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Understanding Care Guilt and Shame in Culturally Tight-Knit Communities

By Matthew McKenzie

Caring for someone with long-term mental illness is a profound act of love and responsibility, just as i cared for my mother, but it is also fraught with emotional complexities, especially within culturally tight-knit communities. The experience of unpaid carers, those who provide care without financial compensation, can be shaped by powerful cultural expectations, traditions, and social pressures. These factors often lead to hidden challenges such as guilt and shame, which can create barriers to seeking help and support.

This blog post which is a transcript of my video explores the intricate dynamics of care guilt and shame, drawing on my insights as facilitator of the National Ethnic Mental Health Care Forum.

While the focus often falls on ethnic minority carers, many of the themes discussed I feel are universal, affecting unpaid carers from all backgrounds. However By examining the cultural ideals, emotional burdens, and systemic challenges faced by carers, we can better understand how to support them and promote positive change in mental health care.

The Role of Culture in Shaping the Carer Experience

Family Duty and Community Honor

In many tight-knit communities, caring for a family member is seen as a moral duty and a source of honor. The expectation is clear: “We look after our own.” This deeply rooted tradition fosters strong family bonds and a sense of belonging. The carer’s role is often defined by values handed down through generations, reinforcing the idea that caring is not just a responsibility but an essential part of one’s identity.

However, these cultural ideals can also create significant challenges. The notion that the “perfect carer never complains or needs help” sets an unrealistic standard, making it difficult for carers to express their struggles or seek support. Weakness is discouraged, and the pressure to cope without showing strain is especially pronounced among men, who may feel compelled to “man up” and avoid displaying vulnerability.

Keeping Illness Within the Family

Another common theme is the tendency to keep issues of ill health, particularly mental illness, within the family or community. This approach is often seen as a way to protect the family’s reputation and maintain social cohesion. Religious and cultural beliefs may further reinforce the idea that problems should be addressed privately, sometimes through prayer or spiritual practices, rather than seeking external help.

While these traditions can provide comfort and a sense of solidarity, they can also lead to isolation and prevent carers from accessing the support they need. The fear of gossip, judgment, or being seen as failing in one’s duty can be overwhelming, especially when mental health is stigmatized or misunderstood within the community.

The Emotional Weight of Caring: Guilt and Shame

How Guilt Creeps In

Guilt is a pervasive emotion among carers, particularly when cultural norms dictate that they should be able to handle all challenges alone. The demands of caring often mean missing out on community events, family gatherings, or social obligations. Community leaders or members may notice these absences and interpret them as letting the community down, adding to the carer’s sense of guilt.

This guilt can manifest in several ways:

Resentment and Frustration: Carers may feel frustrated with themselves or the person they are caring for, leading to emotional strain and potential conflict.
Personal Guilt: The belief that needing a break or personal time is selfish can prevent carers from prioritizing their own well-being, even when burnout is imminent.
Fear of Judgment: In large families or communities, the expectation to manage alone can be overwhelming. Carers may worry about being judged or seen as failing in their role.

The Catch-22 of Self-Care

The need for personal time and self-care is undeniable, yet carers often feel trapped in a catch-22. Taking time for themselves is viewed as selfish, but neglecting their own needs can have detrimental effects on their mental and physical health. The pressure to uphold cultural ideals and avoid showing weakness makes it difficult to break this cycle.

In some communities, there may not even be a word for “carer”—it is simply assumed that family members will step in as needed. This lack of recognition further compounds the challenges, as carers struggle to articulate their needs or seek validation for their efforts.

The Impact of Shame and Stigma

Saving Face and Avoiding Help

Shame is closely linked to guilt, and both emotions can prevent carers from reaching out for help. The desire to “save face” is strong in many communities, where reputation and social standing are highly valued. Admitting to struggles or accepting support may be seen as a sign of weakness or failure, leading carers to reject offers of assistance from mental health services or outreach programs.

Internalized comments such as “this is your duty,” “you must put up a front,” or “we don’t put family in care” reinforce the belief that seeking help is unacceptable. The fear of gossip and misunderstanding is real, especially in communities where mental health is poorly understood or lacks a cultural vocabulary.

Religious and Cultural Barriers

Religious identity can also play a role in shaping attitudes toward mental health and caring. In some faith-based communities, there may be little space for open discussion about mental illness, and spiritual solutions may be favored over professional support. This can create additional barriers for carers, who may feel unsupported or misunderstood by both their community and the wider mental health system.

Systemic Challenges: Inequalities in Mental Health Care

The Patient Care Race Equality Framework (PCREF)

Recognizing the unique challenges faced by minority carers, NHS England has developed the Patient Care Race Equality Framework (PCREF). These set of policies aims to tackle inequalities in mental health care, particularly for ethnic minority groups. The framework emphasizes the importance of breaking down guilt and shame, promoting better outcomes for minority communities, and ensuring that carers’ voices are central to service design and decision-making.

However, systemic barriers persist. Minority carers may be reluctant to engage with mental health services due to fears of poor outcomes, discrimination, or further isolation. The double tragedy is that those who need support the most are often the least likely to receive it, as both community and systemic factors conspire to keep them from seeking help.

The Importance of Carers’ Voices

A key focus of the National Ethnic Mental Health Care Forum is to ensure that carers’ voices are heard and valued. Too often, the emphasis is placed solely on patients or those with lived experience, overlooking the vital role that families and carers play. Guilt and shame can stop carers from engaging with services, making it essential for mental health systems to recognize and address cultural barriers.

Breaking the Cycle: Towards Better Support and Outcomes

Engaging with Communities

To break the cycle of guilt and shame, it is crucial to engage directly with communities. This means attending religious and cultural gatherings, listening to minority carers and patients, and understanding the specific struggles they face. Education is key!! both for carers and for mental health professionals. Training staff to appreciate community values and avoid assumptions about disengaged carers can help foster trust and collaboration.

Creating Safe, Non-Judgmental Spaces

Safe spaces where carers feel invited and heard are essential. These settings should be non-judgmental and designed to encourage open dialogue. Just like my Ethnic carer forum. Co-production, where patients and carers are involved in designing and delivering services and can help ensure that support is tailored to the needs of diverse communities.

Promoting Positive Role Models

Just as I mentioned when I spoke at the North East London NHS PCREF event, I feel that Role models play a powerful role in challenging stigma and inspiring change. Mental health trusts and systems should promote positive examples of carers who have reached out for help and benefited from support. Sharing stories and experiences can help others see that seeking help is not a weakness, but a strength.

Self-Care as Strength

Promoting self-care as a strength, rather than a weakness, is vital. Carers need to recognize that it is okay to ask for help and take time for themselves. Engaging with community leaders and faith networks can help change attitudes and reduce stigma, using trusted voices to advocate for better understanding and support.

The Path Forward: Building Inclusive Mental Health Services

Co-Production and Service Design

Including carers in service design and decision-making is essential for building inclusive mental health services. By putting carers at the center of policy and practice, systems can better address the unique challenges they face and promote positive outcomes for all.

Education and Awareness

Ongoing education and awareness-raising are critical. Carers, communities, and professionals must work together to challenge stigma, promote understanding, and create environments where everyone feels supported.

The Power of Conversation

Ultimately, breaking the cycle of care guilt and shame requires open conversation and a willingness to learn from each other. By sharing experiences, listening to diverse voices, and fostering empathy, we can build stronger, more inclusive communities and mental health systems.

Conclusion

Care guilt and shame are complex, deeply rooted issues that affect unpaid carers across culturally tight-knit communities. The emotional weight of caring, compounded by cultural expectations and systemic barriers, can lead to isolation, burnout, and reluctance to seek help. Addressing these challenges requires a multifaceted approach engaging with communities, promoting positive role models, creating safe spaces, and ensuring carers’ voices are central to service design.

By working together to challenge stigma and promote understanding, we can support carers in their vital role and build mental health services that truly meet the needs of all. The journey is ongoing, but with awareness, education, and compassion, positive change is possible.

Caring for someone with mental illness? Check out our Ethnic carer forum. Dates shown below.

Lewisham, Southwark & Lambeth Mental Health carer forum – July 2025 update

By Matthew McKenzie

LLS Carers Forum – July Update: Voices, Concerns & Community Strength

Welcome to the July update for the Lewisham, Lambeth, and Southwark Mental Health Carers Forum. This month’s meeting, chaired by Matthew McKenzie, provided space for powerful updates, critical reflections, and a sobering insight into national developments affecting carer support.

🔸 Growing the Carers Voice

Our forum continues to evolve, bringing together unpaid carers from across boroughs. It remains a space for empowerment, where carers can speak openly, challenge services, and influence support structures. Several attendees introduced themselves and reflected on their caring roles, often crossing borough boundaries and facing ongoing questions about their own place in the system.

🔸 Spotlight: Healthwatch Update

One of the major concerns raised was the planned abolition of Healthwatch England and its local branches, which is a development that has deeply unsettled many in our community.

Anna from Healthwatch Lambeth joined us (on her day off—thank you, Anne!) to explain what’s happening:

Healthwatch functions—listening to service users, signposting, and enter-and-view visits, which are set to be absorbed by local authorities and ICBs.
As a statutory body, Healthwatch cannot be dissolved without legislation, so operations continue for now.
Carers voiced serious concerns over the loss of Healthwatch’s independence and trust, especially as a safe channel for feedback.

Anne reminded us: Healthwatch is still active and listening. A final report on black men’s experiences in Lambeth mental health services is due by mid-August.

🔸 Key Questions Raised

How will services preserve independent feedback mechanisms once Healthwatch is gone?
What accountability structures will replace them?
What are the implications of the broader wave of health service body consolidations?

🔸 Updates from the Ground

We also heard from other carer members:

A carer from Lewisham shared feedback she submitted to the Lewisham Unpaid Carers Forum regarding carer engagement, with little response so far unfortunately highlighting an all-too-common issue.
Other Carers reflected on Lambeth’s carer engagement structures, noting some decline in carer-led decision-making over the years.
Another Carer emphasized the importance of real, consistent carer champions within NHS teams particularly in mental health crisis services.

🔸 Carers Forum Reflections

Matthew provided a helpful comparison between Lewisham and Lambeth carer engagement models. While Lewisham has a formal Unpaid Carers Forum, its independence is limited. Lambeth’s model leans more on the collaborative network and carer support groups. Both boroughs face challenges in consistency, clarity, and co-production.

A concern raised repeatedly: carer champions are often named but rarely visible and sometimes, not even known by their own teams.

📅 Next Forum: August 25 or 26

Due to the bank holiday, the next forum will likely be held on August 26. We’ll aim to have a guest speaker and will explore new ways for carers to hold services to account especially in light of the potential Healthwatch closure.

If you’d like to contribute to future discussions or attend the next forum, please reach out. This is your space.

📣 Let’s continue to speak up, stand together, and push for better mental health support for all carers.

Hospital Carers Discharge Meeting Update July 2025

Posted: July 2025
By: Matthew McKenzie

In July 2025, we held another meeting of the London Hospital Discharge Carers Forum, which brings together carer centres, NHS professionals, and lived experienced unpaid carers to explore how we can better support unpaid carers through the complex hospital discharge journey.

With key developments shared, questions raised, and future opportunities on the table, I’m sharing this blog to ensure everyone is informed.

A Focus on Hospital Discharge but With Carers at the Centre

The forum continues to highlight how vital carer centres are in delivering effective, compassionate discharge support. But alongside that recognition comes rising expectations: better digital access, stronger links with acute hospital teams, more formal involvement in care planning, and even new digital tools to manage carer identity and input.

Our role is growing and so is the need for collective visibility and coordinated action.

Key Themes from July’s Discussion

1. NHS England Hospital Discharge Toolkit & Care Contingency Plan
As an involved carer, I delivered the NHS England update. The main message? The Care Contingency Plan (CCP) is becoming a key focus across the system. There are planning sessions due in September, and carer centres might be asked whether they can take on CCP delivery alongside existing carers assessments.

This triggered a crucial question: Will additional funding or contractual support be offered to carer centres taking on CCPs? because we can’t afford to quietly absorb additional workload without clarity on resources or expectations.

2. Digital Tools – NHS App & Carer Self-Identification
With the growing digitisation of NHS services, there are plans to enable carers to self-identify via a digital route. The Universal Care Plan (UCP) is being built into the NHS app, but there’s confusion about whether a separate “carer app” is being developed too.

We’ve asked NHS England for clarification: Will carers be expected to use one NHS app to manage both contingency plans and carer registration, or will multiple systems be introduced? The answer will have implications for how we support carers with digital skills and accessibility.

3. The Bigger Picture – NHS 10-Year Plan and Local Adaptation
We explored how the new 10-Year NHS Plan mentions carers primarily in the context of discharge, but offers little in terms of direct support or investment in carers themselves. Several carer centres raised concerns about being seen only as a means to improve discharge outcomes, rather than as partners in their own right.

That said, some centres are using the plan as an opportunity, working with local Integrated Care Boards (ICBs) to adapt and influence how the priorities are rolled out locally, including integration with neighbourhood health centres and walk-in clinics.

Peer Learning and Local Centre Updates

As always, our meeting included practical insights from carer centres embedded in local hospitals. Topics included:

Establishing hospital-based carer hubs and information desks.
Hosting monthly drop-ins for carers on specific wards (e.g. stroke and frailty).
Using ward rounds to identify and build relationships with staff willing to act as carer champions.
Overcoming challenges in gaining visibility, sustaining presence, or maintaining resource levels for in-hospital work.
Planning carers coffee mornings and pop-up stands to increase footfall and engagement.

For newer hospital-based carer workers, this space proved invaluable as a place to learn from colleagues, gather ideas, and avoid isolation.

Project Developments: What Centres Need to Know

Several borough-wide and London-wide initiatives are taking shape that could directly affect how carer centres operate in coming months:

A standard operating procedure for hospital discharge, currently being developed across South East London, is aiming to streamline how carers are engaged at discharge, with pilot sites starting this September.
In North Central London, work is underway on a web portal that makes it easier for hospital and emergency staff to refer carers into local support services including from the London Ambulance Service.
Carer Centres in several areas are starting or refreshing carer charters, carer passports, and surveys designed to codify carer involvement and measure experience across hospital pathways.
Carer support workers at one major South London hospital are re-establishing visibility post-staff transition. Efforts are underway to build new ward-level relationships and identify carer champions among staff. The centre is also exploring monthly carer drop-ins, asking the group for ideas on what works well and what doesn’t.
One East London carer centre has established a hospital-based hub on a specific ward floor, acting as a go-to space for carers needing support or information. They also run monthly drop-in sessions on elderly/frailty and stroke wards conditions where family involvement in discharge planning is often critical.

These projects are at different stages, but all point to one thing: carer centres are being asked to operate more visibly, more formally, and more digitally. It’s essential we shape this process and not just respond to it.

With NHS England’s CCP work moving fast and carer integration into digital systems ramping up, carer centres can no longer afford to remain on the sidelines.

We have a chance to be informed of policy changes early not after implementation.
Carer centres and hospitals can raise concerns about workload, training, and funding before it’s too late.
Newer or isolated workers benefit from collective knowledge-sharing and support.

This is not just another meeting, it’s one of the few cross-borough forums focused squarely on carer centres in the acute hospital context.

Looking Ahead: September Session

Our next meeting will be held usually the last week of September.

Let’s not let carers be an afterthought. Let’s make sure carer centres are seen, heard, and properly resourced.

Ethnic mental health Carer Forum Update July 2025

Author: Matthew McKenzie

Building Stronger Voices: A Powerful July Gathering of the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum

On Friday, July 25th, the National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum held another online session, continuing our work in empowering diverse carers and influencing meaningful change across mental health services. With participation from community champions, NHS professionals, experienced unpaid minority carers. The discussion was on the Triangle of Care (ToC) and PCREF (Patient Carer Race Equality Framework) stakeholders.

This forum exists to elevate the voices of ethnically diverse carers, bringing their lived experiences to the forefront of service transformation. Whether it’s holding systems to account or shaping policy guidance, this space remains vital in creating inclusive, anti-racist care across the UK.

Highlights from July’s Forum

🔵 Debbie Hustings’ Presentation on Triangle of Care & PCREF Integration
Debbie, a long-standing Triangle of Care Programme Lead and carer herself, gave an in-depth presentation on reviewing the Triangle of Care through a PCREF (Patient and Carer Race Equality Framework) lens. Her talk provided an honest look at institutional challenges and offered solutions for embedding racial equity into carer support standards. A key takeaway was how crucial lived experience is in driving real policy change not just warm words. She emphasized the importance of re-examining existing standards through a racial equity lens, stating that “beyond warm words,” carers need frameworks that are operational, measurable, and locally adaptable.

🟣 Powerful Feedback from Carers
Contributors shared difficult yet necessary truths. Carers spoke about the lack of involvement in care planning, systemic racism, the need for meaningful co-production (not “faux-production”), and experiences of isolation when navigating majority environments. One carer reflected, “In 28 years of caring for my son, I have never been involved in his care planning.”

Several carers shared their painful, sometimes shocking, experiences navigating mental health services, especially in areas with limited diversity. One participant remarked, “Even after decades of caring, I’ve never been included in a care plan.” Others spoke of staff who misunderstood or dismissed cultural nuances, the misuse of confidentiality rules to exclude carers, and the silencing of Black and Asian voices. Concerns were also raised about immigration-related fears, lack of access for non-English speakers, and a troubling rise in racism in predominantly white areas. These reflections painted a vivid picture of systemic inequality but also made clear the power of collective advocacywhen carers come together, change begins.

These testimonies highlighted how far we still need to go.

🟡 Inclusive Language & Representation
There was a passionate discussion around terminology whether to use “global majority” or “ethnically and racially diverse.” While some feared backlash from certain communities, the group leaned toward inclusivity and accountability over appeasement. This sensitivity around language underlines the forum’s thoughtful and intersectional approach.

🟢 The Work Ahead
Debbie shared the next steps in developing Standard 2 of the Triangle of Care through the PCREF lens: staff training. The goal? Mandatory, culturally safe, anti-racist care awareness education co-produced with carers from diverse backgrounds. By April 2026, the guidance will be finalized, field-tested, and launched nationally.

A Forum of Global Carers, Local Action

This month’s session proved again that our forum is more than discussion as it’s a driving force for equity. Participants from Southampton, Lewisham, Pennine, Norfolk, Leicester, South West London, Kent & Medway and beyond all shared insights into their local efforts, including cultural awareness training, community storytelling projects, and carer-led involvement initiatives.

One key message? Change is possible when carers are part of the conversation—not as guests, but as co-leaders.

Want to Get Involved?

The forum is open to carers and professionals across the UK and beyond. We meet monthly online, and everyone is welcome to join, contribute, or simply listen.

For bookings or questions, contact me at info@caringmindblog.com
📱 Or download and scan the QR code in the flyer above

Together, minority mental health carers can shape a mental health system that sees, hears, and supports all carers—ethnically, culturally, and fully.

Next National MH carer forum in August 29th 10:30 am
Matthew McKenzie
Founder – Caring Mind Blog
Facilitator – National Ethnic Mental Health Carer Forum

Triangle of Care Community Meeting: July 2025 update

On 21st of July 2025, carers, professionals, and stakeholders from across the UK gathered virtually for the latest Triangle of Care (ToC) Community Meeting. Chaired by Matthew McKenzie, this session was packed with insight, action points, and open dialogue. Whether you were new to the group or a long-time contributor, there was something valuable for everyone.

This meeting was particularly significant as it marked a turning point for carer participation. The formal recognition of the community group in ToC’s national governance structure. It affirmed that carer lived experience should not be sidelined, and that carers must continue to shape mental health services from the inside out.

If you weren’t able to attend, this blog will bring you up to speed. As the ToC community group covered a wide range of topics, from updates on national strategy and governance, to inclusive language, carer-led training, and advocacy for better research funding. At the heart of it all was a single message: when carers unite, systems must listen.

Official Recognition and Governance Progress

We are delighted to announce that the Triangle of Care Community Group is now formally integrated into the Triangle of Care governance structure. This gives the group a direct route to influence national decisions. The community will now sit alongside steering and regional groups in shaping policy, reviewing practices, and helping determine what carer inclusion should look like across all participating trusts.

What this means practically is improved alignment and visibility. For years, many carers and grassroots contributors have worked tirelessly behind the scenes, often without formal platforms. This change allows community voices to be heard before decisions are made not just consulted afterwards. Matthew described this shift as “a recognition of the years of unpaid care, leadership, and advocacy carers have always provided.”

It also means that our meetings will align with national timelines and decisions, ensuring a timely flow of updates between local groups, regional networks, and national forums. This is a pivotal opportunity to embed carers more meaningfully into NHS structures and accountability.

New Mailing List & Sign-Up System

Mary Patel from Carers Trust announced the launch of a new centralised mailing list for Triangle of Care community members. This will make sure everyone receives meeting invites, resources, and updates reliably. Participants will soon be asked to complete a Microsoft sign-up form, which will securely transfer contact details onto the Carers Trust system for ongoing communications.

The form will include a few demographic questions to help build a picture of the diversity within the ToC community. These questions are entirely optional but are designed to help Carers Trust identify who is engaging, and where gaps might exist—ensuring outreach strategies reflect real needs. For example, better regional balance, or increased visibility for underrepresented carer groups.

There was also discussion about moving from Zoom to Microsoft Teams for future meetings. Teams offers benefits like attendance tracking, secure file sharing, and easier scheduling. However, this won’t be a forced change, Matthew and Mary invited feedback, emphasising that any transition would be made collaboratively with community input.

Stronger Carer Involvement

Carer involvement was at the heart of the meeting. Matthew shared a passionate update on the need for carers particularly those from minority backgrounds or marginalised communities to step forward and engage in all aspects of the Triangle of Care. This includes involvement in peer reviews, shaping surveys, and suggesting new training or webinar content that reflects their lived experience.

The community was reminded that leading change doesn’t require a title or formal position. Sharing your story, participating in surveys, or simply raising your hand during a meeting is a form of leadership. Matthew emphasised that carers hold the kind of insight that no policy or textbook can replicate. As he put it, “This community is only as strong as the carers who show up.”

Peer reviewing was especially encouraged. Carers can play a vital role in reviewing mental health trust practices and making sure those trusts aren’t just ticking boxes but are genuinely improving the carer experience. Anyone interested in joining these review panels was invited to contact Mary Patel directly. The experience is meaningful and empowering and it places carers right where they should be: in positions of influence.

CQC Expectations and Carer Experiences

A powerful part of the meeting focused on the role of the Care Quality Commission (CQC) and how effectively it monitors carer inclusion in mental health services. Several carers and professionals shared their experiences some positive, others deeply concerning about how the CQC engages (or fails to engage) with carers during inspections.

A senior experience lead from an acute trust, explained that when CQC inspectors review services, they typically look for a clear carers policy, systems for identifying and supporting carers, and evidence of staff training. However, the level of scrutiny and the quality of carer-related feedback can vary significantly between inspections. The experience lead noted that while policy is important, it’s the systems around those policies that really matter, things like whether staff actually follow them, and whether carers know where to go for help.

Carers in the meeting shared contrasting experiences. A carer described a disappointing CQC visit where the inspector seemed dismissive, rushed, and uninformed about carers’ rights. Her feedback about lack of communication and exclusion was barely acknowledged, leaving her feeling invalidated. In contrast, Another carer spoke of a more recent inspection where the CQC officer seemed empathetic, asked thoughtful questions, and even disclosed their own possible caring experience. These differing accounts highlighted a common theme: carers’ confidence in the CQC is mixed, and their approach to carers can sometimes feel inconsistent.

There was strong consensus that CQC needs better training in carer engagement and not just understanding legal frameworks like the Care Act 2014, but also how to meaningfully include carers in service reviews. Kelvin added that cultural competence should also be part of the equation, noting that carers from minority backgrounds are too often left out of consultations. Matthew urged carers not to wait for trusts to invite them to speak during inspections ask to be involved, request to meet inspectors, and use carers’ councils or governors to raise visibility. It was clear from this session that carers want the CQC to be more than a compliance body, they want it to be a true advocate for accountability and equity in care.

Confidentiality Roadshow by Donna Bradford

A standout session was led by Donna Bradford, who presented her team’s work on the Confidentiality Roadshow a training programme developed by Lincolnshire Partnership NHS Foundation Trust. Designed to upskill staff on consent, confidentiality, and communication, the roadshow is tailored around carer inclusion and co-produced with the Carers Council.

The training helps staff understand not only what they can share legally, but also how to navigate nuanced emotional and ethical situations with carers. Donna reminded attendees that sharing basic, non-confidential information, such as medication side effects, is not only lawful but essential. “If you can Google it, you can say it,” she noted, driving home the importance of clarity over confusion.

Over 550 staff have already received the training, with 100% reporting that it improved their confidence. The programme includes real-life carer scenarios, emotional video testimonials, and interactive quizzes to help reinforce learning.

Beyond the training content itself, what makes the Confidentiality Roadshow so impactful is its co-production with carers. Donna highlighted that every scenario used in the sessions came from real-life examples shared by carers and families. This ensures the training isn’t theoretical so it’s grounded in lived experience. The emotional and practical realities of caring for someone with mental health needs are at the heart of the learning, helping staff understand why clear, compassionate communication is so essential. The training also underscores the importance of listening to carers, not just as bystanders but as active contributors to a person’s care journey.

Several attendees raised the idea of incorporating this training into broader staff induction and continuing professional development programmes. Others asked about adapting it for use in different trust settings, such as acute hospitals or community services. Donna encouraged trusts to reach out if they’d like to adopt or customise the resource. The message was clear: confidentiality shouldn’t be a barrier, it should be a bridge, and with the right training and tools, staff can navigate those conversations with confidence, legality, and humanity.

Mental Health Research Petition

Irene Harris spoke passionately about a new parliamentary petition calling for improved research funding into serious mental illnesses (SMIs) like psychosis. The petition aims to shine a spotlight on how outdated treatments and under-researched conditions continue to place carers and their loved ones in difficult, often heartbreaking positions.

Here is the video about Psychosis medication and its impact by the Stockport carers forum.

She shared how mental health medications for SMIs haven’t evolved as rapidly as physical health treatments, and how this results in long-term side effects and compromised quality of life. Research is desperately needed, not only to improve diagnosis and treatment, but also to create support structures that ease the burden on unpaid carers.

Irene asked attendees to sign and circulate the petition widely, with a goal of hitting 10,000 signatures by November 15th.

https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/725846

She also announced plans to launch new social media channels to raise awareness. This initiative is about more than funding it’s about giving carers and service users a louder voice in national healthcare priorities.

For more details feel free to visit https://www.mhcarersgroupstockport.co.uk

or contact Irene on irene@mhcarersgroupstockport.co.uk

Language, Inclusivity, PCREF & the ‘Global Majority’ Debate

Language and inclusivity were major themes of the meeting, particularly around the term “global majority.” Some attendees expressed concern that the phrase could be divisive or misinterpreted, particularly by politically sensitive audiences or media outlets. A carer shared a personal anecdote illustrating how words can carry unintended consequences.

Others responded by highlighting the intention behind the term to emphasise that those historically described as “minorities” are, in fact, the global majority in population terms. They called for continued use of the phrase in contexts that promote empowerment, equity, and lived experience.

The discussion didn’t produce a consensus, but it modelled what respectful disagreement and co-learning should look like. Matthew reinforced that ToC should be a space for constructive dialogue, not debate for its own sake. Ultimately, we are united in our aim to ensure no carer is left behind regardless of background, heritage, or identity.

Next Steps & Community Actions

The session wrapped up with a summary of action points and responsibilities. Carers Trust will soon circulate the new mailing list sign-up form. Matthew will share updated meeting dates for 2026 once confirmed, and he will continue to distribute posters for the upcoming National Ethnic Carers Group, taking place on the last Friday of each month.

There will be support the rollout of the Confidentiality Roadshow materials and follow up with those interested in joining peer review panels. A reminder was issued for everyone to contribute to current surveys, share their feedback, and suggest future topics for community meetings.

Finally, participants were encouraged to stay connected beyond the meetings. Whether through peer networks, local carers centres, or email updates, the message was clear: carers must stay visible, vocal, and valued. You are the change-makers, and this group is your platform.

Final Thoughts: “Carers Are Not Just a Cog in the Wheel”

Matthew ended the session with a rallying call to action: “We’re not just a cog in the wheel as we are the energy behind it.” His words served as a reminder that carers are not passive recipients of services. They are drivers of quality, advocates for change, and protectors of dignity in the mental health system.

He also reminded everyone that systems often change slowly, but they do change when people keep showing up, keep speaking up, and keep sharing their truths. “This isn’t just about the Triangle of Care,” he said. “It’s about reshaping the whole narrative around mental health and care.”

If you missed the meeting and would like to receive the slides, recordings, or further resources, feel free to contact Matthew McKenzie directly:
📧 mmckenzie@carers.org

Thanks to to all who attended, contributed, and championed carers’ voices. The next meeting should in September where we hope to see you there.

Institutional Distrust Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services

Understanding the Hidden Struggles of Ethnic Minority Carers
Caring for a loved one with mental illness can come with challenges, but for many ethnic minority carers, the journey is made more challenging by cultural stigma, language barriers, and a deep-rooted mistrust of formal health systems.

These carers often carry immense responsibility behind closed doors, with little recognition or support. Despite their dedication, many avoid reaching out to mental health services—not because they don’t care, but because past experiences have taught them to be cautious, even fearful.

What Is Institutional Distrust and Why Does It Matter?
Institutional distrust refers to the lack of confidence in systems like healthcare, social care, or government services. For ethnic minority carers, this distrust is often grounded in real experiences of discrimination, cultural insensitivity, or the fear of losing control over a loved one’s care.

When services fail to understand or respect a carer’s background, the result is silence and isolation leaving carers to cope alone, without the help they may desperately need.

A Short Video Giving Voice to Unheard Stories
To shed light on this important issue, I’ve created a short video presentation:
“Institutional Distrust: Why Many Ethnic Carers Avoid Formal Services”

This video draws on the voices and lived experiences of unpaid carers, especially those from ethnic minority backgrounds. It explores the emotional weight they carry, the cultural barriers they navigate, and the urgent need for services to become more inclusive, respectful, and culturally aware.

Why Sharing These Stories Matters
If we truly want to support carers from all backgrounds, we must first listen and really listen to what they’re telling us. By naming institutional distrust and understanding its roots, we can begin to rebuild trust and create spaces where carers feel safe to seek help.

Please watch and share the video, and let’s continue the conversation about what real support looks like for ethnic minority carers in mental health.

Lewisham, Southwark & Lambeth Mental Health carer forum – June 2025 update

About the Forum:
The Lewisham, Lambeth & Southwark Carers Forum is a collaborative online space that brings together unpaid carers, carer leads, mental health professionals, and support organizations to share experiences, raise concerns, and influence change. Focused primarily on mental health caregiving, the forum serves as a platform for peer support, policy updates, training insights, and service development. Led by carer advocate Matthew McKenzie, the group fosters empowerment through regular discussions, creative expression, and co-produced solutions, ensuring carers’ voices are heard across local systems and beyond.

Carers Week Collaboration Discussion

The meeting began with introductions from Matthew McKenzie, who leads a merged online carers group, and other participants including Yvonne, a carers navigator at Southwark Carers, and Margaret, a carer representative with the Royal College of Psychiatrists. The group discussed Carers Week activities and their various roles in supporting carers across different organizations. Karen Hooper, connected with the Lambeth Living Well Collaborative, while Lee Roach, the carers lead for South London & Maudsley in Lambeth, shared his involvement with the Trustwide Family and Carers Committee.

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Voices of Mental Health Carers: Poetry & Stories

The Power of Poetry and Storytelling in the Lives of Carers

Caring for a loved one with mental health challenges or chronic illness is a journey marked by both hardship and hope. Too often, the voices of carers those who provide unpaid, tireless support are overlooked in the broader conversation about health and wellbeing. Yet, as this moving gathering of carers and poets reveals, storytelling and poetry can be transformative tools for connection, healing, and advocacy. So it was an honour to host our first poetry event at Cygnet Churchill for the 13th of June during Carers Week 2025

This Blog explores the themes, experiences, and creative expressions shared by carers, drawing from a vibrant community event centered on poetry, storytelling, and the lived realities of those who care. Through their words, we gain insight into the emotional landscape of caring, the challenges faced, and the resilience that emerges when stories are shared.

To watch the performance, please view the video below.

Giving Carers a Voice: The Motivation Behind the Book

The host of the event was myself (Matthew McKenzie), as a prolific author and advocate, where I have dedicated my eighth book to amplifying the voices of mental health carers. For me, books are more than just a means of communication they are a way to reach people who might otherwise remain unheard.

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Cygnet National Carers Event – Carers Week 2025

By Matthew McKenzie, Carer Ambassador, Cygnet Health Care

On Friday 13th June 2025, I had the privilege of attending and speaking at Cygnet Health Care’s National Carers Event, hosted at Cygnet Churchill in Lambeth, London. The event brought together carers, staff, professionals, and advocates to reflect on the vital role of unpaid carers who step up daily out of love, resilience, and responsibility, often with little recognition.

Carers Week is always a powerful reminder that caring touches us all – and Cygnet’s event this year was especially moving and informative. It offered a platform for carers to share their lived experience, influence policy, and strengthen our collective voice.

Agenda Highlights

The day opened with a warm welcome from Laura Sheridan & Shane Mills, setting the tone for a day grounded in empathy and collaboration. We heard from a range of speakers including:

Susan Hartnell-Beavis, sharing practical tools for supporting carers.
Kate Mercer and Carly Ellicott, who both championed carer involvement in care planning and research.
John Bangs OBE, who brought a national perspective on carer rights and policy.
Dr Angela Misra, who tackled the health implications of caregiving.
Julian de Takats and Matthew McKenzie (myself), focusing on empowering carers’ voices.
We also had insights from Dr Henk Swanepoel & Sophie Borg, who presented on collaborative approaches with carers in mental health services.

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Carers Week 2025: Supporting Unpaid Mental Health Carers

Help raise awareness for unpaid mental health carers during Carers Week 2025. Learn how to support and recognize their vital, often unseen role in society. To watch the video of this blog, click the video below

Recognizing the Unseen: The Vital Role of Unpaid Carers in Mental Health

Every year, Carers Week serves as a powerful reminder of the millions of individuals who dedicate their lives to supporting loved ones with health challenges often without recognition, compensation, or adequate support.

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