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Equality: Today and Tomorrow — Reflections from the Mary Webster Lecture

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer activist (volunteer of Carers UK)

Last night I attended the Mary Webster Lecture at Apothecaries’ Hall in London, a special event marking Carers UK’s 60th anniversary. As someone who has cared for family members and now volunteers with Carers UK, it was moving to sit among other carers, professionals, and campaigners who have worked so hard for recognition and equality.

The event honoured Reverend Mary Webster, the founder of Carers UK, whose vision decades ago helped lay the foundations for unpaid carers’ rights. Today, as we still fight for equality and understanding, her legacy feels more important than ever.

Setting the Scene

Apothecaries’ Hall is a grand, historic space filled with portraits and a sense of tradition. But it also felt like the right place to discuss change how we can build a future where carers are respected and supported equally. The evening began with warm welcomes and reflections from Helen Walker, Chief Executive of Carers UK. She reminded us that while progress has been made, many unpaid carers still live in poverty, often earning less than the minimum wage for full-time dedication.

Then came the highlight of the evening a talk by The Right Reverend and Right Honourable Dame Sarah Mullally DBE, Bishop of London and recently named Archbishop of Canterbury Designate, in conversation with Baroness Jill Pitkeathley OBE, long-time carer champion and former Carers UK CEO.

Dignity in Caring

Bishop Sarah spoke with warmth and honesty about her journey from nursing to the Church. What struck me most was her story about washing her grandmother’s feet when she was a young nurse, which a simple act that carried deep dignity. She used that image to describe caring itself: often quiet, unseen, but filled with compassion and humanity.

Her message was clear that care is about dignity. Every person, regardless of ability, age, or background, has value. She reminded us that dependency isn’t weakness it’s part of being human. We all depend on others at different points in our lives.

As a Black male carer, that message really resonated. In many of our communities, caring happens quietly, often behind closed doors, without recognition or support. Bishop Sarah’s words reminded me that this invisible work deserves to be seen and respected not just by policy makers, but by society as a whole.

Lessons on Equality and Faith

Baroness Pitkeathley joined Bishop Sarah for a deep conversation about equality today and tomorrow. They reflected on how far carers’ rights have come and how far we still have to go. From health and financial struggles to workplace inequality, many of the same challenges from the 1990s remain today.

Bishop Sarah also spoke about the Church’s Reimagining Care Commission, which calls for a new “covenant of care” a moral agreement between government, communities, and families to share responsibility for those who need care. It’s not just about services, but about values: compassion, respect, and community.

Hearing that from someone soon to become the Archbishop of Canterbury gave me hope. It felt like a recognition that faith, ethics, and social justice must go hand in hand.

Voices from the Floor

The Q&A that followed was emotional and powerful. Carers from the audience spoke up about their struggles housing, mental health, disability, and the loneliness that caring can bring.

One carer shared the pain of fighting for proper housing for her disabled son; another spoke about the toll on her own health. Each voice reminded me that caring is more than statistics it’s real people doing extraordinary things every day, often without support.

My Reflection as a Black Carer Activist

As I looked around the room, I thought of the carers in Black and ethnic minority communities who face extra barriers language, stigma, or fear of not being understood. Too often, our voices are missing from the conversation. I decided to have a chat with Dame Sarah Mullally about my thoughts, still nights like this show that inclusion is possible, and necessary.

Equality for carers means also recognising our diversity on different cultures, faiths, and family structures and ensuring that every carer can access the help they need, without judgement or struggle.

I left the event feeling encouraged but also challenged. Encouraged by the leadership and compassion of women like Bishop Sarah and Baroness Pitkeathley, who continue to champion carers’ rights. Challenged, because the journey isn’t over and each of us, whatever our background, has a role to play.

A Call for Tomorrow

Sixty years after Mary Webster founded Carers UK, unpaid carers are still holding society together.

We save the country billions, yet too many of us live in hardship. As Bishop Sarah said, we must rethink how we value care not as a cost, but as a cornerstone of our humanity.

For me, as a carer activist, that means continuing to speak up, share stories, and bring carers from all communities together. Because equality today and tomorrow starts with being seen, heard, and valued.

Lewisham, Southwark & Lambeth carer forum update September 2025

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer activist and facilitator of the group

The group is a community of carers in Lambeth, Southwark and Lewisham that exists to provide support, advocacy, and connection for people looking after loved ones living with mental illness. It brings together unpaid carers of all ages and backgrounds to share experiences, learn from one another, and build confidence in dealing with health and social care professionals. A core part of its mission is reducing isolation by creating a safe space where carers can speak openly, develop skills, and access practical resources like advocacy services.

The meeting began with introductions and updates from various participants, including myselff where I discussed work with London Hospitals and the NHS app, while other carers introduced themselves to the group. In attendance was Tama from PohWer presented information about carer complaints and support services across different regions, including discussions about the potential impact of Healthwatch’s dissolution on patient and carer support services.

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Celebrating Unpaid Carers – A Night of Recognition

By Matthew McKenzie – Carer champion

On Friday 12th September 2025, I had the privilege of attending Abilities Development’s Awards Night: Celebrating Unpaid Carers at The Grange in London. The event was a moving and powerful reminder of the sacrifices, love, and resilience shown by unpaid carers across our communities.

The event was hosted by founder Dr Karen May, who spoke passionately about the vision to celebrate and support unpaid carers. The evening also included tributes from fellow carers sharing their lived experiences, moving reflections on the sacrifices and strength carers show daily, and recognition from community leaders.

As many of you know, unpaid carers often go unseen, their daily contributions hidden behind closed doors. Yet they carry the heavy responsibilities of looking after loved ones with compassion and strength, often without formal recognition. This event was different, it put carers at the centre, reminding us all that their efforts matter and deserve to be celebrated.

We were given a tour of the facilities available for unpaid carers and their loved ones to us.

One of the highlights of the evening was the presentation of awards and certificates to unpaid carers. Each recipient was honoured with a Certificate of Honour in Caregiving, recognising their unconditional love, tireless dedication, and the invaluable role they play in supporting their loved ones without financial reward or formal recognition.

The evening, attended by the Mayor of Brent and other distinguished guests, was filled with speeches that spoke to the heart of caregiving, its challenges, its emotional toll, but also its incredible strength. One message that stood out was that carers must not forget their own worth and wellbeing. As was beautifully said on the night: “You are important. Take moments for yourself so you can rejuvenate, be well, and stay healthy.”

I was truly honoured to receive a Certificate of Honour in Caregiving myself. This certificate recognised the unconditional love and tireless dedication of carers who, without pay or recognition, give their heart, time, and energy to provide comfort, dignity, and hope. Holding it in my hands was not just a personal moment of pride, but also a reminder of the countless carers whose work too often goes unnoticed

Events like these are not “just another event.” They are opportunities to create legacies and spaces where carers are not only seen but also valued, uplifted, and supported. They are about passing on the message to future generations that caring is not a burden, but a profound act of humanity.

As someone who has long campaigned for carers’ voices, I want to encourage others to support, promote, and attend events like this. Whether it’s through organisations like Abilities Development, local carer networks, or even small community groups, recognising unpaid carers is vital.

To every unpaid carer reading this: you are a quiet hero. Every sleepless night, every whispered prayer, every act of kindness you show it matters. You matter.

Carers can book to use The Grange by contacting Abilities Development directly. Whether it’s for a quiet space to reflect, joining a carers’ group, or making use of tailored support services, The Grange offers a safe environment built around compassion and community.

Email: admin@abilitiesdevelopment.com

Lewisham, Southwark & Lambeth Mental Health carer forum – July 2025 update

By Matthew McKenzie

LLS Carers Forum – July Update: Voices, Concerns & Community Strength

Welcome to the July update for the Lewisham, Lambeth, and Southwark Mental Health Carers Forum. This month’s meeting, chaired by Matthew McKenzie, provided space for powerful updates, critical reflections, and a sobering insight into national developments affecting carer support.

🔸 Growing the Carers Voice

Our forum continues to evolve, bringing together unpaid carers from across boroughs. It remains a space for empowerment, where carers can speak openly, challenge services, and influence support structures. Several attendees introduced themselves and reflected on their caring roles, often crossing borough boundaries and facing ongoing questions about their own place in the system.

🔸 Spotlight: Healthwatch Update

One of the major concerns raised was the planned abolition of Healthwatch England and its local branches, which is a development that has deeply unsettled many in our community.

Anna from Healthwatch Lambeth joined us (on her day off—thank you, Anne!) to explain what’s happening:

  • Healthwatch functions—listening to service users, signposting, and enter-and-view visits, which are set to be absorbed by local authorities and ICBs.
  • As a statutory body, Healthwatch cannot be dissolved without legislation, so operations continue for now.
  • Carers voiced serious concerns over the loss of Healthwatch’s independence and trust, especially as a safe channel for feedback.

Anne reminded us: Healthwatch is still active and listening. A final report on black men’s experiences in Lambeth mental health services is due by mid-August.

🔸 Key Questions Raised

  • How will services preserve independent feedback mechanisms once Healthwatch is gone?
  • What accountability structures will replace them?
  • What are the implications of the broader wave of health service body consolidations?

🔸 Updates from the Ground

We also heard from other carer members:

  • A carer from Lewisham shared feedback she submitted to the Lewisham Unpaid Carers Forum regarding carer engagement, with little response so far unfortunately highlighting an all-too-common issue.
  • Other Carers reflected on Lambeth’s carer engagement structures, noting some decline in carer-led decision-making over the years.
  • Another Carer emphasized the importance of real, consistent carer champions within NHS teams particularly in mental health crisis services.

🔸 Carers Forum Reflections

Matthew provided a helpful comparison between Lewisham and Lambeth carer engagement models. While Lewisham has a formal Unpaid Carers Forum, its independence is limited. Lambeth’s model leans more on the collaborative network and carer support groups. Both boroughs face challenges in consistency, clarity, and co-production.

A concern raised repeatedly: carer champions are often named but rarely visible and sometimes, not even known by their own teams.

📅 Next Forum: August 25 or 26

Due to the bank holiday, the next forum will likely be held on August 26. We’ll aim to have a guest speaker and will explore new ways for carers to hold services to account especially in light of the potential Healthwatch closure.

If you’d like to contribute to future discussions or attend the next forum, please reach out. This is your space.

📣 Let’s continue to speak up, stand together, and push for better mental health support for all carers.

Ethnic mental health Carer Forum Update July 2025


Author: Matthew McKenzie

Building Stronger Voices: A Powerful July Gathering of the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum

On Friday, July 25th, the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum held another online session, continuing our work in empowering diverse carers and influencing meaningful change across mental health services. With participation from community champions, NHS professionals, experienced unpaid minority carers. The discussion was on the Triangle of Care (ToC) and PCREF (Patient Carer Race Equality Framework) stakeholders.

This forum exists to elevate the voices of ethnically diverse carers, bringing their lived experiences to the forefront of service transformation. Whether it’s holding systems to account or shaping policy guidance, this space remains vital in creating inclusive, anti-racist care across the UK.

Highlights from July’s Forum

🔵 Debbie Hustings’ Presentation on Triangle of Care & PCREF Integration
Debbie, a long-standing Triangle of Care Programme Lead and carer herself, gave an in-depth presentation on reviewing the Triangle of Care through a PCREF (Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework) lens. Her talk provided an honest look at institutional challenges and offered solutions for embedding racial equity into carer support standards. A key takeaway was how crucial lived experience is in driving real policy change not just warm words. She emphasized the importance of re-examining existing standards through a racial equity lens, stating that “beyond warm words,” carers need frameworks that are operational, measurable, and locally adaptable.

🟣 Powerful Feedback from Carers
Contributors shared difficult yet necessary truths. Carers spoke about the lack of involvement in care planning, systemic racism, the need for meaningful co-production (not “faux-production”), and experiences of isolation when navigating majority environments. One carer reflected, “In 28 years of caring for my son, I have never been involved in his care planning.”

Several carers shared their painful, sometimes shocking, experiences navigating mental health services, especially in areas with limited diversity. One participant remarked, “Even after decades of caring, I’ve never been included in a care plan.” Others spoke of staff who misunderstood or dismissed cultural nuances, the misuse of confidentiality rules to exclude carers, and the silencing of Black and Asian voices. Concerns were also raised about immigration-related fears, lack of access for non-English speakers, and a troubling rise in racism in predominantly white areas. These reflections painted a vivid picture of systemic inequality but also made clear the power of collective advocacywhen carers come together, change begins.

These testimonies highlighted how far we still need to go.

🟡 Inclusive Language & Representation
There was a passionate discussion around terminology whether to use “global majority” or “ethnically and racially diverse.” While some feared backlash from certain communities, the group leaned toward inclusivity and accountability over appeasement. This sensitivity around language underlines the forum’s thoughtful and intersectional approach.

🟢 The Work Ahead
Debbie shared the next steps in developing Standard 2 of the Triangle of Care through the PCREF lens: staff training. The goal? Mandatory, culturally safe, anti-racist care awareness education co-produced with carers from diverse backgrounds. By April 2026, the guidance will be finalized, field-tested, and launched nationally.

A Forum of Global Carers, Local Action

This month’s session proved again that our forum is more than discussion as it’s a driving force for equity. Participants from Southampton, Lewisham, Pennine, Norfolk, Leicester, South West London, Kent & Medway and beyond all shared insights into their local efforts, including cultural awareness training, community storytelling projects, and carer-led involvement initiatives.

One key message? Change is possible when carers are part of the conversation—not as guests, but as co-leaders.

Want to Get Involved?

The forum is open to carers and professionals across the UK and beyond. We meet monthly online, and everyone is welcome to join, contribute, or simply listen.

For bookings or questions, contact me at info@caringmindblog.com
📱 Or download and scan the QR code in the flyer above

Together, minority mental health carers can shape a mental health system that sees, hears, and supports all carers—ethnically, culturally, and fully.

Next National MH carer forum in August 29th 10:30 am
Matthew McKenzie
Founder – Caring Mind Blog
Facilitator – National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum

Institutional Distrust Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services

Understanding the Hidden Struggles of Ethnic Minority Carers
Caring for a loved one with mental illness can come with challenges, but for many ethnic minority carers, the journey is made more challenging by cultural stigma, language barriers, and a deep-rooted mistrust of formal health systems.

These carers often carry immense responsibility behind closed doors, with little recognition or support. Despite their dedication, many avoid reaching out to mental health services—not because they don’t care, but because past experiences have taught them to be cautious, even fearful.

What Is Institutional Distrust and Why Does It Matter?
Institutional distrust refers to the lack of confidence in systems like healthcare, social care, or government services. For ethnic minority carers, this distrust is often grounded in real experiences of discrimination, cultural insensitivity, or the fear of losing control over a loved one’s care.

When services fail to understand or respect a carer’s background, the result is silence and isolation leaving carers to cope alone, without the help they may desperately need.

A Short Video Giving Voice to Unheard Stories
To shed light on this important issue, I’ve created a short video presentation:
“Institutional Distrust: Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services”


This video draws on the voices and lived experiences of unpaid carers, especially those from ethnic minority backgrounds. It explores the emotional weight they carry, the cultural barriers they navigate, and the urgent need for services to become more inclusive, respectful, and culturally aware.

Why Sharing These Stories Matters
If we truly want to support carers from all backgrounds, we must first listen and really listen to what they’re telling us. By naming institutional distrust and understanding its roots, we can begin to rebuild trust and create spaces where carers feel safe to seek help.

Please watch and share the video, and let’s continue the conversation about what real support looks like for ethnic minority carers in mental health.

Voices of Mental Health Carers: Poetry & Stories

The Power of Poetry and Storytelling in the Lives of Carers

Caring for a loved one with mental health challenges or chronic illness is a journey marked by both hardship and hope. Too often, the voices of carers those who provide unpaid, tireless support are overlooked in the broader conversation about health and wellbeing. Yet, as this moving gathering of carers and poets reveals, storytelling and poetry can be transformative tools for connection, healing, and advocacy. So it was an honour to host our first poetry event at Cygnet Churchill for the 13th of June during Carers Week 2025

This Blog explores the themes, experiences, and creative expressions shared by carers, drawing from a vibrant community event centered on poetry, storytelling, and the lived realities of those who care. Through their words, we gain insight into the emotional landscape of caring, the challenges faced, and the resilience that emerges when stories are shared.

To watch the performance, please view the video below.

Giving Carers a Voice: The Motivation Behind the Book

The host of the event was myself (Matthew McKenzie), as a prolific author and advocate, where I have dedicated my eighth book to amplifying the voices of mental health carers. For me, books are more than just a means of communication they are a way to reach people who might otherwise remain unheard.

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Carers Week 2025: Supporting Unpaid Mental Health Carers

Help raise awareness for unpaid mental health carers during Carers Week 2025. Learn how to support and recognize their vital, often unseen role in society. To watch the video of this blog, click the video below

Recognizing the Unseen: The Vital Role of Unpaid Carers in Mental Health

Every year, Carers Week serves as a powerful reminder of the millions of individuals who dedicate their lives to supporting loved ones with health challenges often without recognition, compensation, or adequate support.

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