeps going,
It stays deep within our hearts.

Football, food and fishing
Were what it was all about.
Blue is the color,
Come on, you lions, to shout.

Cygnet National Carers Event – Carers Week 2025

By Matthew McKenzie, Carer Ambassador, Cygnet Health Care

On Friday 13th June 2025, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at Cygnet Health Care’s National Carers Event, hosted at Cygnet Churchill in Lambeth, London. The event brought together carers, staff, professionals, and advocates to reflect on the vital role of unpaid carers who step up daily out of love, resilience, and responsibility, often with little recognition.

Carers Week is always a powerful reminder that caring touches us all – and Cygnet’s event this year was especially moving and informative. It offered a platform for carers to share their lived experience, influence policy, and strengthen our collective voice.

Agenda Highlights

The day opened with a warm welcome from Laura Sheridan & Shane Mills, setting the tone for a day grounded in empathy and collaboration. We heard from a range of speakers including:

  • Susan Hartnell-Beavis, sharing practical tools for supporting carers.
  • Kate Mercer and Carly Ellicott, who both championed carer involvement in care planning and research.
  • John Bangs OBE, who brought a national perspective on carer rights and policy.
  • Dr Angela Misra, who tackled the health implications of caregiving.
  • Julian de Takats and Matthew McKenzie (myself), focusing on empowering carers’ voices.
  • We also had insights from Dr Henk Swanepoel & Sophie Borg, who presented on collaborative approaches with carers in mental health services.
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